Do you think that the age of 18 is too young to have a baby?

Question

My brother is talking about having a baby at the age of 18 (next month) and he is continually asking me for my advice. I'm not really sure what to tell him so I'm asking you guys. He's actually quite mature, finanacially he's okay, and he's been with his girl for almost 3 years. But is he too young?

Answer 1

"Financially he's okay"?

At 18, "okay" isn't good enough. If he were only financially okay at 30, with a college degree and an established career, I'd say fine. But at 18, he still has plenty of time to put himself in much better shape financially.

Most peoples' entire worlds open up when they go to college (especially if they go away for it). In the extremely unlikely event that the gal he chose at the ripe old age of FIFTEEN is the one he's supposed to spend the rest of his life with, they can have that baby once he's got a degree and a good (not okay) job. But I suspect he would mature and come to see things differently.

This is the time for him to find out exactly who he is. He won't be able to do that if he's saddled with a S.O. and a small child he must support.

It would be a mistake.

Good luck to you both!

Answer 2

Hell yeah!!!! Tell him to seek professional help because a baby is too much responsibility for an 18 year old. He might be okay financially now, but when that baby rolls around, he'll be wondering where all his money went. Tell him to get married to this girl first instead of doing it backwards. If he was actually quite mature, he'd know the best course of action would be to do things right. Let him know that it's hard out here with kids and I've been raising mine for five years. I was 19, but I was still too young. I would've been having my fun, but instead I had a baby. It is NOT a game, so let him know...he can wait three more years with home-girl....I hope he listens.

Answer 3

Until you have one, you have no idea how much it changes your life, it needs 24/7 care and it doesn't give a darn if you have to sleep or get up or poopy diapers make you ill. Your brothers girlfriend will have the baby and by doing so puts herself in category of 42% of single mothers who will live below the poverty line, since, as a rule 18 year olds don't make much money. People change so much between late teens and early adulthood that the one who was perfect for you at 18 isn't such a good fit at 20. You can always wait and have a baby but once that baby is here you will always have a child.

Answer 4

Yes. 18 is simply too younger to have a youngster. Accidents do occur despite all of the protecting measures available in the market. But you should not be making plans and looking to have a youngster at 18. You nonetheless have a few developing as much as do. Wait till your completed your entire education and feature a consistent complete-time activity. There are such a lot of matters that you'll do and revel in now. Having a youngster will make matters plenty extra tricky.

Answer 5

I was 18 and married when I had my first child. It was really hard to deal with at the time. We were doing ok finacially and all. But, there was no more social life. My husband had to work all the time so he could take care of us and all our needs. So, it was usually always just me and my daughter. I had planned on going and taking college classes but there was no babysitters. I had to quit my job because I had no one to take care of her while I worked. Daycare is way too expensive. Don't get me wrong, I love my daughter and could not have asked for a better child, but I do wish I would have waited a few more years so I would have been more capable of having a child. So, in my opinion, He should definitly wait a few more years.

Answer 6

18 is young...a baby is a FULL time commitment. No days off, no time to play, no hanging out with the boys. The baby is priority #1. Tell him to get a dog....care for it and then multiply that by 1000 to see how difficult it is to have an infant in the house. He is still a baby himself. Tell him to grow up a little more before he has this kind of responsibility thrust upon him

Answer 7

i guess depends on the individual.
if your brother is mature enough the only problem i can see with having babies at 18 is that it might get in the of education and therefore reaching full "job potential".
you have to remind though exactly all the things he will have to give up, and if he is to be a proper father all the sacrfices he will have to make.
in a few years when i'm 18, i'm not sure i would want that kind of responbility..i mean its tough enough adjusting to taking care of yourself when your parents have looked after you all your life..but to provide for someone else too? no way

Answer 8

The answer you r seeking actually depends....it depends on the person...

For some it may be too early, but for others its alrite....

My buddy had his first baby when he was 17...i must say, i have never seen a better dad than him....he is 26 now, a successful businessman, a good husband and most of all a lovable father of 2....ofcourse everyone has their own weaknesses, like his only weakness is tht he cant stop smoking weed before he sleep, other than tht, he is perfect....

If your brother thinks he is ready and financially secured, so whts the down side here? i guess the sooner the better....wht you rekon? i m 26 now, i shld have 2 kids by now....

Answer 9

Since a baby changes everything I don't think anyone is ever really ready for the reality. I think he should get married first and then wait 3 years to mature in and out of marriage.

Answer 10

BABIES, why on earth would a boy who is 18 years old want to strap himself down already? Unless he looks like quasimoto, I would strongly suggest against a child of 18 having a child.

MONEY, the cost of having a baby goes up every year, I would suggest that he makes at least 15 dollars an hour, have at least 15,000 dollars saved, and purchase a home before any talk about babies.

REALITY, Chances are that his girlfriend is already knocked up, and he is trying to hide it from everyone.