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I found a very passionate loveletter written by my wife to her happily married classmate. They exchanged emails for one year and met once or twice when he came to take his family with him. She says they only talked about the distress and harassment she faced due to me. But in the letter written six months ago but never posted, she was begging him not to forget her and that she loves and needs him a lot. That guy was in love with her as five other guys but she chose me over them as her lover and later husband. I found her letter one month back and she says she was not in contact with him and doesn't know his id. Could she have fallen in love with this guy without him uttering any words of love? How could two married people fall in love if they only shared family issues? He about how much he loves and respects his wife and she about how I ill-treat her? The letter further says she never experienced the love and affection as in his friendship and she says now that it was only a fantasy?

2007-02-12 23:35:59 · 4 answers · asked by havah 2 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

We are married for 14 years and have two great kids. She has been nice to me and sleeping with me and I would not suspect a thing had I not found the letter? How could she fall in love with this guy she contacted after 14 years? She never wrote such a letter to me any time before or after our marriage.

2007-02-12 23:59:46 · update #1

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You two have been married 14 year...and u found this letter a month ago but she wrote the letter 6 months ago but never sent it?It sounds to me that she is real confused..I think she is missing something in her life....I think communication is very important in a marriage..Its time to set down and talk to her and listen to what she has to say..i mean really listen ...she must have feelings for this man or she wouldn't have wrote what she did in the letter..I'm sorry for saying this but....i think she is looking for something that she isn't getting at home...U need to have a long talk maybe take her on a date just the 2 of u and talk things over.(only your wife has the answers that u need...I want to say i feel for u and i will keep u 2 in my prayers...I wish you and your family great happiness.....*star* PS..if u need someone to talk to IM me or email me @yahoo.com

2007-02-12 23:54:00 · answer #1 · answered by Starbright 3 · 0 0

If you are ill treating her, what do you expect???
I think she loves him in a different way than man and wife do. I think she is unhappy and needs to express her wishes to someone who will listen and understand her needs...obviously that is not you.
I think they have enough respect for each other not to do anything silly, but the love is still there.
If you are looking for this kind of relationship with her, perhaps you need to sit down and listen to her and not speak for a while.
There are probably things she needs to talk about and you need to hear her out.
Anybody who goes outside the marriage for a friendship of love and affection is craving something they are not getting at home.
Perhaps it is time to take a good look at you and make some changes, get in touch with deeper feeling of love and emotion and shower her with them......
Your jealousy will get you no where.... compassion and love will......

2007-02-12 23:52:08 · answer #2 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0 0

There is no rhyme or reason to falling in love with some one. I think basically it is out of our control. You have to believe in having adestiny .Having something in common was what bound these two together to begin with. Why do you think he would have to utter any words of love in order for her to fall in love with him.

2007-02-12 23:43:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

That's messed up! you all need therapy.

2007-02-12 23:44:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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