I just came back from Israel, well, I have been invited by the tourism ministry to join this trip as travel agent.
There were several guys in the group who "liked me very much"... too much. Well, I didn’t fancy anyone as none of them attracted me very much, just being friends, share a laugh and have a good time. One guy did not seem to understand that and all the time he was around, saying stupid things, trying to convince me to share my bedroom with him... I found him very annoying finally.
What happened finally was, that I did have a love affair with somebody, but with an Arab who worked with our guide. What can I say? It was pure passion and really fantastic.
As soon as this guy from my group found out he suddenly changed his behaviour and started to say nasty things, insulting me, saying horrible things about all the Arabs... I just stood with my mouth open. It would have been pretty ok if I have had sex with him, but now he believed he has the right to call me a *****.
2007-02-12 23:17:25 · 12 answers · asked by Anita P 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What even bothered me more is, that some people of the group (before they were my so-called friends) shared his opinion and looked bad on me... like if I have committed a crime or something like that. I didn’t harm anybody; I just made love with somebody I really found absolutely attractive (and he obviously liked me too).
Well, it’s incredible. Some of the people started to ask stupid and annoying questions, wanting to know "details" (I don’t understand this - I didn’t have a love affair with somebody from Mars!!!), others found it amusing (Why??) and others said, well, forget about it and enjoy your life... nobody has the right to treat you like that... But... honestly, I don’t understand, before we were friends - and now you call me a b-i-t-c-h???
I never fancied that guy from my group, I just had some good laughs and a couple of drinks together with him and other people (never alone). Why does he behave like that? Did he think he has any right over me??
2007-02-12 23:31:56 · update #1
Nooo... I didn’t have any propose to try and prove how good or bad an Arab man could be in bed. I forgot to mention that this guy from my group was Jewish and he tried to cause a lot of problems to me when he found out that I was with this man. He said, that not the meanest Jewish bit*** on earth would have done what I did not for any money in the world...
My mom is Jewish and so I am, but I don’t believe in ethnical differences or **** like that.
I don’t understand how mean people can turn out to be, because if I would have made love with him, of course everything would be all right...
I don’t understand some women’s behaviour from the group as they asked me either stupid questions (As I said before, I didn’t have sex with someone from Mars) or found it somehow disgusting... (Except some girls from Brazil and Europe) what happens here??? Is the world crazy or what?
2007-02-12 23:43:40 · update #2
I just want to know. Does anybody think that I committed a crime???
Does anybody think, that I did something wrong or "break some unwritten rules"???
2007-02-12 23:50:56 · update #3
Dont worry about him
You just did what guys hate and damaged his ego.
He is annoyed that you didnt fall for his percived charms, and is angry at the guy you did have a relationship with.
For some reason also there is somehow an unwritten rule with a lot of Western guys that says, if I make it known that I like her, then other guys should back off - shes mine. This is obviously a stupid rule that basically says that the women has nothing to do with the choices made regarding men and that they have somehow claimed you! Cave man or what.
If a man gets hit in the face, he is not hurt by the pain, but the damage to his ago or reputation...this is the same deal.
He just needs to get over it and stop acting like a child.
It doesnt give him the right to be racist, or to question your moral fibre.
I would say to him..if you ever did have a chance with me which was slim it has not dropped to no way in hell.
2007-02-12 23:26:03 · answer #1 · answered by salsabrunette 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He's just a pathetic looser who cannot accept that fact.
Just ignore him for a while, but if he don't stop harrassing you with his verbal abuses, complain him to whoever is the team leader or something in your group.
You should be thankful that you didn't 'do' it with him, otherwise, maybe by now the whole group must have known about it and you'll be in a more compromising situation.
2007-02-12 23:28:26 · answer #2 · answered by clai 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is a curse hes not worth the time you have spent writing your question why have you written it are you out to prove something about how good an Arab was or are out to prove that you if you choose can lay any one you want
2007-02-12 23:23:08 · answer #3 · answered by burning brightly 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to look at yourself, the way you started this question tells me a lot about you, the way you generalized men, and you do sound like a slut, imo, "It would have been pretty ok if I have had sex with him, but now he believed he has the right to call me a *****." whats that? you sleep with the other guy and then think that? you must think a lot of yourself, this guy was right about you and i respect him for standing up, he wants you, and only you, and nobody else having you, then thats good of him.
2007-02-12 23:22:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Men are quite simple. If you give it up to them you are fabulous (sometimes) but if you give it up to someone that you like you're a s l u t. There are even times when you give it up to them and you're a s l u t. Don't take it personally. He's just acting childish and jealous. He will get over it. He was delusional even though you told him many times that you weren't interested.
It happens to all us ladies.
2007-02-12 23:22:34 · answer #5 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm not like this man at all, all I can say is that he's really frustrated.
A woman would be certainly the only thing good he has in his life...
2007-02-12 23:23:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Looks like he lashed out in anger because he was upset that you found someone else. Maybe it was his way of defending himself because he felt like he wasn't good enough for you. I think he was jealous because he was the one that wanted to be with you but you were with someone else.
2007-02-12 23:22:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to f*** off. You never made any commitment to him. What you do and who you do it with is none of his business.
2007-02-12 23:22:03 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. M 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What a jerk! I really hope you realize most of us guys aren't like that.
2007-02-12 23:23:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
dont estimate one man behaviors will be common with all.........
he is just joules of Arab guy......
2007-02-12 23:28:19 · answer #10 · answered by Racingred 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋