my bf keeps gawking at other women when im with him. i talked to him about it and he still keeps doing it. hes been doing it for 2 1/2 yrs and im finally tired of it. its a big difference to look and see then to stare in lust. i cant take it anymore and its hurting our relationship and my inner peace. so what would you do stay or leave him. also i have trust issues cuz he has lied to me so much in the past. so for all i know he is still looking for something new. what do you think?
2007-02-13 02:14:18 · 8 answers · asked by eaglestraces123 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I hope you're prepared for this response, but I think you're dating someone in the 'loser category' and we've all been there and done that at some point in time. Heck, I could even say I've 'been on the front row at that concert and bought the T-shirt'. It's disrespectful for a guy to gawk and/or stare at another woman in your presence. Sure we all check out hot members of the opposite sex, but we don't do it in such a way as to embarrass the person we're with. You've already tried to discuss this with your boyfriend, so it's not like he's unaware of your feelings. He is just disregarding your feelings and may even be trying to push you away. I've dating guys that I thought were going to actually ask me to scoot over so he could get a better view of the chick seated at the table behind me that he was 'gawking at'. I've also dated losers that flirted with the waitress and/or paid more attention to the staff than to me. I'd leave the guy you're with now. Being alone gives one an opportunity to learn how to love and value themselves. Staying with someone like the guy you describe eventually starts to have a negative effect on your self esteem. So, value yourself and move on. I suggest you walk away w/o any drama or 'fanfare' b/c this will cause him more grief than if you continue to make an issue of his flirting or lying. He's not likely to change. You do want to feed his ego. Just tell him that you're moving on--simple as that--and then do it. Resist the temptation to call him....ever again. He can just admire you from a distance. And when he's checking you out when you run into him while he's on a date with someone else you'll realize how smart you were to leave. Dump him on valentines day and it may make you feel better. Good Luck & Be strong!!
2007-02-13 02:26:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clearly he has no respect for you. He lies to you and he openly looks at other women. It's taken two years to get tired of this?
If you have any self-respect, you would have left shortly after this behavior started and certainly after he started lying to you.
There is no trust; there is no respect; there is no reason to stick around.
2007-02-13 10:22:39 · answer #2 · answered by Dave B. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is all right to look at the menu just as long as he does not place an order. I am sure that you look at other guys too. He is only human and it is encoded into each of us to look. How did he find you without looking at you?
2007-02-13 10:42:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him leave him --time is to precious to waste-- before you know it 5 years will have past and the rut will only get deeper.
2007-02-13 10:20:01 · answer #4 · answered by NENA B KNOWING 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look how long it took you to realize this. Do you love him and does he love you if so I would stay, if not I would go.
2007-02-13 10:20:06 · answer #5 · answered by bette69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit his *** down and have a conversation with him..... he needs to know that you are worth something.. give him a month to chance, he doesn't leave him...
2007-02-13 10:19:11 · answer #6 · answered by yelenia0 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look me up, ill bang ya, er I mean date ya.
2007-02-13 10:17:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think you should go it wont get any better
2007-02-13 10:17:43 · answer #8 · answered by mountainchowpurple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋