my boyfriends parents and his whole family dose not like me but we love each very much and are planning to get married in a year or two so how do we get through this i would like a more christian perspective. any wise advice ?
2007-02-12 22:29:36 · 8 answers · asked by Milana 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
1. Do not let go of your boyfriend because his family doesn't like you. (I am not implying that your actions are the cause of their hotility.)
2. Don't do stuff that will make them dislike you even more - show them you are better than they think.
3. Do not do stuff that will make them like you - you can never make them like you and you will never be able to satisfy them.
4. Have patients with them. Sooner or later they will liten up.
5. Give your boyfriend a chance to deal with them - remember that this is his family and he will probably know how to deal with them.
6. Leave it in the capable hands of the Lord. wink
2007-02-12 22:52:39 · answer #1 · answered by Soutballas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd advise that even besides the undeniable fact that he loves them both very a lot, he needs to inform sis that except for the advice he's givivg her, he would not understand what else to do. tell sis if she will't a minimum of take a number of his advice, then end asking and calling a lot. It feels like she needs to make certain a professional to help her deal with this troublesome difficulty. As for you, stay solid and enable him vent as a lot as he needs till its a touch more beneficial resolved. feels like you're his rock. solid success!
2016-12-04 03:05:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your boyfriend that you would really like to build a better relationship with his family. Ask him about things that his parents like and/or dislike. Before your around his parents, ask him what his parents would think about this or that.
Try considering what it could be that is "putting them off".
Are they offended by the way you dress?
Do they Biblicaly differ on things with you?
Maybe they feel pushed aside in the relationship between you and your boyfriend?
It's really awesome that you care to try and take the steps to make things better. If you can show this to them, I'm sure that would be an advantage not only between your "soon-to-be-inlaws" but with your "soon-to-be-husband" as well.
God Bless!
2007-02-13 05:09:16 · answer #3 · answered by xboxgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one yu cant get married without the blessings of both parents.So try and sit down with both parents and get the sense into them.And yu can also get to know the reason why they dont like yu and they might have been having the wrong picture of yu.
Then the parents themselvers might be having a strong reason why they are against yu.
Dialogue helps.
Try It
2007-02-12 23:09:53 · answer #4 · answered by Here 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MAYBe
you should
think
thousand times
before you jump
into decisions
not just bec.you and him
loved each other
and never
want others
to separate you guys..
Marriage is a sacred ceremony which welds man and women into one...Think about it but if you really love the guy...>>>>>>
I'm not saying bad about but it's just an opinion.
2007-02-12 23:33:20 · answer #5 · answered by ROxY_215 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does ur family accept him?is he well established enough?can he leave and cut off from his family for you?since how long are you engaged?what is the reason behind his family not accepting you?these are certain serious considerations that u have missed out and should have been given as details for ur question along with ur and his age.
2007-02-12 22:44:26 · answer #6 · answered by gary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show his parents that you want the best for your boyfreind and also that you love him , they hopefully in time will accept you ,
keep hanging on in there , good luck
2007-02-12 23:07:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them the bible says to love your neighbor as you love yourself. If they don't agree, chalk it up to they must really hate themselves.
2007-02-12 23:54:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋