okay do all of you think that me getting married 6 months before i turn 18 is wrong? ive known this guy since i was 13 engaged since 14 tell me honestly be nice
2007-02-12 20:49:51 · 23 answers · asked by angelfoever2003 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
No! It's not wrong--if you love him, and he'll be good to you. Back in the day, girls used to marry at 13 and have kids by 15 was a normal thing.
2007-02-12 20:53:28 · answer #1 · answered by jakkibluu 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I don't think it is wrong at all as long as it is okay with your parents since you aren't 18 yet. My current fiance and I were going to get married before I was 18 and they were willing to let me and sign the paper saying that I could because they trusted us but we decided to wait until we were older and now we are officially getting married this April and I am 23. Just after high school when I was in college was very rough on our relationship. In those 4 years you really grow a lot and if you don't grow together then it will never work. We are still very much in love and glad that we waited. If you do go through with the wedding I wish you well and remember your husband should be your best friend, tell him everything!!!!
2007-02-13 07:29:48 · answer #2 · answered by Vogue 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To be perfectly honest with you, sweetie, at 13 and 14 you really have no idea what love is nor do you know the responsibilities that come with marriage. And you've only been with that one guy for that long. How do you know he's the one? I dated a guy from the age 14 to 19 off and on. When we broke up the last time, he came out of the closet a month later. After that, he felt he could tell me anything and he let me know he'd cheated on me many times while we were together. Trust me, dear. You don't want to marry the first and only guy you've dated. It always ends badly.
2007-02-13 01:40:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I think that although you are in love now, most people change the most between 18 and 21. I know that if the man I loved at 18 (had been with him since 15) had of asked me to marry him, I would have. But I also know that we grew apart by my 20th birthday, but it took me till my 21st for us to break up.
From my own experience I would suggest you wait till you are 21, but ultimately and honestly - if you had no doubts you probably wouldn't be asking us. Perhaps these doubts are also an indication that you are not quite ready for this level of commitment yet either- and that would be normal
2007-02-12 21:36:15 · answer #4 · answered by Isabel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, you are way too young! You have no concept of life or what is out there, trust me. There are so many experiences you need to have and not necessarily as a wife. You need to find the adult you and have experiences. If you get married now, you will regret it for the rest of your life. You are still a baby and have no idea what you will be missing, which isn't fair to you or your future husband. And engaged since 14, what???????? That is crazy!
2007-02-16 16:26:59 · answer #5 · answered by Rhode Island Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, you're too young. I can't tell you how many times I've seen girls getting married young then starting a family right away. When they get into their 20's, they want to start hanging out with their friends and going to bars all the time because they feel they missed out. The husband and kids become neglected and the marriage fails.
You need to experience life before settling down, otherwise you may end up resenting your family.
2007-02-13 00:48:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, too young..... and the fact my mother was married at 18 and has been very unhappy for most of her life... doesn't help my mind set. I am 30 getting married.... I have traveled, I have my own house and car..... I have done everything that I have every wanted to do on my own. I finally now feel like I am ready to get married but even 5 years ago at age 25.... I would have thought that was too young.
2007-02-12 21:33:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are way to young to be married, go get an education, get a good job than settle down, to many things can happen by getting married so young why rush it. I am giving you advice I tell my own nieces and nephews, and the one decided not to listen, they had a kid and neither have an education, or the ability to find a job, why do something like that to yourself
2007-02-13 07:29:23 · answer #8 · answered by scarlett13854 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are your parents ok with it? because if they aren't, and you're not emancipated you won't be able to marry until you're at least 18 anyway. by law that's how it works for minors. you're young, but you 2 have been together for a long time as well, so i would say, be prepared for hardships ahead (college sucks, trust me, i've been engaged since i was 16, and a long distance realtionship sucks....you'll miss him a lot!!!!! and then there's fiancial problems, whic i don't need to get started on...) but if you know he's who you want to spend your life with, and you're the same for him, go for it!!! good luck!!!
2007-02-12 23:54:42 · answer #9 · answered by Duelen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a little young, but it is your life and you must learn your own lessons. I knew a girl that married at age 16 and is still happy more than 10 years later, but my own marriage (age 19) fell apart after 3 years.
2007-02-12 22:16:26 · answer #10 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you were engaged at 13 ??? you have no idea what your doing why were you seeing a guy a 13 let me guess your sleeping with him at 14 ???
2007-02-12 21:04:52 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋