A sincere question requiring a sincere answer please!!?

Question

Firstly hello and thank you for taking the time to look at my question. This is a sensitive matter to me and I only require sincere, sensible answers please.
I have been with my bf for 2 years now. I have a little one from my previous marriage. When we first started going out, our sex life was passionate but not in a 2 rabbits kind of way like you would have expected.
When we do have s*x its very much passionate and responsive and all you would expect s*x between 2 in love. The thing is it doesn't happen very often, I cant even say once a week at the moment. We' ae affectionate though, we hug and kiss lots, we snuggle up on the sofa holding hands, we fall asleep each night in one another arms and we flirt madly with one another!
I'm not the most forward of people but thats a different tale and I find making the first move difficult, when I do it doesn't seem to have much of an effect, he says he still fancies me and loves me and says I'm very sexy but is there something up?

Answer 1

Wow, you did * the sex word. Are you ay saint? just kiddn...come' on... but anyways, maybe noe maybe your libidos are different. If you want it tho your going to have to learn to make the first move. Because obviously he doesnt want it has often as you (which is very odd). So either talk to him about it, or learn how to beat the fear of making the 1st move. I mean its kind of ridiculous to still be shy after dating 2 yrs.

Answer 2

I think you should learn to be more assertive. You don't have to
go up to him and grab his crotch or anything. You can let him
know you want something other ways. Try wearing a sexy but
discreet nightgown to bed..(with little straps for your shoulders and showing your back as well as a little clevage) You could also
wear something a little sexier in the evening before turning in. How about getting a sitter and you 2 go out to dinner and a movie
Maybe you need some alone time. You could also leave little
signs of you being hot like maybe some sexy panties lying on
the floor. If all else fails talk to him and ask if all is okay. He isn't
going to tell you right away but you should be able to tell just by
his expression.

Answer 3

It's hard to say what is going on with him. Maybe he is one of the few men that don't feel they need sex ALL the time. Maybe he is hiding something. The only real way to find out is to talk to him. Even if you already have, explain to him again. Let him know that you very much enjoy all of the flirting, cuddling, and kissing, but you also enjoy the sex and desire more of it. Sometimes you may have to make the first move, and do new and different things to make it interesting. The biggest thing that needs to happen is communication though. Don't be afraid to express yourself, it is the only way things will get solved.

Answer 4

First of all try not to be disturb by what others might say here, some of them loves to joke around. Now with what's going on with you,I know it will be hard for you to talk about it because your a shy type kind a girl, nothing wrong with that,but if you are worried why the two of you hardly have s-x on a regular basis, do sit with him,ask him if his afraid to make a move because he don't want to force you. For 2 people who have everything now,affection, passion, and love for each others shouldn't be afraid on communicating.
Your boyfriend does not have anything up, you need to let go your insecurity, if he doesn't love you, he will not make an effort of staying with you. And throw away your shyness when it comes to s-x, talk to him, ask him to help you be more active in bed,and at the same time ask him to be more a little patience with you. You'll see that things will change, just talk......goodluck to you!! I know the two ofyou will make it this time...

Answer 5

You both are enjoying sex is n't it? You just said it doesn't happen very often. See you missed some important data. Your age, occupation etc. The stress in life make sex almost impossible. Especially with partners. check whether your friend is in such a state? then You may not be on when he really wants to have ? Just tell him that he can have you as and when he likes. Understand him make him on by colourful dresses that suits to your physique. Usually light colours like white mixed with pink, sky blue, lilac, yellow designs are very attractive. Try to wear sarry and see that your sexy parts are exposed to him. Meanwhile be careful regarding your kid? His / her presence may spoil the atmosphere. Why not you marry him? Any way prepare some good dish also for him when comes to you and ask him what type of a dress and fashion he expects you to be in? If these tips doesn't work you may take the help of a Psychologist (not a Psychiatrist) and explain the situation you are in? Good luck .........

Answer 6

No. You two seem perfectly happy the way things are. You say you both are affectionate and flirt a lot with one another. Nothing wrong with that. Honesty and communication are key. And you seem to have an honest committed relationship. Don't make the mistake of comparing your relationships to other relationships. That is a recipe for failure. Enjoy each other. Happy Valentines Day.

Answer 7

You need to talk to your BF and just say how you feel and let him know you are concerned and want to make sure everything is OK. If this has changed quit a bit since your relationship started then it is a little normal but if it is a drastic change then it's not so normal, so talk to him. I am sure the 2 of you can figure this out and get things back to the way it was. Or atleast figure out the problem if there is one.

Answer 8

Let's just say this, men don't change, they either stay the same, or get worse. So if he isn't doing it for you often enough, it'll either be that way for as long as you know him, or it'll get worse and hardly happen!

Believe me, I had a man like that. It used to be twice a week, to once a week, then once a month and one time I waited 8 months! Obviously we aren't together anymore. I found a man I've been with for 5 years, he's not perfect but he loves making love twice a week and we still are after 5 years!

Answer 9

Absolutely yes. If find that if I insist on something and then find out I am wrong, I have to admit this as it would not sit right with me. I am taking a wild guess and thinking that you are referring to the insistence of a creator and if so, I can say category that I know I am right on there being a creator and will stick with that answer - no matter what is thrown at me. And that is because I can prove I am right. Edit: My proof is when I look up at the sky or walk in the garden. In fact our Creator says: there is no excuse to doubt, because of the ample evidence around us. Just looking at a simple flower and the way you cannot force it open - will do so in its own time. We have 2 walnut trees in our garden and when we go to collect them, some still have their casing and it is just not possible to force them open to produce the nut and yet the next day - there it is open for me to extract that nut! Our world shouts out the glory of a Creator! Also when one studies prophecies from the bible, we can clearly see that we are living in that time. Talks of earthquakes and pestilences and famine in one place ofter another. Well you just have to read the daily news to know this is happening! One can put up many arguments, but that does not mean they are right - but a believer in God can argue and be right, because we are not arguing for ourselves, but for a higher being. The trouble is those who should be praising our Creator have told such lies, that it confuses everyone and gets people doubting the truth. So I guess now the ball is back in your court ....! Oh and I am guessing that you said: "whatever" next to my name is because you could not remember what I call myself? I hope it is that and not plain rudeness! Anyway, it is: lily of the valley which is what my name means:D

Answer 10

The best thing to do is to sit him down and talk about it.
An open relationship, for the most part, is a happpy one.
Just because you see thigs in one light doesnt means he doesnt have a tottaly different outlook on things then you do.
And if this the case, and even if its not the case, be honest and open with one another.
Im sure its going to be difficult to bring up. But 20 minutues of awkwardness to help out for months/years of satisfaction seems like a good trade off.
Just sit down with him and discuss whats on your mind.