Me my hubby and 2 children wish to emigrate to Australia this year my hubby isnt close to his family so hes not concerned but me and my family are really close i have 2 sisters one would be able to visit but not the other and my parents could come over am i being selfish should i just be worrying about whats best for us or take their opinions into consideration?
2007-02-12 19:28:41 · 18 answers · asked by t bird 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I was nearly 21yrs old & migrated to Australia on my own, I was not close to my family so I found it easy, you can visit your family in your home land & they also can holiday to visit you & share in this beautiful country,
I SAY GO FOR IT, you wont regret it, dont let a fantastic chance of a lifetime slip you by.
I am now 47 & went back for a holiday myself last year for the first time, I was pleased that my decision to migrate 26 years ago was worth every moment I have been here.
With todays computers any one in the world is just an instant live messenger away, talk & see in real life with a cam & microphone which cost a couple of brass monkey's, good luck from Downunder.
2007-02-12 19:48:58 · answer #1 · answered by Mosez 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one. I live abroad and my daughter and family live 1 hour drive away from me so I visit alot. My sister lives in the UK. I love going to visit her but would not move back to the UK. However, the thought of moving somewhere else and not being able to see my 5 year old grand daughter is heartbreaking. But, when all is said and done, you have your own life to lead whilst you would obviously miss your family greatly you must think of your immediate family. Would moving to Australia improve your kids education and better your family life? I think we all know the answer to that one! So take your families thoughts into consideration but your husband and kids are your main concern. And I don't think you are being selfish at all.
Look at it this way....
What would someone else in your family do given the same opportunity, stay and be miserable just to keep you happy?
Go and make the most of it, offer your sister a flight ticket once a year and keep in touch by email on a regular basis, sending photos etc. I don't think my daughter and family would like it if I moved away, but they would certainly understand that I wouldn't do it unless I thought it would improve my life.
Good luck on your adventure
2007-02-12 19:39:07 · answer #2 · answered by rose1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why move to Australia? Just for the sake of moving? Your family would be devastated...trust me. I was contemplating moving about 300 miles away from my parents after being only 20 miles away, and my parents were crushed. I see my family normally about oonce every week or two, and we are all very close. If your family is anything like mine, it won't go over well at all. Besides, the grass really isn't greener anywhere else. Having lived overseas myself, you will miss the USA more than you think, with all the freedoms we enjoy.
2007-02-12 19:36:44 · answer #3 · answered by drbuns 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's great that you're so considerate of others feelings. I do think you need to do what's best for your children and I have to say I can understand anyone wanting to take children away from Britain whilst they're growing up now.
However, you need to ask yourself what problems you're looking to solve by moving to Australia or what differences in life you're looking for and then to be honest with yourself as to whether Australia will provide these things for you.
Second to that you need to weigh up if the gains outweight what you will 'lose'.
I think the welfare of your kiddies comes first in the list of needs here and if you think you can provide a better life for them in Australia go for it. You can always come back if it doesn't pan out how you wanted it to. However, bear in mind Australia has similar problems with alcohol, drugs etc so moving there won't mean escaping it altogether.
2007-02-12 19:35:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're between a rock and a troublesome position. Your existence isnt such as your ex anymore yet she needs to maintain you want a puppy canine. I guess she'd grant you with an identical crap in case you got here across yet another lady, too. Its none of her organization whete you stay, it really is between you and your children. Ask them how they experience. How about searching for some artwork close on your mum this is short-time period, for some months. See the way it is going. definite you owe your children, yet you owe your mum too. you're going to ought to commute lots. Telk your ex your causes, also tell her if she is going to be bloody minded and troublesome you and her will opt to rearrange shared custody by potential of the courts. Her preventing you from seeing your children basically because you pick to artwork and stay close on your ill mom is basically being a *****.
2016-10-17 06:51:16 · answer #5 · answered by svendsen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to think about yourself and what you want because if you stay put and dont go because of you parents etc you could end up resenting them for it. If you go and aint happy you can come back and will be able to say you gave it a go x x
2007-02-12 19:34:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should take your husband, and childrens view before that of your other family. They are your priorities. If your othr sister cannot visit, I am sure you can visit her. Enjoy your new life and good luck to you all.
2007-02-12 19:32:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have your own family now, they are your priority. Your sisters are grown-ups and should be leading their own lives. You have a real opportunity to a better quality of life, better opportunities for your children - go for it!
2007-02-12 21:24:17 · answer #8 · answered by Thia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go for it. There is plenty of ways to keep in touch. As she got a pc? if so why not set up a webcam link.
2007-02-12 19:44:32 · answer #9 · answered by richard_beckham2001 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try it out for a couple of years and see. Sure would be nice change.
Then if you dont like it , you can move back.
2007-02-12 19:31:37 · answer #10 · answered by Peter N 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋