i have been doing sex for 3 years regularly.now im getting marry.on the first night will my husband know that in not virgin and i had sex before??
2007-02-12 23:02:15 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You haven't even discussed your sexual history together? WOW! NO BUSINESS GETTING MARRIED!!
2007-02-13 05:32:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to keep that from your husband? You should have an open and trusting relationship. Trust me, if you don't tell him now and he finds out later, there will be hell to pay. If you don't have trust and honesty then why bother? Your husband should be your very best friend, and that is something that I would tell my best friend. If you have been having sex for 3 years and you are getting married then obviously you aren't having sex with your husband to be and you should NOT be doing that. You are starting off a relationship with lies and dishonesty. How would you feel if he was having sex with some other woman for 3 years and never told you? You are cheating on your husband to be already, that is horrible.
Normally if you are a virgin, when you have sex for the first time you bleed a little, if you don't, he will know.
2007-02-13 07:21:02 · answer #2 · answered by Vogue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont care what anyone says...there is no way a man can know by having sex with you if you are or arent a virgin. First off, not all woman bleed the first time. In fact, most woman do not bleed at all. If he expects you to bleed or if he believes that you have to than he is an amateur. Secondly, sex isnt painful for all woman either. Sometimes its more being uncomfortable than in pain so you can easily pretend to be in pain or pretend like its your first time. If youre good at this than he wont even be able to tell that youve been having sex and third...it also depends on how tight your private area is. Some woman can have sex over and over again and still continue to be tight but some woman will not tighten back up and this can lead a man to believe that you arent a virgin so you can tighten your vaginal muscles during sex to throw him off.
I dont suggest that you do any of this because i feel that you should just be honest with him and let him accept you for what youve done but the bottom line is that if you do things right than no he wont know that you arent a virgin.
2007-02-12 23:53:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold on
Why shouldnt your husband know that you ahve had sex before. If you are supposed to be spending your life with this man and he loves you then you should be able to tell him you are not a virgin.
Its not the best idea to start your married life on a lie.
I would tell him, if you dont then you will be stressing out about it on the day of your wedding, and if it comes out when you are getting intimate, you might end up having a massive row on your wedding night.
Pysiologically he may know or may not know, a lot of women have already 'popped their cherry' without haveig sex, so this may not be an issue, however he may get an idea you are not a virgin by how you react to the experience, how you respond to his touch, or how submissive of dominant you are.
If your husband is a vigin too, he may not be very attuned to picking up these things, but men often know how experienced a woman is just by what she does.
I think he should know and if he is a real man who respects you it wont matter to him.
2007-02-12 23:11:50 · answer #4 · answered by salsabrunette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok lets get away from the childish answers. First of all theres no stastical proof that all virgins bleed or that sex hurts for all women the first time. Some don't bleed, and some aren't in pain the first time they have sex. But I would reccomend to the person who posted this, why not tell your future husband. Seems like a bad idea to start off a marriage based on a lie. Good Luck in the future.
2007-02-14 06:50:26 · answer #5 · answered by Һסρε 2ӨӨ8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way Cute P, no way will he know !!! Unles of course, you can't keep a secret, or you're no good at telling little tiny eensy weensy lies?????? Oh, that means a really small lie. Lies are strange little things. Sometimes they're called Whoppers - they're the really bad ones, you know, like "No Sir, Officer Sir, i didn't kill my mum with a pistol, it was an accident!!". Or sometimes they're called little White lies - they're the ones that are only small little things that you do because you need to avoid hurting somebody you love very much. Your situation is definitely a White lie situation and I suspect that should you take my never even remotely humble advice you would be considered a supremely wise little girlie!!! ........... : ) PEACE & LOVE & ALL THAT
2016-03-29 04:40:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it will be pretty obvious that you are not a virgin, don't you remember what your first time was like? You'll know that it feels different when you are a virgin, a lot more sore for a start!! Not all girls bleed when they lose their virginity, but it will certainly feel different. You'll just have to hope that he either gets so caught up in the moment that he does not notice, or that he is a virgin himself and won't know what to expect it to feel like.
2007-02-13 03:42:29 · answer #7 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
certainly, well i guess he won't mind about it, actually guys can tell if a woman is not virgin anymore through the way they walk... So have no worries, for sure he had always known that you had constantly sleeping with different guy. It's ok if he confront you after the wedding night regarding this matter, at least you had enjoyed it. just tell him you did it every night for the past year to make this night perfect for him.
2007-02-12 23:35:59 · answer #8 · answered by *Pretty Pink* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it seems to me the man your marring is not the person you had sex with
why are you getting married to someone or why even talk about marriage while you were with someone else
this is a bad formula for getting married
i say walk away from everyone and figure out what you are doing and want out of life
you will find trouble right around the corner starting off like this
2007-02-12 23:06:56 · answer #9 · answered by elite_women_rule_the_rock 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Ummm... why are you lying about it?
Will he know? No. It doesn't matter how many times you've had sex, your vagina always goes back to it's original size within hours afterward.
But the whole lying about being a virgin still concerns me. Dishonesty is never a good way to start a marriage.
2007-02-14 10:11:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What? who have you been having sex with for three years regularly and now your getting married and not to the person you have been having sex with regularly but another man who you have never had sex with! You should not get married at all. You sound like trouble.
2007-02-12 23:07:47 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋