when we were together before i wasn't exactly honest about my intentions beforehand and broke his heart, i've screwed up again and need advice on how to handle this best and nicely, w/o doing too much damage to him, he' just not really what i'm looking for and i dont want to lead him around again. plz plz help me
2007-02-12 21:29:05 · 18 answers · asked by Bowiemistress 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you're mature enough to get drunk and mature enough to sleep with a man then you should be mature enough to sit him down, look him in the eye and tell him that you don't want to be with him and that what you guys did was a one-time thing. Just be clear and honest about what you want and what you don't want.
Also, I'm a guy and I hooked up an ex in the past and just to let you know, I didn't want to get back together with her but I didn't mind having sex with her again (OK, multiple times actually). Just being honest here. So he might not be thinking about getting back together with you and he may have just enjoyed the experience.
2007-02-13 05:33:56 · answer #1 · answered by lupin_1375 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ther is no way to not hurt his felings as a guy i have been threw this not to be a *** but thats a bt wrong n being drunk doint excuse your self u need to tell him what u actually think uwas caought up n the moment n **** happend u could call me a *** for this answer but when u dobne that b4 its a bit ****** up n dosnt seem like u trully care but dont wana be looked at like a peace of trash but tell him what happened he would probly tell u drinking is no excuse and that u was ****** up for playing games with him cause thats what i have said myself to a ex that did that sevral times love is complicated deffently not a game guys could be as senitive as a women hell most are but the jsust dont show it just lik he will probly node it off like nuthing happend but die inside well goodluck with that one cause ether wy ur gana feel like **** when u see him no matter how u tell him and dont do a phone call or letter talk to him fac4e to face
2007-02-13 05:35:08 · answer #2 · answered by chris_anime_fan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL JUST MAKE SURE YOU TREAT HIM AS ONLY A FRIEND AND TELL HIM YOU THOUGHT HE UNDERSTOOD THAT. THATS WHY THEY CAME UP WITH FRIENDS WITH BENIFITS. YEAH DOESNT SOUND SO PRETTY WHEN U SEE IT TYPED OUT. BUT ITS A REALITY OF LIFE. MAKE SURE YOU DONT WRIP HIS HEAD OFF. LET HIM CONTACT YOU OR IF YOU CONTACT HIM KEEP THE CONVERSATIONS NEUTURAL IF HE ASKS YOU TO GO OUT AND DO SOMETHING EVEN IF IT IS JUST SOMETHING CASUAL (BOWLING) TELL HIM YOU CANT YOU HAVE TO DO THIS OR THAT AND DO THAT A FEW TIMES NICELY AND THAT WILL WORK THE SAME TOO... THAT WAY IF U 2 DO HOOK UP AND HAVE SEX AGAIN HE WILL UNDERSTAND WHAT IS GOING ON BETTER
2007-02-13 05:33:15 · answer #3 · answered by jingles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your problem... if you can do one thing why not be grown enough to sit down and have a serious honest talk with him ... simple answer and am sure you know it ...
not saying it will be easy but better then keep him running around believeing in a lie ...
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2007-02-13 05:31:50 · answer #4 · answered by join_my_world_of_ignore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have allready caused enough trouble. Just apologize and stay away from him. And don't go drinking with him again. Just watch desperate housewives and learn a few things .like how to take charge of your life and avoid your exes cos there is a reason they are no longer in your life
2007-02-13 05:37:38 · answer #5 · answered by cynnie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being a drunken ho. You seem mature enough to not have to ask a question like that here.
Next time you go on a drinking binge, take a cab.
2007-02-13 05:34:39 · answer #6 · answered by Jrahdel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be fully honest with him. i can see that you can speak to him in a gentle manner, so i think there will be no hindrance in making your point clear. just make sure that both of you have an open mind so the conversation will not turn into an ugly one. make it more of a "sharing" type of conversation. hope ya understand my answer.
2007-02-13 05:35:26 · answer #7 · answered by Bowie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really care about him (as a friend), talk to him and be HONEST this time, tell him evrything - your feelings, thoughts, evrything. he will understand. it would so much better than just keep it all to yourself.
think about it this way - if he did that to you, what would you feel? what would you want from him?
do what you think is the best.
2007-02-13 05:33:51 · answer #8 · answered by Kenny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just dont be mean about it. that might sound simplistic, but there isnt any fun happy way to say to someone you dont want to be with them. try and keep it neutral, dont say anything about why you dont want to be with him in particular, try and keep the focus on yourself. if you cant be neutral, be sympathetic. tell him what you think his good points are, but that he's just not the one you're looking for.
2007-02-13 05:34:43 · answer #9 · answered by majickgypsy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋