When i was sixteen i was too cool for school i had great looking girls going after me, loads of friends, i was oozing confidence and the world was my oyster. When i left school i got into drugs and inadvertantly replaced my good friends with some not so good friends, i was spending all my cash on drugs even selling my stuff to pay for it so the girls weren't interested, i lost all my confidence because before i knew it 2 years had passed and i'd barely worked and i was just bitter because i kept thinking that maybe my teachers and my parents could have put me on the right path to a steady future but instead chose to let me drift through my life comfortably, i was stealing from my dad at this point and one time when he realised his cash was missing he told me how dissapointed he was with me and it was enough to get me off the hash and the weed, i cleaned up my act but still look in the mirror and see a once cool guy now loser, how do i feel and look like i did back then
2007-02-13 00:17:34 · 11 answers · asked by Andy J 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
OK,..take responsibility for you action,..work and go to school.
trade school and there you go and finally fund your way through a four degree program and become the next Bill Gates,...
you won't have time to blame mom and dad,....you will be independent/
2007-02-13 00:27:38 · answer #1 · answered by iroc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Andy, you are not the first one to do something like what you have described to us. The difference with you now though is that it sounds like you have a better relationship with your dad than a lot of people have and you have also gotten off drugs. That is a good starting point to move on with life.
Everyone on here has had life-altering moments or experiences in our lives -- and they seem to divide up our lifespans into parts (before and after "the incident" or "the time when"). Those of us who have lived for a while know that we move on and grow. It may not seem like that is possible at the time of our great trouble, but it is true. And the same will be true for you.
One thing: We can't go back. We are older now and have to accept what has happened. Look forward to the future: A better job, perhaps further schooling. (Did you graduate from high school? Should you get your GED? Should you go on to college?) Look forward to your future relationship with that special girl or even marriage and family life. Don't ever let someone steal hope from you, even yourself.
My suggestion is that you think more of yourself overall. Making a short list of your goals is probably another thing you should do.
Good luck to you.
2007-02-13 08:35:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, as a person you have learned from experience and you know what drugs do to ones life. So, would you like to lose this important lesson?
You have learned this lesson and that's part of you, you are are different, more mature person than you were, you made those decisions and you should accept it.
Live with the truth, whatever happens the truth is the best. Be what you are now, don't try to become what you were. If you do put on a fake face and act like how you used to be, you will get back in trouble. Or worse, you will lose yourself as you are acting all the time, you won't even be able to be truthful to yourself.
It's alright, just live on, face the truth about yourself. I know it's frustrating and annoyingly slow but it will get better. Be patient, live life for everyday. Wake up and tell yourself to enjoy the day, to do the best. Don't think about what will happen next or what will happen the week after or whether you'll ever get your life back. Just live life, you have everyday to enjoy and to cherish and to do useful things. I won't tell you what will happen next, cause that's contradicting myself and what I've known, just enjoy life man.
Advise: Go eat your favorite food and indulge in yourself for a bit. Understand yourself, understand what you truly want, let the present you live and don't waste the present you thinking about the past you.
2007-02-13 08:33:13 · answer #3 · answered by longtailedmonkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awesome! I'm so glad to hear that you are getting out of the drug life. Don't worry, with some time and effort the world can still be your oyster. Get and maintain a steady job and/or go to school. This will help make you feel more vital and accomplished. Also exercise and work out to help your body to get healthy again. It doesn't happen overnight but you will return to your sober, happier, self soon. It takes commitment and determination to get there. My best advise is to have some support handy in the beginning. You need someone when your having "using" thoughts. NA helped me in addition to my wonderful family. I used for 10 years. I don't even remember a lot of it. I can't have that time back, but I can pick myself up, dust off, and make a life for myself. You can too.
Best wishes
2007-02-13 08:49:26 · answer #4 · answered by firefly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is loads of things you can do to make yourself better.
New Clothes
New Look
The best bet I would say is a college course or something like that!
Then you can look back at yourself and say I was a loser but now I am making something out of my life and am a valued member of society!
Or the same goes for some Volanteer work! say for kids in a similar situation to you so you can use your experiences to help others!
Good Luck!
Hope this helps
Remember:-
To your own self be true!
2007-02-13 08:32:39 · answer #5 · answered by nevergrowup 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you get yourself into college and get a proffesion, then work hard at that, build up your confidence slowly. Be a nice person, treat people well, then they will come to you, you will attract good people.
Well done for getting off it. Good luck in the future, it will be ok you just have to believe. But stop the blaming, even of yourself whats done is done, it is the future you need to look to not the past
2007-02-13 08:22:30 · answer #6 · answered by boo 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
we all make mistakes. move on and try to build your life, take it step by step and if you can't come to face yourself in the mirror put it off for a little while. don't look for others to blame for what happened, it's over and done with. take a decision to build your life no matter how hard that might be. and your high school past should be a constant reminded that you have it in you to make it and you have it in you to establish that life for yourself. and when they say "when there's a will there's a way" they truly mean it.
2007-02-13 08:27:14 · answer #7 · answered by fate_n83 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start again...remember the lessens learned...and continue to work toward a better you and better life....
go back to school..get a GED ...look into college..or a trade school aim for a profession..after that look for a sweet lady with a good outlook on life ...and build a beautiful future and life together...
2007-02-13 08:32:54 · answer #8 · answered by LeftField360 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
knowing you're on the wrong part is a good start,
keep ur self buzy, play football or any other sport u can think of.
just do something no matter how small it is, finish it and praise urself wit this you can regain ur confidence
2007-02-13 08:38:06 · answer #9 · answered by kelechi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use every challange in life as a stepping stone.Bad times can make us stronger.
2007-02-13 08:27:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋