It seems like everyone except me has close friends or best friends who like to hang out with them. I'm a real nice guy and try to be "cool" but I can't seem to make a quality friend that I can count on and who likes to hang out. I was real shy when I was growing up but now I've kind of grown out of it but at my age 27 it's really hard to find friends. I have more of what you would acquaintances who never call me. I'm the one who has to call them and they don't call if I don't call them back for a while. I don't think these types of people would be considered friends. I don't drink, maybe that's why but I'm not sure. Is anyone else in the same boat or am I the only one?
2007-02-12 22:31:42 · 9 answers · asked by jorarmando 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, you're not alone, I too have never found a totally true 'best' friend. Maybe it is because I am shy and usually depend on others coming to make friends with me, not me with them. I have made some temporary friends but usually those are the type that forget you once you go separate ways. Try hard, and keep looking. It is sometimes hard to find just the right person who is sincere and actually cares for you, not just because you're with them in the same place; work, school, etc..
2007-02-12 22:48:55 · answer #1 · answered by dadda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound a lot like me. I had two best friends in high school, but then we lost touch. I also didn't have a best friend in my mid and late twenties. I don't think we are the only ones. It happens to a lot of people. People get married and have families of their own. Those who get married later, I was 28, make best friends of our spouses. I'm 35 now and my best friend is my husband. He also doesn't have many friends to hang out with. We are both loners, except for our own company. Don't worry to much about it. Someday you'll meet someone who just fits your values and you'll just click, be it marriage or a great relationship, romance or not.
You're on to something about the no-drinking thing. I'm also a non-drinker and I hate bars. I think people who continue to party like that in their late twenties are holding onto an adolescent social paradigm. You've probably out grown that.
2007-02-13 06:43:09 · answer #2 · answered by GeminiVirgo1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you are definitely not alone. Marriage also makes this even more complicated. You like her but not him, or him and not her. My wife and I finally met a couple we both like after 15+ years of marriage and then we moved a year later. I agree with the previous post. I think most people only find some one they really connect with once or twice in life. When you do, thank God!! By the way, if this person is also your spouse, thank God again!!
2007-02-13 06:39:57 · answer #3 · answered by infheart 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there, I don't think that there is a problem with you or anything. Friends are not people that we hang out with and have good time with them. Firends are those who can be by our side when we need them and be sure that we can trust them. I have people around me that I like to hang out with but I cannot trust them with a confidential matter or something really personal. But I also have people who I speak with 2 times a year and I am sure that whenever I need them they will be there. (I tested that). So this is my oppinion about friendships!
2007-02-13 06:41:51 · answer #4 · answered by Ferrari^F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same boat as you until a few years ago, but it isn't all that bad being without best friends. You simply have to occupy your time.
If Watson had not taken such an interest in my cases I likely would not have taken an interest in becoming his friend.
2007-02-13 06:42:25 · answer #5 · answered by Sherlock H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you aren't the only one, you may be one of the only honest ones, in life we only have one or two good friends, that in a life time, people usually lie to themselves about who they can trust and why, simply to feel normal, but nobody is normal, because society created normality to make people want to be a certain way.
2007-02-13 06:36:32 · answer #6 · answered by d0wnward.spiral 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have friends lots of them and all from different walks of life...
we all share common grounds and we all help each other but i never pinpointed one out and said this is my best friend ...
i hate giving titles ...
join
2007-02-13 06:37:01 · answer #7 · answered by join_my_world_of_ignore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just havent meet the right people : )
2007-02-13 06:37:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nah your not alone, at least its better than being married,
2007-02-13 06:36:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋