How do you overcome shyness?

Answer 1

I'd like to know myself as well, I've had a huge problem with that all my life(I'm 22), shyness cost me my true love Rosalie. Shyness can create loneliness. I know how you feel, everyone who's not shy just says, "be yourself" and "just go for it". I know all that stuff, I want to know HOW to do it. But if you want a fast temporary cure, take a lot of sugar before you do anything, in high school I did that about an hour before a presentation, and it did help a bit.

Answer 2

Shyness, (sometimes inaccurately called 'social phobia'), affects most people at some time in their life. Young people in particular find overcoming shyness difficult as they improve their social skills. And for some, shyness seems to persist into adult life, almost as if it has become a 'habit'.

Shyness has its roots in self consciousness and usually dissipates as people mature and become more experienced. However, for some it can 'stick', and then action is required.

Although most people think in terms of 'overcoming shyness', it is more likely that you will become comfortable in social situations by learning the strategies of self confidence along with social skills. Then, shyness is no longer the issue, as social nerves will melt away as a new 'habit' takes their place.

Answer 3

Honestly, try psychiatric medicine. Like antidepressants can help a little. Or Ritalin, as ADD can result in shyness (this might be the case if you find you're in sort of a constant dream-state and have trouble feeling "with it" enough to respond properly to people in social situations).

In any case see a psychiatrist, as they might be able to find something useful. Don't expect an instant miracle cure, but medicine can definitely help over the long term.

The problem with being shy is that the very fact that you're shy can make it feel impossible to force yourself out of your shell. If you're like most shy people, when you do something outgoing you might end up feeling incredibly embarassed afterwards, and end up just avoiding doing anything outgoing because of this feeling. Antidepressants can help you feel less of that intense embarassment and over the long term you'll end up less afraid to do things.

Anxiety medicine would probably help alot for the same reason, though I have no experience with it or friends with experience with it, so I can't say much about that.

Of course improving your self-confidence and stuff is good too if you can manage it. You might want to try deliberately putting yourself into a situation with lots of new people (who don't already think of you as shy), where you'll be forced to socialise for an extended period of time, like an overnight camp. If you're really shy it will suck, but it will definitely build character and you can end up MUCH less shy after such an experience.

Answer 4

I suggest you join a speech club, it helps many shy people become confidence in their speaking skills. The reason shy people don't speak much is because they are more self-aware of their mistakes than others. ie. What will people think of me if I make a mistake? Or say something wrong?

I used to be really shy until I joined the local Toastmasters club. Now I can't wait to give speeches... something I was too shy to do before. In the Toastmasters setting, you can make mistakes all you want and get constructive feedbacks on what people think you should improve. As you practice, you will gain speaking, listening and leadership skills. Good luck to you!

Answer 5

By meditation and prayer you can tide over shyness.

Your prayer is from your heart. Further You must have to understood the fact that God is present in our heart. This can be realised in meditation. Further we are the creation of our own destiny. As per Hindu sacred religion, we carry all good and bad deeds life after life. There is no end unless we pray for unification of self with the divineliness.
Hence there is always a possible way to complete mergence with God in this life by a simple and wonderful meditation

Answer 6

Spend more time with lots of different people.
Even try going back to places a few times & seeing regular faces. before you know it, you know your place within a group or crowd and the shyness will go aay.
Spending time with people will help you get to know yourself.

Answer 7

You can take positive actions, like striking up small talk with people you meet in line at the grocery store. But remember, there is nothing wrong with shyness unless it is crippling in the sense that you cannot talk to even your boss about anything at all.

Answer 8

put yourself in that uncomfortable situation and keep pushing (talking/doing things that you wouldn't usually do). Just use the fact that it is a challenge to inspre you to go for it! because once you start thinking of placing yourself out of your comfort zone as a great challenge you can explore, it will then make it easier for you to place yourself in that situation and hence develope a resistance to shyness.

Answer 9

Try to develop a deeper sense of self and self-esteem. Ask youself why you are shy. Are you worried about being rejected by others or are you an introvert. If you are worried about being rejected you may need to deeply evaluate these feelings of insecurity with a therapist. If you are an introvert it may just be that you dont talk to people who you dont know.

Answer 10

Being shy in some instances is normal but being shy all the time? maybe there's something wrong in you. Self Awareness and acceptance are the two most important factors. It is very important to know your strengths, weaknesses, and limitations and acccept these things for you to shine.