what do i do? we have been going out for about a year and a half now and she constantly puts other things like when im trying to talk with her about something serious she will go watch a movie on her computer or say i have to go download this song. she does things like this all the time. also if i am late going somewhere and i cant leave because i need to talk to her but she is on the phone with her mom. she wont try to hurry up the conversation or write a note to me or anything. i try to whisper to her and she just signals for me to be quiet. i feel so dumb and like a second class person to her. like the least important thing to her is more important than my most important thing. i dont know what to do about this but its really making me resent her and get angry about it. and when i confront her she makes up excuses than apologizes and eventually does it again. its a cycle!
2007-02-12 20:11:26 · 15 answers · asked by help me please 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i knew someone in a similar situation. leave her and tell her why. get yourself a sweet girl that won't make u her *****. she doesn't own u and ur parents don't even have that right. Only prisoners in jail have the right to be those kinds of bitches cause they lost all their rights when they did whatever got them there. leave. u will only get angrier and more pissed off and one day u will snap and call it quits anyway but then u could have lost out on 2,3,4,5 years of life and ur soul mate might have married someone else. why waste ur life being unhappy and angry when u could be having the most exciting time of ur life. don't even play games with her trust me. tell her it is over. don't listen to her bs and there will be lots and lots of it. don't argue just say i am leaving u. u are controlling and i am unhappy. i am going to find a girl that makes me happy. do not apologize. be prepared for her to be super bitchy and jealous and make ur life really annoyinig for awhile. get a rest. order if u have to. also look happy about the future and tell her how u see the light now and how u would feel sorry for her if she wasn't such a controlling whatever. easy way out have her come home and u one day are just gone. avoid places u normally go and things u normally do she will stalk u. this way u don't have to worry about her talking u out of leaving. then get a new life make new friends and move on. if u want u can make friends with an asshole and pass her on to her and leave a note on her door that says u two deserve each other. i am not an evil morbid girl and i play by the golden rule unless it is an obvious mistake. but u mess with me u get it back i don't like all that disrespecting crap. if ur a loyal honest sincere partner u should never treat the other different than what u want and if that happens i get pissed. little stuff oh well when it gets into the major leagues i get pissed and get revenge but im fair till that point. id rather a guy just tell me straight up and then i'd be gone just like that if we couldn't work it out. if he isn't happy neither am i. thats how it goes.
2007-02-12 20:40:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will only treat you bad as long as you let her. Its only a cycle as long as you play your part Try dancing to another tune like, if she is on the phone - leave. Blow her a kiss and leave. If you are trying to talk with her about serious issues and she runs to the computer, leave. Don't have to be nasty but remove yourself from the situation. Once she realises (probably after a while cause she sounds self-absorbed) that you are not going to participate in her manipulative or self obsessed attitude then she may change. If she doesn't perhaps consider you two are meant for other people.........if she aint putting you first now, is it likely to change in the future?
2007-02-12 20:20:30 · answer #2 · answered by kelstar 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi Help, This girl is going to always put her need way before yours. I would say it's time to move on and get someone who cares about you,and see you as equal partners. This is the best thing for you. A Friend.
Clowmy
2007-02-12 20:21:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont want to scare you but that immdietly means that she dosnt love you as much as you love her. No matter what happens if someone truly loves you then they would put you in front of anything else. Well not the BIG thing in lifes but small things such as the ones that you mentioned. Just gotta deal with it...if you cant then walk away. Thats the single hardets thing we face in a relationship..does she love me as much as i love her? O and remember love is demonstarted...dosnt matter how much she says she loves you. Still dosnt change the fact that you are second to her.
2007-02-12 20:19:40 · answer #4 · answered by aocz15 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She is definately treating you like a second clas. i was once told that the most painful thing you can do to someone is to imitate their bad habts.Try to do the sane to her and when she asks about it tell her how you feel when she acts the same.
I always act that way when I have something else on my mind but it is not as often as she does.she definately wants you to lose the little you have got in terms in confidence and esteem so that she can trample all over you
2007-02-12 20:19:09 · answer #5 · answered by cynnie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she doesnt respect you. she isn't even validating your existence and that is what is causing your anger (which is justified anger, and isn't bad) You need to be assertive and tell her your concerns. Tell her your toughts and see if she complies with some of them. Don't tell her not to do something. Just state what you think. You will never change people. If she has any intelligence or decency she will try to comply with your requests if you present them in a respectful manner.
2007-02-12 20:18:35 · answer #6 · answered by Joe 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it is time to find a new girlfriend. there is no point in staying with her as she is not that interested in you when she puts you last in her priority. i know you probably love her but it will mean years of pain for you eventually if you stay together. she can't change because that is her personality and character. she will always do this to you.
2007-02-12 20:18:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
,It seem like she don't care about your feeling at all and that not good.
Tell her that you really need to talk to her, how she treat you like a kids and not caring about your feeling. If she can't respect you than you might have to leave her alone. Tell her you going to leave and if she don't care if you leave than she not the one for you.
2007-02-12 20:25:30 · answer #8 · answered by msredbonel1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ahh ok i have had experience in this you need to do this preciesly...
Igrnoe her for a while... do not pretend to notice... she is taking you for granted... so u do what you like...if u ask girl like this thier advice they think you cna not function without them so chill...
and be calm... do you own thing make some more female frinds (attractive ones)...
if she assk your opinion on some matter even if she looks god forexample.. find a little falut in it so she knwos ur seeing her critcally... u get me??
2007-02-12 20:22:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex was kind of like that and I didn't tell him and I just frustrated myself over it like you. But later when I broke up I told him everything and he asked me why I haven't told him sooner? and he said he could've changed for me (but bs that)
but what I'm tryin to get across here is that you should tell her straight up, b/c one of those people, they won't know what they're doing until someone picks it out in them.
g'luck!
2007-02-12 20:25:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋