From some of the questions they ask it's obvious that they're not even emotionally mature enough to be involved with boys. Some aren't even teens yet. I'm sorry but having a boyfriend shouldn't be the most important thing on a teenaged girls mind. If anything, you should be telling them to get a good education so they can figure this out for themselves.
2007-02-13 02:28:42 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Um, Dan D, you were doing fine until you got off on the gun lobbying tangent. So I guess I can say that you know where I'm coming from because I also hate having guns in the house...PERIOD!
2007-02-13 02:59:30 · update #1
I agree with you. What I try to do is to at least advise them against the poor choices they make in a relationship.They are young and inexperienced but hopefully with the right advice and directions they will get to learn from their mistakes and make better choices for the future. You have to understand, that alot of the people on this group are young themselves. I do know how frustrating it can be to see all of these young girls risk throwing a future away by involving themselves in relationships they are not mature enough of life's experiences to make good decisions. So I try my best to at least help them think and sort out problems they come across.
2007-02-13 02:38:56 · answer #1 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right, as long as you don’t try to close the doors for them completely. If you do, then they will try to find a boyfriend just because you are forbidding them and because they are curious, and things will end even worse.
You have to explain to them not only that they should concentrate on school, but also what is to be dating, the dangers of pregnancy and STD, how boys usually just want sex more than a “relation”, etc, etc.
This way it ensures they know the real world, and they can be prepared for it. And don’t tell me they are too young blah blah because that is the worse mistake. Today’s society has too many problems, you should know that as an adult, and you should know how dangerous is for a young girl (and also a young boy too) to go out there on the streets thinking that everything is white and pure. It is not, is dark and dirty, and they better know it to prevent a potential tragedy.
I compare it with weapons. If you own a gun in your house, and you have kids, you need to show them what a gun is, and how is used. Telling them that is something bad and not to ever touch it or go near it will only result on them trying to find it and play with it whenever you are not around.
You need to go to the range with your kid, and fire the weapon, let the kid know what a gun is in real life. Many places allow parents to take their kids in and help them use the gun as well (always follow all the safety rules). Watching a movie where guns are fired all the time is one thing, but letting them feel the real thing is another.
If you explain the dangers, and show them, they will understand, and you would have also satisfied their curiosity. They will know they should not touch it unless you are there with them. And they will be safe.
Just think about it.
2007-02-13 02:48:26 · answer #2 · answered by Dan D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tell them they should think less of boys and more about school and then say to just let things happen naturally.
2007-02-13 02:34:37 · answer #3 · answered by Tigerluvr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with that all the way teenage girls worry about boys more then school.
2007-02-13 02:31:56 · answer #4 · answered by Angel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I tell them that each time
2007-02-13 02:32:02 · answer #5 · answered by B2B2008 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wtf...
2007-02-13 02:31:38 · answer #6 · answered by whorey_floory 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋