Thanks for all the replys made interesting reading. Thing is i went out clubbing with her last week got drunk and told her i felt the same oops! She is really pretty thats why i went for her in the first place but for some strange reason i don't find her that attractive (no i am not gay before anyone asks lol). I think its because i had a great sex life with my ex and maybe i compare them both aahh! Please help i don't want to lose her i think maybe i am still in love with my ex but thats over! I relly am confused as to what to do please help?
2007-02-13 00:21:37 · 11 answers · asked by whatever001 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You want everything but the responsibility don't you???
DO NOT MISTREAT THIS GIRL!!! IT IS CRUEL!!!
Sorry but you must take responisibility for your actions unless you want to be selfish of course!!
2007-02-13 00:26:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Attraction and attractive are entirely seperate, one is a sensation the other is a vauge description. Yeah you may like the new girl, but if you don't find her hot, it won't (guarenteed) work long term. So you must decide, are you up for a "now" relationship with a likely ending down the track? As for being in love with your ex, you may need to talk to the new girl and tell her you need some time to yourself. Don't be specific that it's about her or your ex. You could say "it's me". Take some downtime to think a bit, a week or so, get drunk and do crazy things till you wake up hungover in bed in your work clothes and a sombrero and go, "I know what I want now". Sometimes a bit of crazy emotional pressure then clear thinking time can work wonders on decision making. Good luck!
2007-02-13 00:37:00 · answer #2 · answered by JDA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a self centered prick! You're not man enough to end it, because you dont want to be alone. It never ceases to amaze me how cowardly most men are when it comes to being honest. The honesty seems to come out when their drunk. Its the same guy who gets drunk and thinks he's a badass. You have what i call the puppy dog syndrome, you've lost your dog you loved, and now looking for the replacement puppy. You are doing nothing more than using the new girl, and thats pathetic! I have 6 sisters and i've taken care of the few clowns who were just like you. Be a F***ing man once in your life, and go your own way. Using people like you are doing has only a traumatic affect on the one being used. p.s. and if you were such a great lover, your ex would still be around!! Thats just the fact Jack
2007-02-13 00:36:00 · answer #3 · answered by MRJERK715 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You have baggage left over from the past, which clouds over your judgement for whatever woman that comes in your life now. You may be unconsciously trying to fill the void that the last relationship left in your heart. I suggest being totally honest with her and tell her to be fair you cannot promise anything that you are still confused over your past relationship even though its long over. Honesty is truly the best here. If she is a mature minded woman she will give you the space without disappearing. If she disappears she may want an instant fix herself of love which is foolish. Tell her the truth without going into the details of your sex life with your ex. There isnt a woman or man alive that wants to compete with your memory of great sex with another woman or man in general. So tell her you are confused that you want to go extremely slow as you are in healing mode. This woman I am sure will appreciate your openness and honesty and great communication. Good luck.
2007-02-13 00:31:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you should have givin yourself more time after your ex. Second of all, since when did sex become the MOST important part of the relationship? You say you dont want to lose her but yet your lying to her? Tell her how you feel, that its to soon for you to be in love again, maybe she will understand maybe she wont, but for goodness sake DONT LIE TO HER!
2007-02-13 00:29:12 · answer #5 · answered by Amber Vance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her go before you hurt her anymore. Your hurting yourself and wasting too much precious time. What can you make of it, honestly, if you dont feel the same. Apolagise for telling her you felt the same...as weird as it sounds...hopefully theres not too much damage done....you can remain mates, you dont have to lose her just let go a little.
2007-02-13 00:28:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are using her for sex until the next one comes along stop this relationship now before she gets really hurt by you
2007-02-13 00:42:00 · answer #7 · answered by miss smidgey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant have your cake and eat it! so make your mind up and stick to it!. your ex is and ex for a reason! perhaps you should focus on that !
2007-02-13 00:36:30 · answer #8 · answered by robert x 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well keep sticking in her until you figure out what to do ....at least it is a good bit of practise....
2007-02-13 00:28:17 · answer #9 · answered by Fox Hunter 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No one can solve this problem but u . it's in ur hand . just look for it .
2007-02-13 00:27:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋