As a child i never was disciplined & basically kinda of ignored. Now tring to live is just so hard i also have

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I also have 3 teenage children its worse than what most can imagine. I really need some help cause no-matter how hard i try things for us never get better. Please i need serious help i feel ao much like a failure which of course makes my life so painfully miseriable

Answer 1

I was in a similar situation not long ago, but I found few things that made me feel good about myself and worked from there. I was always passionate about writing so I started a home-based creative writing course and I always liked the idea of scrapbooking so I started that too. I got a boost of confidence and now I am turning my life completely around, you just need to have faith in yourself, no matter what you have been thru or are going thru, you are still here to tell the tale and that is worth something, never give up.

Answer 2

look jenni.......... you need to take a spiritual bend.
But that works only if you feel that there is more to life then our day today concerns, stupid pleasures, fighting, pleasing, atachment, aversion etc.
Whatever problems you face today are perishable, yourself, your children, your house everything you can know with ur senses will perish.
But somethings are imperishable, that would remain.
I know at ur state it is difficult to leave every thing, but what i tell is shear truth. Everyone knows that but runs away because these things are to difficult to be incorporated in life.
You may go to churches etc but you would never find the philosophical depth in christianity. Most religions were made for the betterment of the society and not an individual.
From all that i know the more you live with your problems, the more you get trapped. Even insects, animals and birds are born, they breathe, they die just as we do.
The first step is to have right faith. to believe the soul inside you.
This is true but to realize all this yourself great saccrifices are required.
There is a way out, that is why you were born as a human.
You have a family, you have your responsibilities. And you also have to live with that. But if leaving your kids on their own would put them on wrong path, then u r responsible too.
Talk with ur children, be patient, u've been thru all that they are going thru now. parents are not just mentors, they are guides. Be strong, don't commit sins, ur soul would get light, u will feel confident, the energies that u would posses then would make others to behave nicely with u.
If you think that you've had enough then learn the scriptures from jainism. I can bet you never feel wrong about anything that had happened to you, is going on with you or might happen t u.
We all pay for good and bad deeds, their is no creator to the universe. But rebirth does occur. We've been since infinity and will always remain. Nothing ends in the universe everything changes. Think urself, u would know what is logically correct. Be a cerebral, don't fall into emotions. They'll perish.
Hope you come out of all attachments and aversions.

Answer 3

It sounds like you need to see a professional counseller to sort through the issues in your life, and establish a set of priorities and strategies to deal with the situation. Sometimes talking this through and working out solutions can help. Sounds like you are making an effort, you just need some help to make that effort get better results for you and your family.

Answer 4

Why don't you check with your local Church or Community Center for some parenting classes or family classes - the whole family can go & learn together.