gay adoption?

Question

my daughter is looking for pro's and cons both religiously and politically for a discussion on gay adoption
can you guys say what you feel on this issue either for or against
we are just looking for some other views
many thanks xx

Answer 1

I used to work for a UK charity called the Fostering Network, and the arguments are similar in adoption to those in fostering.

There are over 20,000 children and young people in the UK alone that need a new place to be, a safe place to live, and the chance of a new future. They come from every kind of family, every culture, every colour, every social and economic strata. The need for foster carers and adopters covers all these social and cultural strata. Ultimately, whoever you are, whatever your sexuality, colour, culture, there are children to whom you could make a world of difference today.

More specifically on gay adoption:
1. The first concern when placing children is stability and potential for future growth. In this, long-term couples are viewed as equal whether they are heterosexual or homosexual (NB this is a general point, though in Scotland there is less legal equality). So the first argument in favour of gay adoption is that there are gay couples who want to adopt, and have the means to provide a good future. These couples are equally suitable for children as heterosexual couples.

2. Secondly, it is arguable that gay couples may well have dealt with some self-belief issues, given our society, and may know the strength it takes to define oneself and find self-acceptance and pride. These are valuable lessons for any child, and perhaps are not as necessarily prevalent in 'majority' couples, ie heterosexual couples, who have not had to declare their right to exist.

3. In the same connection, it is arguable that children who are up for adoption may well have had unfortunate aspects in their past. Above all, boundaries without judgement will be important in steering them to a brighter future. Again, having had to endure the judgement of a heterocentric society, it's arguable that gay couples will be less quick to judge than heterosexual parents, and might therefore be more suited to guiding potentially troubled children into a safe environment where they can grow securely.

(There are probably more, but I have to dash now!)

Answer 2

Hi. I agree that marriage is a sacred union between male and female only, within God's kingdom, and His laws. Civil law is a different matter all together. They rarely coincide with God's laws. Gay and Christian are mutually exclusive terms, as Jesus says if you love me you will keep my commandments, and if a person says they love Him and do not keep his commandments, they are a liar and the Truth is not in them. So if gays want a civil union, let 'em. There should be NO Church sanctioned gay marriage, though. As we are all very well aware, in America we have a thing called separation of Church and State. If civil law wants to allow the union of gays and lesbians, so what? It has nothing to do with faith or the Church...it has to do with a morally bankrupt world and a corrupt government. Our country has laws allowing all sorts of rubbish, so why should this be any different? How corrupt was Roman government during the time of Christ? He said to obey the laws of the land, and keep your eyes toward heaven. Jesus also said while we are in the world not to be OF the world. If we all did that, well, we wouldn't concern ourselves quite so much with things of this world... As far as gay adoption goes, well, I'm against it, but again, none of us can choose our parents, whether they are "good" [or not], whether they are Christian [or not], whether they are abusive [or not]. Heterosexual atheists can and do have children, and raise them with their humanistic belief system. We cannot decide who has children and who does not, just because we do not agree with them (at least not in America). When we are adults, we must choose how we will live our lives and whether or not to accept Christ, no matter how we were raised or who raised us.

Answer 3

I'm not religious or political, however, my gay friends successfully went through IVF treatment last year and have the most beautiful baby girl. One of my friends already has a child from a previous relationship who is now 13 and she has had no problems with having two mums. The children are loved and cared for as much as any and I think that's the most important thing.

Answer 4

Except in a few rare cases, this is a bad idea. Children, ideally, should have a mother and a father as role models.

When should gay couples be allowed to adopt....only when no other option is available or upon the written orders of the deceased parents of the child.

That said, the system currently in place makes it far too difficult and far too expense for many people who want to adopt to go through with it. The system needs to be streamlined and more couples need to be 'recruited' into it.

Answer 5

I am a little torn on this issue. I think that gays could be great parents but I feel a little concerned about bringing a child into a house that they dont choose to be a part of. It is a little unfair for them to have to live their lives explaining why they have two moms or dads.I know that growing up is hard enough on kids without having to be teased by other kids about their parents being gay. This is just some of the issues that I have with this.

Answer 6

I think that overall it is best to have both a male and female role model. There are several things in sociological development that it is important for. That means that I am in favor of preferentially adopting children to straight, stable families. But with the number of children needing a family I would much, much, much rather them go to a stable gay couple than to have them shipped to foster homes or centers or even a straight couple that is likely to divorce.

Answer 7

I see absolutely nothing wrong with it, why should an orphaned child be deprived the chance of a loving family? As for needing a mother and a father, many children grow up in single parent families and they turn out just fine!

Answer 8

anyperson wishing to adopt (hmmm a child or animal) should be allowed to providing they are of good character and have the means to support this individual whether they be gay, straight, middle class, lower class, upper class, ethnic, white, blue, pink, we were all created as equals and as long as the individual is loved and cared for why should we say no

Answer 9

Simple. Gays aren't pedophiles. A person is born gay, it's not a chosen lifestyle. Gays are not deviants, perverts, or in any way sub-human. They simply have a different sexual preference, their lives are just like yours and mine, only with some added discrimination.

I think gays have every right to adopt and raise children. I can't think of one reason why they wouldn't make absolutely fabulous parents. In fact, with the amount of bs that they have to endure in their lives, they are probably more understanding, nurturing, and tolerant than the rest of us. They should be allowed the same rights we all have. Gays are, after all, human.

Answer 10

Children should be brought up by a father and a mother and this what the bible teaches us. Homosexual practise is forbidden by God and i believe its wrong to for children to be put into that environment . I think its a disgrace that the British Government has put "minority rights" over morality and common sense.