Why are so many people so hateful towards daycare/childcare and those who must use it?

Question

One question...when attempting to cut down a tree, do you prune the branches or do you get an axe and chop it from it's base? Those with common sense, follow me. If people have such an issue about daycare, WHY aren't they out lobbying for changes in parental leave in their country (namely the US)? WHY aren't they out getting petitions signed and calling congressmen and women and writing letters? That's chopping at the base of the tree. No matter what, you will make a dent, and even if you don't fully succeed, it will be easier to fall later.

Of what good is criticizing the parents who must use daycare? That's just judgemental and silly. It's just tearing at the limbs of the tree. Some people have bills, some people are single parents, some people NEED the income to properly care for the child, so both parents MUST work.

I don't get how some people are so hateful towards someone elses choice in life when they are trying to do the best they can for their kids. How shameful.

Answer 1

I agree 100% with you. I own and run a daycare and ALL of my parents are low-income referrals from the state. It is heartwrenching to see a new mother bring her 6 week old son into my center and leave him with tears streaming down her face because she has no choice but to work. Many women in this country (US) are forced into the workplace, often way too soon after giving birth. It becomes a choice of putting the kids in daycare or not being able to feed them.

Answer 2

i know other countries are so different than ours. my kids all in school now. don't feel guilty i would say like over 50% use daycares or more. study out a good daycare i use to sub at 2 they are not so bad. back in the 60's and 70's both parents didn't have to work like they do now. your kids be fine in fact maybe better off. they see other kids and learn social skills . don't buy into people criticizing as your doing fine. when your with your child make it special thats good enough. don't worry about those people if not that they would pick at you some other way. just don't buy into it .

Answer 3

I agree with you. I am a single mom and had basically no choice.
My mom passed away when my daughter was 2 1/2 and I did not have her anymore to watch my daughter while I worked. My daughter went to a babysitter then to daycare three days a week. She did not have any problems and loved it. She matured, learned things, what is wrong with that!
Same people criticize single mothers and do not even know their situation. I just look at ignornance. Just because I am single mom does not mean I do not have morals and values! It doesn't mean because I put my child in daycare I should not have had her!
It is shameful-the people that make the most judgemental comments are the peopel that are the most miserable in teh world.

Answer 4

I agree with lonely vampire. I realize that some must use daycare and sitters like single parents. For 2 parents with 2 jobs I think the child would be better off if the parents worked two different shifts and raise that child themselves. My husband and I do two different shifts and it has worked out great, I have never had my children in daycare and have never had a sitter, I had these children and they are my responsibility to care for them. Single Moms have to have Daycare and I respect them, I think 2 parent families should make their children come first and not the money.

Answer 5

I think people get confused between people who HAVE to use daycare to be able to put food on the table and those who use daycare so they can work and get an extra BMW so the neighbors think they are cool. I HATE daycare worse than you can imagine, but I HAVE to use it. I agree with you that it is just stupid to criticize poeple who HAVE to use daycare, but I do feel that people who have children so other people can raise them when they in fact could be OK financially without one parent working are selfish. They want material things and warehouse out their kids to get them. If I didn't have to eat, I wouldn't put my kids in daycare. As for why they criticize... who knows... maybe to feel better about themselves in some perverted way.

Answer 6

These are the parents that see a mother as a specific model. You know the ones; You must breastfeed until your child is in preschool, spanking is a big no-no, etc. It's funny how these same people who talk down towards mothers who put their children in daycare are usually the ones talking down towards mothers on welfare.

Answer 7

I agree with you. I am not a single mother. In fact my boyfriend and I have full-time jobs and both of my kids (ages 2 and 6 months) go to daycare. It is expensive, I will admit, since I don't get any welfare. However, here is one point that none of these daycare-haters seem to understand. If we only have one source of income coming in we would have to rely on welfare to be able to put food on our table. Our families are either too far away or work full-time jobs so they are not able to take care of our kids for us.

We live in a small town in Texas where public transportation is non-existent. We had to buy a car because our old one kept breaking down. We have to pay rent, and utilities, buy double diapers and wipes since both of my kids are small, put food on the table. We also need to by them new clothes and shoes, as they are continually growing out of their old ones.

I have tried being a stay at home mom and our bills were not being paid, we were on welfare to be able to get food, and we were living from paycheck to paycheck. Now that we both work we are completely free of welfare in fact one of our paychecks alone pays for daycare and we still have at least $800 left over each month to afford diapers, wipes, food and all other necessities that come with raising two kids.

Believe me, I never planned to have my 2nd child so soon after the 1st, but now that it has happened, I will do whatever it takes for them to be able to have the necessities. OH and by the way, daycare only watches my children for me. We are the ones who raises them. We are the ones who give them the love that only a parent can give. We are the ones who are providing for them without help from anyone.

So those of you who think that I should stay home with my kids, you guys don't know what we go through. You don't put food on my table, you don't pay my bills, and you are not raising my kids for me so your opinion is worthless. If you are able to raise your kids without using daycare then good for you. I on the other hand am making it without your help or the governments help.

Answer 8

I wish I didn't have to use daycare. I'd much rather be a SAHM, and even though we're working for that goal, it's still going to be a while before I can quit working.

People have kids because they want a family. If everyone waited until they were financially secure, we'd die out.

You make some very good points.

Answer 9

I agree, I get so tired of hearing that putting your child in daycare is horrible and you are neglecting your kids and if you aren't going to stay at home and raise them, then you never should have had kids in the first place. I am a single mother and have to work in order to put food in my childs mouth and clothes on his back.
If I were to stay at home and live off the government I would hear the same judgmental crap from other parents. Do I wish that I could stay home with my son, yes, but is it possible no.
I'm not paying some stranger to raise my child. I am raising my child, but I do pay someone that I trust to keep my child in her home during the day whilst I work. She is not raising my son. I am the one making parenting decisions and shaping my son's character, not her.

this of course is my opinion and I am entitled to it, as it everyone else, however no one is entitled to judge me or the way I raise my son, other than God himself.

Answer 10

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