my mom approves but dad wont sign the papers to get married does anyone know if only one parent can sign i live in alabama i really want to get married someone help me plz give me some info
2007-02-12 19:14:55 · 12 answers · asked by angelfoever2003 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I'd wait until you're atleast 18 hun. Don't rush your life so much, you're only that young once. I've had a couple guys in my life where I've been with them for a period of time and think "I want to get married now!" but later on, it didn't work out... now had I married those guys, I'd be divorced already and I'm only 23. I'm just saying... wait if you can. There's no need to rush your life so fast and regret it later. I'm guessing this is where your dad is coming from.
I know what it's like to be in love at 16, that's when I had my first love. Just keep in mind that things can happen later in life.. you still have to decide on a college for one. Take a step back and look at what your guys' life would be like in 1 year, 3 years, 5 years, .... etc.
2007-02-12 19:21:11 · answer #1 · answered by mattysmommy2004 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop being so selfish spoiled child and wait until you turn 18 and make the decision on you own when you have the legal right to do so and be willing to accept the legal responsibilites of doing so also, such as getting a full-time job to support yourself and not asking Mom or Dad for any financial help, especially in the event it does not work out. They should not have to pay for your selfish mistakes.
If your Mom signs paperwork for you to marry behind your Father's back, how much longer do you think THEY will be married? If you had a daughter your age, would you like it if she caused the same rift between you and the fella you are claiming you love enough to marry?
2007-02-12 19:27:05 · answer #2 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest living together first, you might think you two know each others habits but you don't until you live with one another. Also, getting married so young will only make one of you feel tied down. You need to experience life while you can. It's a whole new world that you don't want to enter when you are young.
2007-02-12 19:24:49 · answer #3 · answered by budda nipples 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to live with the guy for a while first, i think your dad is right. i have been with my boyf for 9 years now and we started going out when i was 16, we have lived together for about 8 years and we are now only planning our wedding. i would wait a while, because as in love as you are now things change when you live together. some times for the worse, but mostly for the better, my other half and i are stronger now than we have ever been. i would live together for a while first, wait until you can get married without consent.
whatever you do i wish you the best of luck.
2007-02-12 19:57:50 · answer #4 · answered by frost7216 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life is more thn getting hitched! Wht bout college, travel the world, backpack through europe or china, etc There are million of things out there screaming ur name. Dont limit urself or ur freedom or ur youth or ur individuality by getting tied down. A friend of mine was in similar dilema whn she was 17 but thn her bro forced her go to college and tht friend of mine is happy today. She goes to classes, teaches poor kids in slums for free, and always busy. The guy she was supposed to marry now it seems never really loved her and actually was two-timing her. I am not saying ur bf is like that but if u get married now, one day he might hate u for limiting his potentials or chances and u might do the same. True love waits and does not impede the one u love. If it is meant to be he will wait for you if not thn maybe he never sincerely loved u.
2007-02-12 21:10:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't get married yet. Do you want to go into the world of cooking, cleaning, shopping at 17? Finish your education, travel a bit first.
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2007-02-12 19:22:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would just wait until I was of legal age to do whatever I wanted. That way just in case it didn't work out, which I hope doesn't happen to you by the way, but just in case... well, think of this way: Your parents can't blame each other for letting you get married and if it doesn't work out, you can accept that responsibility yourself for getting married.
2007-02-12 23:31:39 · answer #7 · answered by ladybug 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do you want to get married? I didn't get married until I was 25. Don't rush it. You have your whole life ahead of you. Live life to its fullest. Do everything you've wanted to do. See the USA. Get an education.
Things to think about.....
If you settle down now, you will ask yourself later...."what if".
2007-02-12 19:19:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
wait 'til u turn 18. if u still feel the same, then go for it.
2007-02-12 19:23:30 · answer #9 · answered by DoMeStIc GoDdEsS 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it is crazy!!!! first live with the person and see how it goes..... then u will see.
2007-02-12 19:21:45 · answer #10 · answered by ambershela69 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋