valentine is 2mrw and being single is killing me, wht can i do?

Question

my prob. is tht i can't love the pple loving me, there is someone in my dreams though he is not real but i hope i can find a personality like wht in my dreams, should i wait till i find it or accept the fact and agree 2 marry a suitable one though i dnt even like him?!!!

my prob is tht i have many friends and i respect them very much and i know tht they may be better than me and i feel happy when i c them but when anyone of them tell me tht he loves me i feel suffocated and i feel that i can't imagine myself loving tht guy, i can respect him but not love him, this always happen 2 me and i feel that i'm crazy, i don;t knw wht 2 do!!!!!

Answer 1

******************BEST ANSWER HERE*******************
This should be a defining moment in your love life.
Review this past year of relationships.....and figure out why you disqualified ALL the guys that were interested in you.
Were they superficial reasons? Were your expectations too high? Saw too many flaws? Not tall enough? Not a good enough job?
The answer: look in the mirror. Your standards may be set unreasonably high.
For that reason alone, you find yourself alone during this time. Great looks and a great job won't hold you close at night, will it? Or tell you how good you look in those clothes?

** Key point: NEVER settle just to say you have someone on a regular basis. **
Don't go there. Just be strong and use this next year to really ACCEPT these people for WHO they are.....AND their flaws. If you can do this, you'll mature in your appreciation for that guy and won't find yourself alone as he will ACCEPT YOUR flaws.

Good luck!

Answer 2

you MUST find happiness within yourself before you can love anyone else in this world. if you don't, then this cycle has more potential to continue. how do you go about that? find things that you like to do. do things for others without regard to whether you'll get anything in return. above all, make sure that you're doing it because YOU want to do these things. and i know this is very cliche, but there will be a moment when you will be completely happy within yourself... then it'll happen. try not to dwell on it though... or perhaps (honestly) if that sounds a little too difficult, then you may want to talk to someone about possible underlying problems ("... I can't love the ppl loving me..."). good luck to you.

Answer 3

no never marry anyone if you feel like you don't even like them because then, you'll end up either hurting him or hurting yourself and that's not good, even though a lot of times by the statistics love is not apart of marriage anymore but i'm a hopeless romantic, and I'm single too and but don't subject yourself to the lowest standard of man just because you are able to say that you have somebody in your life , you deserve the chance to be actually truly happy with some body. at first i was dreading the holiday tomorrow too, but to be honest i just see that it's just another day that a lot of people get to spend more money but, it does feel good to see that someone cares, but, just treat yourself have fun and don't try to be down things could be a lot worse than what they are

Answer 4

Don't throw your dreams away for someone you don't love. But don't throw chances away because you're waiting for an unrealistic ideal man. Sometimes what you think is not your ideal turns out to be, and what you think is turns out not to be. Go into every situation as open-minded as you can, and you may be surprised.

And as for feeling lonely on valentine's day - it happens. I suggest you throw a party for (or go hang out with) your friends (male and female) and just enjoy friendship. Friendship is a kind of love too and should be celebrated just as much (if not more) on Valentine's day than romantic love.

Answer 5

Don't ever marry someone or even be with someone who is less than what you are looking for. There are so many people in the world that you don't need to settle for something less than what you need. You will only grow to resent them and yourself. Broaden your horizons and take things slow with the next guy you meet, show some self respect and they will respect you.

Answer 6

It's kind of silly to wait for someone that you dreamed up and doesn't exist. Stop dreaming and start dating and see if you like the qualities in the men you do meet, nobody's asking you to marry them! There's very little chance that you will meet someone and that there's absolutely nothing you about them that you don't like, but you have to accept people as they have to accept you, don't be so picky!

Answer 7

THEY ALL CAN'T FIT YOUR CRITERIA AREN'T YOU BEING TOO CHOOSY. YOU KNOW YOU MIGHT BE DISAPPOINTED TO FIND OUT THAT YOUR DREAM GUY DOESN'T LIKE YOU EITHER SO I'M JUST SAYING THAT YOU SHOULD EVALUATE THE WAY YOU LOOK AND EVALUATE ON YOUR DREAM GUY'S LOOK. ASK YOURSELF THIS QUESTION "CAN A GUY LIKE HIM ASK A GIRL LIKE ME OUT" YOU'LL ANSWER THAT ON YOUR OWN. BUT BY THE LOOKS OF THINGS THE FACT THAT NOT EVEN A SINGLE GUY YOU LIKE HAS APPROACHED YOU MAYBE YOU'VE SET THE BAR TOO HIGH FOR YOURSELF.I KNOW YOU SHOULDN'T SETTLE FOR SOMEONE YOU DON'T LIKE BUT WHAT IF THE PEOPLE YOU LIKE DON'T SEE YOU AS THEIR DREAM GIRL. FOOD FOR THOUGHT!

Answer 8

Go to Bakers Square and buy a pie. Eat the whole thing. That's what I did once. You feel a little chubby afterwords, but at least you got to eat pie.

Answer 9

no,u should not marry a person to whom u don't lyk.if u think that ur dream lover will surely come in real than u can wait but u can not wait for long so its better that u find some good qualities in that person b'coz every person has some good qualities in him or her it just that we have to find them out .u should be positive in your vision.every person has his or her partner in this world.....

Answer 10

marriage is not something to compromise i guess wait till u fell that the person is right for u ... u cant change things later so thinks twice before u take a decision ... all the best..