How should your bf treat you?

Question

I met my bf online. The first 7 days, we talked like crazy on mobile. He was always smsing, till wee hours in the morning, as he was out-stationed, and me in my own country.On the 8th day, we met, n felt so happy, as if we had been waiting for each other for a long long time. A week later, he started having the not-pick-up-the phone-syndrome, and not replying msg. he only sms when he wants to,and for 3 consecutive weekends, he went "missing" then claimed i was hounding him as i could not reach him.. i do not know where we stand, and i am afraid of losing this relationship. I dare not ask, as i did before, and risked losing both of us together when he got angry and said i behaved like his "possessive ex".. does he have a problem, and how do i find out, when i do not even know where he works, where he stays, and only know his name, age, and carplate number, as when i ask more, he says i am too inquisitive...i felt as if he was setting rules to the relationship the way he wants..advise me

He treats me passionately when we met, and when we do not, it was like i was a nuisance, over the phone at all -- he does not pick up, and does not reply to smses.. am i being abused? am i being disrespected? how should i resolve.. i thot i met the man of my life.... i feel in distress..

he told me he is single...

Answer 1

Honey! There is no Relationship no Boy friend. There's very little substance to this ever becoming a real relationship. Yes You have been disrespected, by yourself . If you think so little of yourself that you're quite content to have this Guy as your Life Partner then you are deceiving yourself. Lucky for you he doesn't want a relationship so he's solved your problem. It's more than possible he's in a relationship even has children. It's also possible he's been texting other gullible little Girls like you telling them the same things. Honey! I'm sorry but you know already thiis isn't working, that's the reason why you're hounding him and suspicious because you should be. Don't give up on being a Romantic, but be a lot more choosy on what you want in a Partner and take your time to get to know them in the flesh. Don't build dreams until you know him, they could be dashed and if you're not careful you could be swindled ,or physically hurt. Be careful. Forget this Guy he's done you a big favour. Take things slowly next time very slowly. Just meet for coffee, have a friendship, don't be thinking of wedding bells at first sight after just texting. Good Luck ciao

Answer 2

He obviously only wants you when it's convenient to him. If he really wanted an actual relationship with you, then he would be making more effort to let you in his life. Maybe to him you two really aren't together. Just make sure you clarify that. But it does sound like you're slightly obsessed with this guy, so do yourself a favor and find something else to do with your time to distract yourself from calling all the time. If you do that, then 1 of 2 things will happen, either he'll realize that he really does want a committed relationship w/you or you'll move on and realize there's someone else better out there.

Answer 3

How should your b/f treat you? You have already answered this to yourself if you look closely. All the things you have mentioned is exactly how he should NOT be treating you. If he can not share with you more than his name, age, and carplate...then he is someone who has something to hide...especially if he doesnt answer your calls and doesnt reply to your msgs. Ask yourself this: Do you really want to waste your feelings on someone that doesnt return yours? You say your afraid of loosing this r.ship...to that I say, there isnt one to begin with to lose. If you do not know where you stand now, you will never know. Dont waste your energy on a person that doesnt have the decency to treat you with any respect or plain courtious behaviour..its ridiculous...hold your head up and move on from this negative, unhealthy situation.. be mature enough to see it for what it is ...and this person is not your b/f...he is an immiture little prick that is mind *&$#ING you and putting you through something you dont need. ALl the best :)

Answer 4

Sounds to me like he's scared to be completely open with you or of being in the relationship with you. Just tell him to be honest and if he won't be then just make yourself stop talking to him. If he calls you afterwards then it's him that has lost control and you can control the flow of things.. Stand up for yourself and don't be too desperate. Anytime your compared to Ex's it's not a good thing... You want your relationship with someone to be unique and you don't want them to be thinking of their past relationships.. Thats where everything goes wrong in my opnion.

Good luck :)

Answer 5

Sweetie as much as it hurts...this guy is a piece of *%#@(. You have to move on. Here's a hint and my favorite quote.
If I guy is all up on you when you first meet, meaning he does all those things you mentioned in the beginning of your story, he's only after one thing...so take it very slow. Like the guy said a few answers before me...meet for coffee or something.

and for the quote...
"Trust your instincts to the end, though you can render no reason"
Ralph Waldo Emerson

Answer 6

I doubt he really likes you, people who use the internet to hook up generally just take a small vacation to bang you then leave your life.

Ive done that a few times, but only because I never really liked the girls personality all that much. But I did like her body hahah.

Answer 7

He's an on-line player and not the least bit interested in a relationship with you. Move on. Lesson learned.

Answer 8

I say forget him and find some one else for all you know he is probably cheating on you when you two are not talking and seeing each other.

Answer 9

I know this may be hard because it was hard for me but you should just wait for him to call you and tex you and if he dosent, that means he dosent want you but try talking to other people

Answer 10

He already has a girlfriend....You are something on the side....Re-read what you wrote here.....Do you really think I'm not telling the truth?