do you believe its possible to fall in love at first sight even if youre only 18? becuase i truly love this guy...but some people say im not in love and im to young to understand love...are they right or is what im feeling the real thing?
2007-02-13 00:14:26 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Please don't listen to those people! You're never too young to be in love. If you know how to love your parents and not be selfish, why can't you be in love with a boy? I hope my answer gives you confidence and a booster shot. Yes, I do believe in love at first sight. Bear with me, it's a long answer.
Love at first sight is real. Because true love is from God. I'm a Christian, I believe in God! And for that reason I believe that there is love at first sight. God sometimes maybe lets people (like me) see right away who He intended them to love and marry.
Love is different with everyone because we are all different! You can't describe true love for anyone! Everyone's experience of loving or being in love is totally unique. Because we area all unique!
I am so tired of the people that say smugly, "i believe in lust at first sight" because they don't know. I don't have problems with lust, and I have experienced that feeling of "wow, look, there he is, the guy I was created for". I just looked at his eyes from the side and I got that feeling. I wasn't looking at his body at all.
Please believe me- that even if it hasn't happened to you, or never will, it is POSSIBLE
Please do not listen to these other people. Although they mean well, I know personally that there can be real, true, lasting love (not LUST or INFATUATION! Boy am I sick of those dumb words! People just use them to sound grownup and wierd and fancy shmancy! {not to "dis" you other folks, but that's what it seems like to me :)} at first meeting- and yes, even at first sight.
As to what it feels like... everyone is totally different. If you think you are in love, and you love someone very much, more than any one else, than you ARE in love- for the time being. You may, who knows, some day, find someone else who you will be able to love even more. Not because you didn't love the first one- you did, as much as you could at the time. But each new person you fall in love with you seem to be able to love more.
Who can say whether we are all in love a dozen times in our life, or if we only "really" love one of those people, or if we never "truly" loved any of them?
Love is different for every person, at every different time. Sometimes it makes you sad, sometime it makes you happy, sometime insecure, sometimes confident. No one knows. But if you think you're in love, then tell yourself you are and go with your emotions, whether you become mournfully melancholy or exuberantly happy. There is nothing sweeter than feeling something deeply and telling yourself you're in love, whether it's for an hour or a lifetime- or eternity.
I fell in love from first sight with someone I have only met twice in the past two years I still am. For many reasons in a long story, we can't contact each other, nor do we "date" so there isn't a questions of all that "faithfulness" junk. But I knew at the first second that I was made for him and someday God will see we marry and live happily ever after. Sometime I will type up the whole story and post it on every "love at first sight" page and question and blog in the whole wide internet.
Again, I am not saying that love at first sight is the only right kind of love. Maybe you will hate the person you eventually fall in love with! Maybe it will take you years to gradually love them! Who knows? I am not saying that it is the only true kind of love. With some people, it may take a while to fall in love with their soulmate. But love at first sight is so very possible! Sometimes the good Lord is kind enough to show you right away. Like he showed me.
The moment I saw him standing there, I knew all about him. His character- how kind and sweet he was, how helpful and patient. And don't say I was judging a book by its cover. Later in the day I met up with him again and talked to him for five hours at that wedding reception. And my first impression- that split second thought of "this is who I was created for and am meant to marry" was strengthened. And he is in my every thought and dream. I don't give a passing thought or glance to anyone else- it's just out of the question. I’ve only seen him only 3 times over the years. It’s been so long. But I still love him! I do! It’s real!
I fell in love when I was only 13. But that’s how old Juliet was, and it was love at first sight and no one questions her! No one says “Oh, Juliet was so dumb, she didn’t REALLY love romeo, she just killed herself because she THOUGHT she did”. Why should people say that about me?
There is love at first sight.
Not lust.
Not infatuation.
Not a crush.
Not a passing attraction.
Real, true, lasting, beautiful, perfect love.
Believe
2007-02-13 06:31:16 · answer #1 · answered by nemo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one can tell you you are too young to have feelings of love towards some one, how do they know? They are not you and I wasn't aware there was a minimum age limit for falling in love so you may well be! However I would caution that from previous experience I thought I loved some one when I was 19, 6 weeks later I hated him! The people I thought I loved at 20-25 I no longer have any feelings for now if that helps.Love is a subjective personal thing, if you are in love enjoy floating on cloud 9 and I hope the object of your affections feels the same!
2007-02-13 00:21:41 · answer #2 · answered by Melanie J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey! I'm 18 too and I had love at first sight. I don't really know if its love at first sight but it is definitely infatuation at first sight. You just want to get to know them and be with them. Right? I've been with my boyfriend for a year almost now (Feb 23), he's 25 and I'll be 19 tomorrow. I met him at apple bee's one night when my brother text me and told me to come there. I never really hang out with my brother and the weather was terrible! (which i hate so i never go out in it). My friend had just left with her boyfriend so I said hey why not! My brother was with a friend and thats how i met my current boyfriend and knew there was something there, i laughed the whole night and just couldn't stop thinking about how cute he was and funny the rest of the night. He ended up bringing me breakfast/lunch the next morning! And he felt the exact same way!
So I really do believe in love at first sight, even though i know its not love, you grow to love someone after you get to know them.
Cause what if i never saw your boyfriend after the day you met him. Would you be heart broken for the rest of you life? Probably not because you wouldn't know how truly amazing he is and that's where you get the unconditional love from.
Also, you're not too young to be in love. People these days are just waiting longer to get into relationships and living together before getting married and just dating around non stop, hooking up with who ever. Maybe you do have to wait till you're 37 to find your Mr.Right, but that's your decision, just because you're old when you do doesn't mean you have to be bitter towards the younger women. There are alot of great guys out there! you just have to find them. And if you do meet someone your amazed with, then is to tel you that it's not love.
If someone is older or OLD, and tell you you're too young, then they are just bitter. Talk to someone who was 17 when they got married and are still happily in love what they think? I'm sure it won't be the same as someone who got married at 37.
2007-02-13 00:24:14 · answer #3 · answered by Dina B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no such thing as love at first sight. Thats saying you are in love with the way they look. Love takes time and knowing a person. You can fall in love at 18 but what you are describing is lust.
2007-02-13 00:17:45 · answer #4 · answered by annonymus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see if ur sayin u truly feel in luv wid a guy at the first sight it means dat u have strong attraction towards dat guy but u cant really fall in luv just by seein him u should go ahead n talk to him know the guy properly become his friend n then ask ur self do i really luv this guy
2007-02-13 00:39:25 · answer #5 · answered by sandy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do believe in it i mean i believe that is how me and my husband started. now we have two wonderful kids and i've never been happier! dont worry about how old you are or if youre too young to know what love feels because if its what YOU feel then you knw its true love. talk to the person and lethim know what is on your mind. communication is the best you can have in a relationship. good luck hon.
LOVE erika
HAPPY VALENTINES DAY.
2007-02-13 00:20:28 · answer #6 · answered by *(¯`ξŔ1₭4´¯) Ł4 (¯`₮Ř4V1ξ§4´¯)* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only you know if what your feeling is the real thing....most people wont listen to others, if you truly believe you love him. But they may have a point. Do you actually know him? i mean yeah you know him, but how long for? sometimes lifes easier if you think with your head...not your heart
2007-02-13 00:19:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No such thing as,"love at first sight," it should be called,"attraction at first sight". True love needs time to grow, no matter the age.
2007-02-13 00:24:39 · answer #8 · answered by lee d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Willys cynical thought for the fugging day;
Love at first site really ain't that weird; it's when you been living together a while that it gets fawking weird!
2007-02-13 00:19:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are too young
at your age it is probably infatuation
yes there can be love at first sight but you have to be hurt before you actually know what love is most ppl wait yrs and yrs and are alone somewhere in there before they find mr or ms right i was 37 before i found mr right
2007-02-13 00:19:57 · answer #10 · answered by elite_women_rule_the_rock 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are too young to talk about love. Study hard and get a high paying job.
2007-02-13 00:17:49 · answer #11 · answered by Even Flow 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋