Am dating this really cute guy; confident, fantastic personality, great job….. and very handsome.
My problem is this; he’s very jealousy of my old boy friends and get really suspicious of me when I speak with any of them.
Mind u, I don not keep in touch with them all but one or two have managed to remain just very good friends.
Now, my guy has an incredible history with women; he was quite popular with the ladies before we started dating seriously about two years ago….
My challenge with him is, why is he so jealous of my past? And why is he so interested in it when his past doesn’t bother me?
I really would appreciate an answer on how to deal with him cos he’s stating to really upset me with this….
And the more I to explain to him that there’s nothing in my past that important than my present and future with him, the more he gives me the impression like he doesn’t trust me.
2007-02-12 22:35:45 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Probably as he has been a player in the past, and no doubt played away from home on Ex's, he knows what guys are like, in fact what he was like. His jealousy stems from this, and his own insecurities he thinks all the time you will cheat as he has done this so much in the past. The only way you will get through this is by talking and reassurance, but his possessiveness of you must stop or he will kill the relationship, he also needs to see this is his problem not yours and that you are with him cos you want to be! and want no one else!
2007-02-12 22:56:58 · answer #1 · answered by djp6314 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What are you waiting for ?..........Bin him!
There is nothing you can do to make an insecure person more secure. Its his problem. If he does not want to "get over it" then he can walk or you show him the door.
If you don't you WILL be walking on eggshells for the length of your relationship and slowly erode you confidence and self esteem. He has already started to make you feel apprensive otherwise you would not have posed the question here.
You need to do this for your own sanity. You described him as confident, he does not sound it. He may be charming, but certainly not confident. If he was confident, he would have confidence in what you have told him or does he have reason to doubt? If he doesn't, it sounds like, underneath the charm lies a very controlling character.
Also, he sounds like a man with very dark secrets. Probably, his colourful past is seriously chequered. Methinks him telling any girlfriend he had finished with a previous was "lip service" and he thinks you are doing the same. I think "tainting you with his brush" comes to mind. My opinion. The decision is yours.
2007-02-12 22:51:00 · answer #2 · answered by The Cat 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your new partner is just very insecure and perhaps immature - you need to convince him that your former partners are now merely friends and NOTHING is likely to happen between you and any of them. You also need to tell him that as far as you're concerned his former partners do not pose any threat to your relationship with him
2007-02-12 22:43:45 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he isn't as confident as you think! Try showing him more love and reassuring him.
2007-02-12 22:45:14 · answer #4 · answered by Staf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jealousy can be a bit healthy in a relationship but not blind paranoia
2007-02-12 22:40:27 · answer #5 · answered by coronas 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is jealous cos your so sexy, i have that problem all the time.
2007-02-12 22:39:28 · answer #6 · answered by andy c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋