My ex-boyfriend is like family to me and I didn't want to broke it off completely so I wanted to stay friends...which led to us being sexually involved. Anyway, we got into an argument, he told me that he plans on having a girlfriend this year, which made me sad and I told him it would be too hard for me to continue our relationship if that's what he plans to do, so we argued and he took me home. The next day he calls me and tells me that his brand new 2007 Camry was keyed and now he is blaming it on me. I would never do an evil thing like that to anybody, like I said he is like my family and I love him to death...I would never hurt him, he thinks I was mad and I did it on pupose. I told him I didn't do it, I bought a security camara 4 his house and I told him I would take a lie detector test, I was so upset, I wanted him to know that didn't do it, and I didn't know how. His neighbor told me that his car is not keyed, it only has a few little scratches. I'm very sad, he is bein unfair
2007-02-13 02:10:07 · 15 answers · asked by Sunset 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
could have been another girl friend just leave it alone unless he takes you to court
2007-02-13 02:14:47 · answer #1 · answered by mountainchowpurple 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the biggest mistake you could ever make is maintaining a Sexual Relationship with your ex-boyfriend. This lets him have all the power, because he can screw you with no strings attached. It sounds like you really need to STOP clinging to him and find a life without him in it. He sounds like a jerk.
He knows you love him, and he knows that you would do anything for him. He also knows that you DID NOT do this car-scratch thing. He is just blaming you because he wants to treat you mean, because he didn't like it when you said that you won't be his f*ck-buddy anymore if he finds a girlfriend.
Remember: He is a man, and he wants to have you, plus another woman (and maybe even more women) in his life(and in his bed). And when you told him if he gets a gf, you'll stop seeing him, it pissed him off!
Lose the jerk, and get yourself someone who will love you and respect you and be in a REAL relationship with you (not just a f*ck buddy).
Time to get a REAL MAN! This guy is no longer your friend.
Take off your rose coloured glasses, hunny!
2007-02-13 02:20:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it really what he is accusing you of-that you keyed his car or the nature of your relationship that is bothering you? Sometimes, things get 'messy' between people-especially when it becomes vindictive. Maybe you should consider a clean break. Don't be sexually involved with him anymore, let him move on so that you can let yourself move on. How can you start a new relationship when you're still involved with your ex-boyfriend. What new potential would accept this reality?
2007-02-13 02:19:53 · answer #3 · answered by BKYW 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ohhhh....geezz..I know you care about him, but HE IS NOT treating you with the same respect and love. Forget him, I know it is sooo hard to move on from ppl who you truley care about..TRUST ME..I have been there, and actually I am there right now, but you have to step out in faith..leave him alone for a while, and if he comes back see how he acts, if not....he was never a true friend in the first place...I often love ppl sooo much that I compromise my own feelings, don't do that, love yourself and if they don't treat you with the same love and respect, you better move on and find yourself someone else....and he is a baby about that car...he needs to get over that!
2007-02-13 02:17:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people have a hard time breaking off relationships without "burning their bridges." I think it has to do with needing to go through the pain only once. Unfortunately, this type of person can be very hurtful to the rest of us. Just remember that if he was really your friend, he would know that you couldn't do that to him. He needs the hard feelings to achieve personal closure.
2007-02-13 02:16:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't do anything more at this point, and I wouldn't call him or take his call for a few days. He needs to calm down and gain some perspective, and he can't do that if you are always around trying to defend yourself. You've said everything that needs to be said, so just let him cool off.
2007-02-13 02:19:20 · answer #6 · answered by Kristi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should just forget about him completely he has accused you of a lie and he probably do it again sexually involved should be completely resolved between the 2 of you you seem to be better than he deserves to have any time with once aliar always a liar
2007-02-13 02:19:52 · answer #7 · answered by harold g 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have gone out of your way to prove to him that you didn't do it. Any liar would have gone even further, Or said nothing at all.
Be sad that he would even think that you had something to do with it. Then get over it. You know the truth.
2007-02-13 02:15:44 · answer #8 · answered by summer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Until he finds out who done it he will blame u... if he is a true friend he will trust u and believe u didn't do it..... Do some research on his other friends and or ex girlfriends to see who else might would have done it?? If someone else was mad at him?? Good luck!!
2007-02-13 02:14:16 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think he would like you to have done it cause he wants to see how much feelings you have for him. you talked hones about your feelings for him, so you simply do not have to let them out on his car!
it is hard but try to talk calm to him so that he sees you do not have to defend yourself you just want to help him let his anger go!
good luck and a lot of love !!
2007-02-13 02:17:48 · answer #10 · answered by micca M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with him and have a nice trook with him and say what is in your heart to him take him hands to trook to him. Hope it works.
2007-02-13 02:23:14 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋