Sitter problem?

Question

My sitter has a 40 y.o daughter who was in the hospital ICU three hours from where we live. Two weeks ago the sitter went to be with her daughter and gave me no advance notice nor a phone call that she would be unable to watch my kids. Yesterday, I showed up to drop the kids off and she had gone again. after waiting at her house for 30 minuntes her neighbor informed me her daughter was dying and she went to be with her. While I am sad for my sitter, I missed work for 12 hrs last week and now 12 hours this week. This week I am scheduled to work 36 hrs and this is the weekend of her daughters funeral i am sure. Did the sitter have a duty to inform me she could not watch the kids, or provide back up? The sitter has already gotten paid from the state, but not by me, should her co - pay be adjusted on my end seeing since I didn't make the money I can't pay the money. I am a single parent of three, student and work in a major ER and got repremanded for missing work on short notice.

Answer 1

Get a new sitter that works for you. When I was working after I had my daughter the most stressful thing was not my job but my sitter issues. The woman you are using has issues that are more important than your children (to her) so you need to find someone who has less pressing issues in their life.

Answer 2

Althought these are extraordinary circumstances you need to inform the state (who is her employer) that she did not take care of your children and she should not be paid for those days. Plus it would have have taken her less than 5 minutes to inform you of the situation. She should have had her own backup this is her job to provide you with a sitter.
You might be reimbursed or at least offered a new sitter by the state for the hardship you went through. Call social services or whatever agency you had to go through today to get a new sitter and let them know what is going on you need to work!
(also find someone that could watch your children on an emergency basis and keep it handy so this never happens again)

Answer 3

I personally would not pay this woman anything. I would also report her to the state. She took on the responsibility of looking after your children, she needed to at the very least let you know that she would be unavalible. It is sad that her daughter died, but that does not mean that she can shirk her responsibilities. Once would have been forgivable but not twice. She also should have told you as soon as she knew when else she would not be avalible (ie the funeral). She is not entitled to the agreed upon money because she did not do the agreed upon work. I would very seriously look for a new sitter. Obviously you cannot trust this one to be responsible.

Answer 4

You are not responsible for her ditching you at the last moment. Legally, she is going against the contract the two of you have (and the one she has with the state). In fact, I would tell the state the days that she didn't watch your children.

On top of that, I would try to find another sitter. I feel bad for her and her child, but she does have a duty to at least call you. Any other business would have fired her on the spot, her daughter dying or no.

Answer 5

I'm sure she didn't give you notice to be ignorant,her daughter was dying for cryin out loud! You don't think of the things you need to do in a situation like that you just go to be with your family. As for her co pay it should be adjusted according to the hours she worked. Be easy on her she is going through a rough time, the last thing she needs is for you to yell at her about not being there to watch your kids. Find a new babysitter for the time being untill she gets back on her feet, if she don't want to babysit anymore then hire someone full time.

Answer 6

even though sitter did not give advance notice, somehow u found out she went to be with daughter at hosp, how is it u did not call sitter to to ask if she still caring for kids or she had someone else or recommend someone. i feel u did not take responsibility in calling sitter to find out situation. even in r response u do not feel any empthay or sympathy for sitter. as for work could u not work extra hrs or stay at least 1 or 2 hrs extra.

Answer 7

Technically since she gets paid by the state she cannot claim your kids those days.... She didn't watch them. I know alot of times state paid day care providers will put in their contracts that you sign that if you don't show up a day that they will still claim they watched your kids so they can still get paid for it. I know that when I used to have a state paid day care provider they had to have a back up. Mine always had their husbands as back ups.... one of them had a friend that was her back up. So, it is the babysitter's duty to inform you what's going on and it's her responsibility to make sure she provides the day care for you. If I were you, since this keeps happening, I would call down to the day care office and tell them what's been going on and have them mail you a new list of providers so you can choose someone else that's more reliable. I hope you get things figured out... Good Luck

Answer 8

first element...take him to the wellbeing practitioner and characteristic the wellbeing practitioner cheque for any actual evidence of violence or sexual abuse. of path you would be able to desire to have mentioned this with the wellbeing practitioner in inner maximum earlier and could communicate the findings in inner maximum afterwards. Then circulate from there. tell your sitter you're taking some day without work paintings or something and don't choose them for a pair weeks or so until you comprehend if somehing is definitely happening.

Answer 9

think about what you would do in the same situation - I am sure the sitter is sorry but at the end of the day, family comes first.

when she is back to herself and things have calmed down, see if you can arrange extra hours to make up for it - or see if she is going to inform the state that she didnt have them then and then refund the money back to you and the state.

if you missed work then technically it is your fault, and you should always have back up childcare - and if you knew she was having problems last week, you should of made alternate arrangements for this week.

family come first!!!

Answer 10

I am sorry that you missed work but in retrospect loosing a child trumps work any day! If it were me I would make sure she still got paid and I would offer to do what ever I could do to help her.