So me and my girlfriend broke up yesterday. The reason was that you was to clingy she always wants to know who i am with, where i am and where i am going and it just got to fare. When we were together she would always wanna hug from like every 2mins and she would never give me and space or time to go what i want to. If i had some friends with us i would never have a chance to talk to them. I really like this girl and i would like to get back with her but how do i tell her that she is too clingy? Is it worth me telling her or shall i find another girl that i also like that won't be like that.
2007-02-12 21:20:57 · 16 answers · asked by Randall 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have emailed her and told her the reasons why we had to spilt up! She does not seem that bothered about it so i think ill just have to leave it at that! She had said to me that she would be willing to change for me so that we can get back together but i don't think it is going to work so i told her that it would be best if both just be friends and see other people.
2007-02-13 02:59:38 · update #1
I would find someone else....its hard to change people like that!
2007-02-12 21:25:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
she's clingy coz she really cares about you, however, she doesn't act the right way. if you tell her directly she will probably feel kinda embarrassed or something. i don't think it's her will to be too clingy. well there's two way you may choose from.
first, you may try to be clingy to her for some time and let her know how you feel when she was doing the same thing to you. she will know what to do then.
second, every time when you are hanging out with ur friends just give her a call to tell her where you are going to and with whom so she will feel reassuring and won't keep asking you. keep doing like this for some time though it's a little troublesome, then she will change.
girls are really different from boys. sometimes we were too clingy but we never realize this. well boys plz forgive us and give us more comfort coz we do this just out of loving you so much.
make up with her. don't give up on her so easily. trust me she loves you really alot.
2007-02-13 05:38:34 · answer #2 · answered by Dorothy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All depends how much you are willing to put up with!
You could try and talk to her and tell her what bugs you so much and say that the reasons you split up with her etc..and if you got back with her, you never know she might change for a bit. But i think that leopards never truelly change there spots and she might good for a while, but i bet her old habits will creep again before long.
I think once a clingy person always a clingy person, i had someone once with very simular behaviour, despite me liking the person alot, i couldn't cope with the suffocating behaviour all the time and eventually we split up, and not in a good way!
Best of luck!
2007-02-13 05:27:41 · answer #3 · answered by fifitrixie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like her and want to be back with her then you need to speak with her. Be honest and tell exactly how you feel and tell her your problems and get her to tell you hers, it's likely that she has worries and possible insecurities that you should be aware of. Just sit down and tell eachother both how you really feel. If it looks like you can't be together then you'll know by speaking about it. The worst thing you can do is not be open in a relationship that you want to work. And remember, there will have to be give and take from both of you. Good luck.
2007-02-13 05:30:25 · answer #4 · answered by jarf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she feels quite insecure and quite needy. This kind of thing doesn't just go away if you tell her that it distresses you and you want her to stop it - that will just make her feel even more insecure, could make her behaviour even worse.
You either (a) like her so much that you will resolve to put up with this until you can *hopefully* eventually convince her that you do want to be with her, you're not seeing someone else, your mates are not more important than her, etc. etc. or (b) you let her go, nurse your sore heart for a while then hopefully meet another girl who doesn't have the same problems to overcome. Best wishes to you! :-)
2007-02-13 05:29:04 · answer #5 · answered by GoldieMeg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why didnt you talk to her about this before you broke up with her?maybe she is heartbroken now wondering what the hell she did wrong when it could have been put right by you explaining.
Maybe give her another chance if you still like her a lot,it cant do any harm can it,if it doesnt work finish it again,at least she wont be able to say she didnt know why.
2007-02-13 05:29:40 · answer #6 · answered by Pat R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still love her and feel you wanna work on it, give it a try dear. Honesty is really the best policy....try talking to her openly....let her maybe try to explain why she acts that way....both of you try to be objective....don't get defensive....talking works wonders trust me :)
You two should each understand how the other feels...you'd be surprised at how many problems arise between couples due to lack of communication....and it usually is much simpler than it all seems.
Good luck :)
2007-02-13 05:26:03 · answer #7 · answered by big h 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you think shes worth it tell her even if you 2 don't get back together it will help her in the long run .r u very popular and shes not,i think she has no confidence and needs you for everything plz talk to her and help her sort this out.
2007-02-13 05:50:41 · answer #8 · answered by eld 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes pls tell her..or els it would hurt her so much..true, she will b wondering wher de hell she went wrong..and if she decided to change she most probably had understood you..pls gif her a chance.or els you will nvr know..you do love her dont you..?
dont just dump away the times you ppl spent together wit each other..she was like that coz true,she's insecure and loves u so darn much...
2007-02-13 05:56:42 · answer #9 · answered by p3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you really like her you should just tell her. she might not realise shes doing it. let her know how your feel and then if nothing changes at least you can say uv tried and can then move on without thinking "what if id just told her"!!
2007-02-13 05:27:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just explian to her that you need to spend some time with your friends. i always call my partner when it's 1 am and his not home because i am worried that something happens to him and just want to know his fine but she should leave you more breathing space
2007-02-13 05:45:02 · answer #11 · answered by grannyatlondon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋