basically i have a handful of friends and a medium sized family all of wich i cannot trust... so i tend to keep things building up inside my head... my past relationships have all failed due to me having no trust in them or the realationship... its ruining my life... please help me!!!!
2007-02-13 02:26:46 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Hi, I am not sure how old u are.. but sounds to me that u are old enough, and perhaps mature enough to make ur own decison. I would say.. follow ur head, and trust in ur heart when it comes to relationship. I am no expert but i've been through a few and I gained some useful knowledge through each one..and I can only hope the same is true for u as well.
Start standing up for urself more and take charge of ur own life, and I'm sure the rest will fall in place. All the best! ;)
2007-02-13 02:45:12 · answer #1 · answered by Ichigo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your friends you can fix. Find new ones (or keep the old, but make sure they are people that you feel confident about) and slowly build up the relationship. The closer you are to your friends, the more you can trust them.
As far as your family, everyone should be able to trust their own family. Start with telling them a small secret... nothing too personal or anything. Then wait a week and see how you feel. If you are confident that they are trustworthy (or a little more than you thought) then keep on adding bigger secrets. It just takes time. =)
Good luck!
2007-02-13 02:40:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This will sound like preaching but you can and should confide to God... I'm not trying to sell Christianity or anything, it's just nice to have someone who is non-judgmental and is always there for you.
You could drop me a message if you don't mind confiding in strangers... After all I won't betray your trust. I've nothing to gain from doing so.
Trust is not always easy. However if you want to build a strong relationship with family and friends, it is an important ingredient. It is also an essential ingredient in romantic relationships. I hope and pray for you that you will be able to let go of your fears and mistrust and be able to put your trust in others, and they will not fail you.
2007-02-13 02:33:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear you need to relax a bit and come out of this 'i can't trust nobody'. Try out few people with open mind. Never make a opinion of someone early. Let the other person come out and reveal himself/herself.Just relax there is nothing wrong with you or anyone. There are times when one feels that way and this time passes by. You are good and you need to believe on that. So once you know you are good others will automatically be good
Take care
2007-02-13 02:32:26 · answer #4 · answered by chetna n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's actually OKAY that you do not trust your friends and family.
Perhaps they talk about you behind your back (instead of including you when they talk about you).
Perhaps they have hurt your feelings in some way or another.
It's very hard to trust people (even friends or family).
Even friends and family can steal from you and talk crap about you, so I think it's totally ok to *not* trust them.
I think what you need to do is: Keep a diary either in a note-book or in your e-mail, and write all your feelings down. If you need to rant or vent, or if you need to say some really insane things, just write it all down in your diary. And keep this diary in a place where ONLY YOU know where it is and you can read it.
I think I would go insane if I didn't have a diary. I keep my diary in my e-mail. I write myself an e-mail of my rantings and then I send it to myself and then I put it in a folder in my e-mail. And I am the ONLY one who can read it.
My diary is my best friend. I can say whatever I want to say and rant all I want to and get it all out of my system.
Good Luck, hun. *hugs*
2007-02-13 02:34:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what u need is a diary, to keep ur thoughts and feelings in, that way you can TRUST it and still have a place to vent, i agree that ppl can not be trusted, and that they tell what THEY dont think matters, even if it matters to you. but remember to keep it in a place that they cant find it, cause boy would they like that,
and i dont agree that it comes from u, i think that when u trusted them and they broke that trust is when ur trust issues happened,
2007-02-13 02:31:37 · answer #6 · answered by Dawn C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to look at people and give them chances and you can't build this inside you it is not good try and tell someone you know who can understand it helps a lot.
2007-02-13 03:03:03 · answer #7 · answered by scottsmith20 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem. What i do is only partially confide in the ones i am closest with. I never tell any one person the whole story, but i tell the whole story. That way when they start talking about me they get so confused!!
2007-02-13 02:37:25 · answer #8 · answered by nokey4eva2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should see a professional. They can help you figure out where you're trust issues come from and help you learn to trust those around you.
2007-02-13 02:31:21 · answer #9 · answered by Trish 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The problem is that, you need to trust others first.
2007-02-13 02:30:18 · answer #10 · answered by Street Smart 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋