Should i tell my boyriend i cheated on him?
Should i tell my boyriend i cheated on him?
Me and my boyfriend have been going out together for 1 year and nearly 8 months now.5 months ago i moved to England to study here and I left my boyfriend back in Romania...
3 months ago i cheated on him with another boy for 3 weeks we were kissing and just spending time together but not more than that...I feel really guilty now cause my boyfriend said to me that to be sincere with each other is really important...I feel really sorry now and i'm thinking why on earth did i do that...?I love my boyfreind so much and i dont want to let him go, but i dont know when im next going to see him because i cant afford to go back in the holidays ....so im not going to see him for quite a long time...
Pls help!
what should i do...?
2007-02-12 23:46:03 · 18 answers · asked by Neacsu v 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can truly understand how you are feeling right now. Not only is it difficult to deal with a long distance relationship, but it is even more difficult when that person is not accessible to you. It is not hard to see why you did it. You were lonely. That is not an excuse by far. You need to be real with yourself & your boyfriend regardless of the circumstances. You have not been together for a very long time. This is still the early phases of your relationship & the fact that you two are sooooooo far apart from each other it was bound to happen. Don't beat yourself up about it. Talk to your boyfriend if he is undrstanding & not doing the same thing himself then it should not be difficult to continue a relationship from this point. I must say the distance will put a major strain on the both of you. Either you agree to date each other exclusively & never be invoved with anyone else (fat chance you live too far apart & look what has already happended even though you said it was not sexual. Besides why should you put such constraints on yourself?), or you both agree to continue dating & date others as well, or just break it off, date some else & chill. No need to rack your brain over the situation. Just be honest & real about what you really want!!!!!
2007-02-13 00:02:12 · answer #1 · answered by bratyme_1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I wouldn't tell him anything. But you should start think logically about your relationship. If you two are not able to spend time together regularly and there is no time real soon that you be with him it isn't fair to either one of you to stay in this relationship. The purpose of a relationship is to be with someone and not just on the phone or in letters. Humans need companionship. Truthfully If I were you I would just tell your boyfriend that unless he is going to be able to come and see you every now and then there really isn't much point of the relationship and because you love him so much, you want to be fair to him and not make him be all alone so for now maybe it would be best if you two stay as friends and see what the future brings and in the mean time for him to feel free to do as he pleases. He probably already has been with a couple of girls anyway and isn't telling you. When their little friend is awakened it takes over and their brains stop functioning. Its not fair for either one of you to be tied down in a relationship where you cant be together. Stay friends and stay in touch but its best you both go out and enjoy life. But to each his own .
2007-02-13 00:00:09 · answer #2 · answered by hersheynrey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thin the truth is always a good thing. You should tell him when you next see him because over the phone or in email would hurt him even more. Make sure that you dont do it again and if you do then rather break up with your boyfriend.
2007-02-12 23:52:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him. Everyone stumbles sometimes. If you find someone else you're into, consider breaking up with your BF. Otherwise, consider it a test of loyalty to your BF that you passed in feeling so guilty afterwards. If you have to tell someone, write a letter and never mail it to him, or without a stamp etc. It could make you feel better.
2007-02-13 00:26:04 · answer #4 · answered by JDA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U should tell ur boyfriend because according to what he said,to be sincere with each other is really important.
U can never hide the truth forever and if one day he find it out ,he'll be very angry with U.
I think the best way to let him know the truth is U telling him.He may be get mad at first and then he'll understand .
Be brave and true.Good luck !!!!
2007-02-12 23:54:59 · answer #5 · answered by Linh Giang 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Would you want him to tell you if it was the other way around? If it happened a long time ago and it won't happen again, to be honest, I don't think I'd want to know. Especially if sex wasn't involved. Move past it and look at it as a learning experience.
2007-02-12 23:52:53 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
long distance is very hard and usualy it doesnt work out. but besides that i believe in honesty and trust. so i do think u shud tell him thats the only way u r going to get rid of that guilty feeling. i think he deserves to know dont u? sorry to say this sweety but live the consequences of ur action!!!
2007-02-12 23:53:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you're going to give birth to some puppies. Better get some puppy toys.
2016-05-24 04:53:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him unless you plan on doing it again. If you love your boy friend "so much" you wont be tempted to, if you are maybe thats a sign.
2007-02-12 23:54:48 · answer #9 · answered by Tony K 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him, unless you want to break up. What good will come of it if you do tell him? You didnt sleep with the other guy, so just drop it.
2007-02-12 23:50:10 · answer #10 · answered by Shredded Cottage Cheese 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋