I am new to my this company I'm workin....and, just after 2 meeting's in a training session with this male colleague, he can't seem to leave me alone. He seems keen in taking me out to dinner, but I have been declining his offer,... then later he ask me out again, I was pretty sure he's trying his luck again, in case you're wondering .... yes, I'm NOTintrested in this guy, but don't get me wrong, I do like him as a co-worker....He knows I'm available, however,...That's not gonna stop him from trying again even though I have tried telling him NO.
What do you think I should do?,.....so that I won't make things awkward,...cause after all, I am new to this work place :(
2007-02-12 20:06:45 · 28 answers · asked by dun_give_ a_ damn 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The nicest way to say no is to not be nice at all.
Being nice only gives the pursuer false hope.
Especially the persistant ones.
I would rather get shot down quickly instead of thinking that I might have a chance if I only keep trying.
You seem somewhat used to being the object of a man's desire.
You must have it going on.
2007-02-12 20:14:39 · answer #1 · answered by negrito con sabor 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just keep saying, sorry I'm quite busy these days. You keep declining, he will eventually get the idea. I find that guys don't even try 3 times, seems 3 times of consecutive rejection is the limit :)
an alternative is to take up his offer of dinner, be polite and nice, but if he brings up anything about you two being more, say something like "I would really like to be just good friends, I think you would make an excellent friend".
2007-02-13 04:09:45 · answer #2 · answered by Lilliana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I promise you the easiest way to tell him no is just saying to him that he is not your type and you are not romantically interested in him. I work at a bar so I get guys asking me over and over to the point were I have found the honest but cordial answer is the best. Good luck sweaty
2007-02-13 04:10:54 · answer #3 · answered by Jayani Min-Yi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Act like you mean it. In a very nice way, just say you really are NOT interested in dating ANYONE right now. Tell him you have too much going on in your life right now and to not take it personal. The next step would be to walk away and totally ignore him. Who cares if you're new to this job. Don't let him or them walk all over you.
2007-02-13 04:14:05 · answer #4 · answered by Nancy D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the obvious answer would be to tell him that you started to see someone or that someone asked you out. However if you dont want to say that then simply ignore him and hope for the best. We all give up at somepoint. Remember to never ever give him hope. Try to not laugh at his jokes and try to let him know that you dont like him at all. Men like to find hope in almost any little thing that you do. Like a smile towards them.
2007-02-13 04:14:00 · answer #5 · answered by aocz15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll need a quite convincing reason for that. Tell him that you have someone in a foreign country or simply you've just cut off with your bf and you don't want to go out with anyone else for the moment (you'll take a rest). Good luck.
2007-02-13 04:29:36 · answer #6 · answered by Ghaloushka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the same thing you just told us. Honesty is the best. If you tell him straight up what you think and how you feel, he has no room for guessing and everything is out in the open. It might hurt him, or he might act stubborn, but your point will be made with no confusion.
2007-02-13 04:18:48 · answer #7 · answered by flare_78942 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's already awkward. Nicest way to say "No" is to just say it honestly: "I'm not interested in you. You're cool as hell to work with, but that's about it. Sorry." Any kind of sugar coating will only make it worse in the long run.
2007-02-13 04:14:57 · answer #8 · answered by rastabudd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him something like this:
"I really think that you are a great guy and that there's a great girl looking for you right now, but it is not me and I want you to read my lips when I say: IT'S NOT ME. I also like working with you, that is why I would hate to see you fired on charges of sexual harassment. So, how are you today?"
2007-02-13 04:13:18 · answer #9 · answered by mrquestion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try just sitting down with him and saying your not interested. Maybe even say your interssted in someone else. Explain to him that the way he's persuing you is making you feel uncomfortable, and that it is making it difficult for you to work with him. If he keeps it up, I'd go to someone else in the company, such as your boss.
2007-02-13 04:11:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋