I know it's long, but please read
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AumgEznkU7IZ0IjEzwlgPq_sy6IX?qid=20070201133344AAkKatn
or my last question to understand what's going on...I know it's long, but please read to help me...
So I did it, I broke up with her, it was really hard. I picked a fight over a stupid thing, next thing you know we're arguing and I used that as an excuse and ended it. I am really crushed but I think I did the right thing...I still love her very much though. I couldn't bear to take her stuff out, she hasn't asked for anything back, but I had to turn all of our pictures faced down; I can't look at them.
This happened about a week ago, she's smart, and a few days later she figured out why I had really broken up with her. So we met up and she totally had me confessing, and confusing me.
She said that she didn't care about the degree or the job...but I do! That's her future...and I can't be the one to stop her from what she wants.
2007-02-13 01:41:02 · 11 answers · asked by Visine 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I really miss her, it's only been over a week, but I really miss her. She left me a message yesterday, saying she knows I want to get back together, and I do....and so does she...but I would be selfish to go back...would I?
I am really messed up, picked up smoking again...what do you think? It's really bad that Valentine's Day is coming up...makes me feel worse....I want her back...but I don't think it's the best thing...
What should I do...?
2007-02-13 01:42:52 · update #1
Please read the link above or you won't get what's really going on.....
2007-02-13 01:49:04 · update #2
i read your other question and i think she should go she will regret not going in years to came and might blame you can you not go to her when you have finished school ?. I'm so sorry your in this position its a tricky 1 for sure x
2007-02-13 01:50:05 · answer #1 · answered by andrea.barrett36 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe her when she says she dosen't care about the degree, she is willing to let the degree and job go for you, you should be happy and get back with her, they are all kinds of jobs here without going over seas. She will find another job and degree. Count your blessings that you two have a love that strong you may never find it again. Take her out for valentines day and apologize tell her why (which as you say she knows, so go for it)
Hope things work out for you
2007-02-13 01:57:17 · answer #2 · answered by sweetemtation_123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, firstly, I would like to applaude you on your seeming selflessness. I would recommend that you get back together because firstly, the last thing she needs right now if she's trying to get a degree is a shattered relationship. You don't have to cut off the relationship because she's trying to get a degree, just don't hinder her; furthermore, support her in her attempts. It's these kind of things that relationships are for: supporting each other. It's not all about sex, kissing, and gifts. If you feel that you cannot support her in her college struggles and/or you cannot control yourself, then yes, I would recommend that you keep the relationship to a minimum until she is done, but, from your story, it seems that your relationship is deeper than that. Therefore, I say go for it.
2007-02-13 01:49:09 · answer #3 · answered by Mehrunes Dagon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand the dilemma that you have. I think its wonderful that you are looking out for her best interests, but I think that you have to let her find out was it best for her. If you really love her you would talk things out with her, not just break up with her. Let her know how you feel and that you want her to better herself. You can't make the decision for her but you can influence it. Just because you had a long distance relation before and it didn't work out, doesn't mean you can base this relationship on that one. Even if you break up now or decide to see other people doesn't mean your love for each other is going to die. I think that that's a better decision than to end things with her without reason. So basically talk to her, tell her you love her and want her to better yourself. Don't just end things..cause true love always find a way.
2007-02-13 02:04:45 · answer #4 · answered by Oh So Lovely 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say, Try the long-distance thing, maybe modified. You tried it before, but not with her. Figure out what you think and tell her. Don't mind the distance, but can't live without sex? Tell her. Maybe you guys could just have provisional breakup for a few years, with changeable ground rules, or maybe you guys can have a light connection and see other people. Probably won't work, but you never know...If you have other concerns, tell her. Maybe you can think of things together.
Work it out. Fight over it. Whatever. If you are willing to sacrifice your hapiness for hers, you really love her, and it is unfair and dishonest to you and her to pretend like you don't. Maybe you want what's best for her, but also don't want the pressure of her having sacrificed her work life for you. Tell her, so that she knows that its not just her own future carrer she's sacrificing by not going, but the stability of your future together.
Lastly, you can't ultimately control what others do, nor can you take responsibility for their actions. She's grown. If she wants to stay she will. If she wants to go she will, anyway.
My thoughts are with you both. Best of luck!
2007-02-13 02:07:03 · answer #5 · answered by diana f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want her back and she wants you back then go back to her. Whatever it was that broke you two up seems as if she is willing to work out with you. So give it a try and end all this misery. Love can be worked out between two people who love each other and are willing to work things out. So come on, give her that call. And happy Valentines Day to you both!
2007-02-13 01:47:31 · answer #6 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What you need to do is get yourself together. If you believe your doing the right thing, and I think you are, then stop with the whining and buck up to your beliefs. Stand firm to your convictions. Do the right thing. Your looking to the future. She's looking to the right now. Who do you think is doing the right thing?
2007-02-13 01:48:28 · answer #7 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely give it a chance...it sounds like both of you are so in love. Hopefully your love will keep you 2 strong. Besides you don't want to spend the rest of your life wondering what would have been...do you?
2007-02-13 01:55:24 · answer #8 · answered by superstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go back with her if that's what you really want. That might even be your soul mate you never know talk to her that's a major thing that you would hate to lose.
2007-02-13 01:47:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2007-02-13 01:44:53 · answer #10 · answered by om 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋