i need to tell my ex girlfriend the truth?

Question

my ex girlfriend is cool but her dad dosent let her date but we went out and true thing is i dont like her i went out with her because i was dared to by my best friend and i hurted my other best friend because he had a crush on her i want to tell her but im to chicken i dont want to hurt her feelings and she still like me but i have a girlfriend already

Answer 1

That makes you a jerkwad. Congrats, you (and people like you) are the reason why women have baggage.

Answer 2

OK, so you're potentially going to hurt 3 people here - your other best friend (I'm going to call him Carl), your ex-girlfriend (I'm going to call her Sandy) and your current girlfriend (Janine).

Sounds like Carl's already hurting from what you say - nothing you can do now, just apologize to him, and tell him the truth.

Janine's going to hurt too, when she finds you've cheated on her - especially on a dare! Here, you have two choices - be honest with her, and hopefully she'll forgive you. Or, keep it from her... and give her yet another reason to not trust you when inevitably she finds out.

And now for Sandy...
This is the one case in which I'd recommend making up a lie. I'd tell her that you think she's a great person and that someone is out there who is interested in her (maybe point her way toward Carl? *wink wink*), but that you didn't feel the connection you were hoping for. Make sure you make it positive! Compliment her as you reject her; make her feel good about herself even as you tell her you're not the right one for her.

Now, a consideration - once you tell someone something, you can't control who they repeat it to - Janine may get jealous and tell Sandy your real reason for seeing her, for example. Tell Sandy the 'truth' first (because what you are telling her is true, right? She is a good person - just not right for you!) - she'll have a harder time believing Janine if she hears it from you first - all she'll see from Janine is a jealous woman this way.

Answer 3

don't tell her about the bet just make her hate u or ignore her completely. It would be man like to come clean and tell her u dont' think it would work and then that u have to go. U kinda owe it to her to let her down easy since u created this situation. Did this make u a man in ur friends eyes. do they give u more respect. did u get what u wanted out of it. I'll bet they laugh at u behind ur back. if ur smart u can talk your way out of these situations before you commit like throwing the challenge back in ur friends face and throwing pressure his direction till he does it. then of course ur no better than him but ur not doing it. leave her alone u don't need her and it is fair if u cut her away from u as soon as possible. don't waste any more of her time. this isn't horrible but it is pussy like to give in to your friends pressure to hurt another human being for egotistical purposes but whatever. this is why women have all these emotional problems u never want to deal with. But live and learn. cut her loose piss her off don't tell her about the bet just make her hate u. and don't introduce her to ur other friends. let her be.

Answer 4

lol Sorry not funny I know...but your story is interesting. I guess you've learned a lesson. It all boils down to that ridiculous saying, 'If you're friends dared you to jump off a bridge, would you do it?'. I'd tell her about the dare and apologize. Then, I'd try and cheer her up a bit by telling her that your friend likes her. It wouldn't hurt to apologize to your friend too. And heck...why not tell him that you told her about him liking her...he may laugh after hitting you...lol Just kidding. Look...this is life...we all make mistakes. The only thing you can do now is try to make it right! And move on...Good Luck

Answer 5

You didn't think in the begining. Now you have to do some serious thinking. My dad always said that if you burn a candle at both ends it won't last long. So if I were you I would just tell her that you can't see her anymore because a friend likes her and you don't want to hurt him. About your girlfriend well you really screwed up. I don't know what to tell you aout that.

Answer 6

There's no point lying to yourself your not going to come clean. It takes a real man to do something like that and judging from your English you cannot be older than 12. Your probably going to come up with this wild and crazy excuse and in a week or two your going to forget about the whole thing. If I were in your situation I would drop everything and get an English tutor asap.

Anyway good luck stay in school and listen in class.

Answer 7

Excuse me to tell you that but what you did is really really bad... just put youself in this girl`s shoes... it is heartbreaking even for me....But if you really do not have feelings for the girl, reveal her the truth not harshly and apologise....

and please before involving someone`s feelings in a relationship because a relationship is important not a game or a tool for revenge or to fulfill a person`s desire.....

think thoroughly next time and don`t give a person false hopes because if a person is sincere and innocent and you do this to her, one day a person which you most unexpected may do this to you or you may have a difficult times in your sentimental life....but if you are sincerely sorry and apologise this might will erase a number of things.....

Answer 8

Girls come and go but your bestfriend that you hurt is the one you need to apologize to. It's hard to find true friends these days. Tell him the truth about it. He may be angry with you but at least he might respect your honesty. As for the girl you should be straight up about the situation and just tell her you like her as a friend. Let her know about that bestfriend of yours who likes her alot. This might divert her and soften the shock a little bit.

Answer 9

You don't have to tell her- you want to tell her to ease your guilty conscience. Telling her will only hurt her more than you've done already, and you don't deserve to have any weight lifted off your shoulders.

You're the jerk who thought it would be funny if you dated someone on a dare, so you're the one who needs to shut your mouth and live with the guilt. If she wants to know why you broke up with her, tell her the truth- she's too good for you.

Answer 10

i'd have self assurance her. I hate to declare it, besides the indisputable fact that apparently like she the two purely would not love you in a relationship way anymore or she's stumbled on yet another guy to this factor. considering she reported "date different persons" i actual think of that she stumbled on somebody else. in spite of everything, she's serious in that she needed to chop up up. BTW, are you 2 interior the comparable city or are you in a LDR? Are you the two the comparable age? those components could have a extensive impression on why you broke up. in case you're in yet another city attending college & are older than she is, it would desire to be that she needed some thing different than a protracted distance relationship.

Answer 11

I know the kind of dillema that you are in right now.but just feeling guilty about it says so much about you.It will be hard at first and she will definately resent you in the long run.But if the confesion will remove the guilt from your system then go for it. Just go and tell her that your friend is intrested in her and how you feel about you.Every one does something he regrets in life and you don't have to live with that burden