If your Mother/Grandmother was dying with Alzheimer's would you care for her?

Question

If she would only live 6 months would you take on the responsibility or expect another family member to?It's a heart wrenching job.

Answer 1

Hell ya I would ! When we were newborns we did not even know we existed and they took care of us . Your grandmother took care of your mom which gave birth to you . So mom did a good job and raised you well .Now its like this when they have this disease its like they are a new born trying to grow up . Yes it is hard but worth every minute of it . You have a chance to love and nurture the one who gave you life even it life was bad or good . I would jump to the first chance to take care of them not anyone else . You may need their help and that's all you can ask . GOOD LUCK AND MAY THE LORD BE WITH YOU !!!!!!!!

Answer 2

My husband's grandmother had alzheimer's for 15 years. She was bedfast for the last 3 years of the disease. Several times they gave her only a few months to live. It's a huge responsibility to decide to care for someone in this condition. It is definately hard to do. It's a 24 hour a day job. I would do it if I had help from other family members, but I couldn't do it without help from others.

Answer 3

It's a really hard decision to make. But ... why not consider care? My husband's uncle developed Alzheimer and he was very happy in his care home.
The people I know who have had Alzheimer's change in character so. This is a really hard decision. What would your mother/grandmother have wanted when she was in her proper mind? Good luck to you.

Answer 4

My mother is nearly 86 years old and is in the early stages of dementia. She is also immobile due to arthritis. She stayed at home for as long as she could but once her mobility declined it was not possible for my father to tend to her needs. The decision to place her in an aged-care facility has been one of the most difficult ones we have all faced. She is not happy there and initially constantly wanted us to take her home. Dad has since passed away but mum's mind cannot accept this and she still hears him talking to her through the walls and she responds to him and is amazed that the rest of us cannot hear him. It is very difficult for us as she talks about him all the time and the stories now are regressing to her early life, as if they are both in their 20's. We respond as we can but it is still cuts to the core when she wants you to take her home and gets herself worked up and angry at you because you can't do this. The worst day will be when she finally doesn't know us. I dread that day/ This process has been a slow farewell to our mum, Bit by bit we are losing her.

Answer 5

Absolutely. Sometimes you need respite care yourself. There are agencies that can fill in for you when needed. If longer term you find that a long term care facility with an alzheimers unit is in order. You do what you need to do for those you love.

Answer 6

I work with Alzheimers everyday. Its a hard job to take care of someone with the illness. I've seen ppl. take care of there relatives at home but you can take them to "home" were they can get the care they need. Try calling hospice they might be able to help you.

Answer 7

Yes, I took care of my grandmother until she died, nobody else in my family wanted to do it, i didnt mind because i loved her very much and she didnt want to go to a nursing home, so i made sure that her last days were comfortable for her. I miss her very much

Answer 8

Of course! If she will only live for 6 more months, make those months her best months in her life! Spoil her rotten! Give her lots of suprises and good luck!

Answer 9

Yes I did. It was very hard but at the same time it felt right.

Answer 10

i would help as much as i could, but you cant be expected to do the whole thing yourself. all siblings/grandchildren who can you help, if theres no one else, get support from social services.