My guy and I have bin 2geda for about a year….
Lately ( within the last 8wks) he’s bin asking questions about my past ( which am honest with off cos) but he doesn’t seem convinced about the number of guys I’ve bin with nor does he believe “how far” I’ve gone with them.
I love him very much (has a great personality and steady character) but he’s beginning to get on my nerves with his constant distrust and inquisition about my past.
My question is; has anyone ever dealt with this level of jealousy before? How did you handle it?
2007-02-12 20:46:52 · 9 answers · asked by Hobbit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
From the tone of your question, it appears to me like u’r unusually defensive when he asks u about your past.
I’m not saying that he has a right to leery, it only appears to me like he’s abit insecure about something which is probably due to yr response: bottom line, u give an impression that there is something to hide.
My boy friend is just as u’ve described yrs, and I observed that the day I started not bin defensive was when the inquiries stopped.
Example; when he stylishly asks me about my past, I come clean as much as I can - smiling and calmly. And I make him understand its him I want to be with and no one else.
Over time I’ve come to realize that all men could be insecure about their wives or girl friends if they believe she’s every other guys dream.
I guess his jealousy is at the beginning stages, just nip it in the bud.
2007-02-13 18:14:20 · answer #1 · answered by Deb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was once in the same situation.This guy that I rejected a while ago went and told my Bf alot of BS. Any way he exaggerated everything and made it lok like i was such a harlot. So my BF didn't want to confront me and asked for my past. I told him what i thought was enough info, but he was still disturbed. I heard that vibe from someone else and i left it to my BF to ask his questions,. Then one day i sat him down at warned him, if he ever heard crap from people and believed it, he would be going out with those people instead. So he got over it. He trusts me totally
2007-02-13 04:55:01 · answer #2 · answered by cynnie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
put it to him straight. what is the problem? i have answered your questions. which are really none of your business. if this is not good enough for you then we need to reconsider our relationship! I know this sounds scary because he could agree and things may not go the way you want. But do you want to continue life with someone who does not believe in you? jealousy is a bad emotion to let seep into your lives. you need to talk and get to the bottom of what is really bothering him or your future is in jeopardy.
2007-02-13 05:04:09 · answer #3 · answered by Kim C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My fiance is a jealous man, i just have to put up with it...
When i feel that he is jealous coz of something, i slowly discuss it with him and try to convince him and since he trusts me, i usually convince him...
If u really love your bf and he is worth the effort, u should learn how to deal with jealousy issues and endure it...
2007-02-13 05:05:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i`m dealing with that level of jealous as we speak the more u ask them why they want to know the more they think ur lying so be truthful with them and if he keeps asking tell him how u feel about talking about ur past
2007-02-13 04:51:13 · answer #5 · answered by loca mami 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should see that he realising what he's doing and talk to him gently about this and that all your relationship had to come to an end if he doesn't trust you because a relationship had to have trust involved.
2007-02-13 04:54:17 · answer #6 · answered by notoriousteen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think u have to put it stright forward.......u just tell him next time that u told him already wbout ur past but y he keep on asking againa dn again?????????
tell him that what u need to do to stop him asking this question???? Ask him what he wants to hear ........and tell him u will say what ever he wanst to hear so that he can stop asking this question!!!!!
If he dont stop even then record ur voice and when ever he ask same question again ....then just play that sound......he himself will be embarrased...............
or can do this also......everyday without his asking when ever u talk to him.......then start telling about ur past......and tell him that before u ask i m going to answer...........
may be this will help!!!!!!!!!111
2007-02-13 04:55:55 · answer #7 · answered by summeravi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I left...it only gets worse...good luck
2007-02-13 04:50:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i cried, but its life...
2007-02-13 04:51:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋