Still about my BF of 4yrs. He's everything i must have want in a guy: Caring, looks, support in everything and Love. But the thing is, he's so jealous of everything. My friendster, my Myspace and my Emails. (As you can notice, these issues were from the internet only. Honestly for me, i think there is no biggie to accept INVITES from other people - I mean, it is just in the internet. You are not exposing everything about you on it. Anyway, I dont flirt nor hide that i'm in a relationship, i just wanted to increase my friends count that's why i am accepting these INVITES, but he cant understand that)
Don't you think his jealousy problems give him the right to check on my emails more often than myself? His reason, if i'm not hiding anything, why i need to be bothered. What do you think?
2007-02-12 21:13:33 · 5 answers · asked by clai 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Personal e-mails are TOTALLY PRIVATE. He is completely violating your privacy by doing this. Would you let him listen in on your phone calls? Eavesdrop on your private conversations with friends and family? It's the same thing. Being your BF or even husband gives him no special rights to violate your privacy. He has no right to read your e-mails if you don't want him to. It doesn't matter that you "have nothing to hide". He also cannot see any of your social internet information unless you let him. He has a problem with jealousy and it sounds like it's pretty bad.
He doesn't trust you and he probably never will. Trust is a HUGE part of a healthy relationship and he lacks that so is he really "everything" that you want in a guy?
2007-02-12 21:22:31 · answer #1 · answered by lupin_1375 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he has trust issues with you and is concerned obviously about who you talk to online and about what. If you know there is no reason for him to act the way he is (I know some ppl who think it is inappropriate for their partner to be concerned when they have reason to be so just to clarify), then stand firm and tell him there is no good reason why he should check your emails, their conversations that you have and he should respect your privacy.
Btw, does he let you look at his email or, if he doesn't have, his mobile, whenever you want?
2007-02-12 21:55:10 · answer #2 · answered by OziGirl_222 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is everything you want, if you want an insecure ahole. If he is this jealous, he is cheating on you too. That is his mindset. So put the shoe on the other foot. Tell him to want to check up on his activity. See who he is calling and chatting with. Look beneath the surface a little and you will be surprised. He is trying to distract you from his behavior by constantly accusing you.
2007-02-12 21:20:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
jealousy is the worst trait you can have in a guy. As it stands, this relationship may not be headed in the right direction. If you want it to work, have him get help and fast. If not, dump him, and find someone who loves you, and trusts you. I could go on an on about jealousy, PLEASE BE CAREFUL, don't let this go on.
2007-02-12 21:18:57 · answer #4 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He clearly has control issues. Did you know that excessive possessiveness is one of the signs of a potential abuser? I would get out of this relationship before things get worse, if I were you. Believe me, they will not get better.
2007-02-12 22:36:35 · answer #5 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋