My dad is sick with cancer in the US. We live in the middle east. I have 3 kids? What should I do? He's 80yo.

Question

My dad has bone marrow cancer and I live on the other side of the world. He's 80 years old. My mom is ok but needs my support. I have already left once for 3 weeks to help them and the kids were fine. My husband and them kept the house up fine. I don't know what to do and I feel like I'm stuck. What would you do?

Answer 1

kids come first,..even a dying father will understand this

Answer 2

I think it's most important to spend the maximum time you have with your dad. If you can live with yourself knowing very well that you chose not to see your dad when he's at his deathbed. Do you realise that you will never have the chance to tell him you love him after he's not here anymore? What's the point of grieving for the entire world to see when you don't even show it when the person is still living in this world. Is this what you want to demonstrate to your children? To indirectly tell them that parents are suppose to take care of you but when they are dying or in need of emotional support, your priority lies with the kids? What do you want your kids to learn from your action/decision? Don't forget, children learn from their parents' actions, not from what their parents teach them. Children can understand a lot of things, provided you choose to explain to them. Why don't you try asking them how they would feel should you decide to go and see your mom and dad? You are a mother yourself, is this the way you'd want your kids to treat you (God forbid) in the future? To put their lives first then their kids then only you? Is this what you want from new generation?

Answer 3

Not an easy question as this is the cancer that I have.(i am fortunately in remission) Do your best, visit when possible and give him comfort as his days are numbered. Remember the good times and email daily, send jokes and music and fun things. I had to take my mind of the excrutiating pain so I watch the most funny things on tv (when I could concentrate and talked with my friends and family when able.) Do your best but you cannot be in 2 places at once, Make your presence by phone and email as there is not much you can do but be supportive.

Answer 4

i'm no longer from there yet I comprehend why they do no longer go away. it is their land and they have each and every actual to it. For years the combating over there has been occurring. there's a continuing wrestle over there for Isreal. to boot as their lifestyle in the middle east is way diverse then ours, for sure. yet I even ought to make one non secular remark (and ones who're non secular will comprehend). in the bible it states that no one is to the contact Isreal. not in any respect. it is the reason they are untouchable. For what causes he (the Lord Jesus) must be the in trouble-free terms one to address Isreal. the different would have such havock on them. Blood shed will be glaring. it is going to likely be "Holly H e l l" if the different grow to be to target to or ruin Isreal. I actually have seen pictures of the land (Isreal) and the beauty is unreal. God bless all.

Answer 5

I think you need to discuss this matter with your husband and remember what shall sow so shall you reap, IT is the law of nature. If you can afford you can go, if the husband is affordable you can go, but however it's better that you take your husband in confidence.
Allah may help you out , and prayers for your father for a safe recovery.
On the other inevitable case, you can pray to Almighty.

Answer 6

Take care of your parents. Jannah lies under the feet of your mother...hubby should understand.

Answer 7

I would go to be with my mum and dad

Answer 8

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