I'm usually shy around guys and I like this one guy in my class not to mention i've had small talk with him but I don't really know how to give him hints that I really like him and I want to get him to notice me....any suggestions?
2007-02-12 19:12:24 · 12 answers · asked by Mitch 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be sure that his attention is what you want. Don't try to get a guy to look your way just because you want attention and you want to feel good about yourself. You don't want to lead someone on.
Be yourself. Everyone probably says this, but it's true! No guy wants a girl to pretend she is something she's not. Any guy who does want a fake kind of girl is not a guy whose attention is worth having. Resist the temptation to put on a show or to do anything that just isn't you just to get his attention.
Get a new look. Don't change who you are, just try something different. Try a new hairstyle, new clothes, etc. It's a good idea to change things up once in a while, just because variety's the spice of life, and it might help you catch his eye.
Smile and make eye contact. Whether closed-mouth or open-mouth, do it. Unless it really makes you feel artificial, learn how to shoot people a reassuring smile, letting them know that you're a happy and confident person who wants to enjoy life. The idea is to communicate that you're inviting their company.
Flirt. Do it as little or as much as you want, but remember that too much flirting (especially with other guys) will likely get him to take notice, but perhaps not in a good way.
Try to be around him often, such as sitting near him. Take interest in the activities he's interested in him, not just so that you can get near him but also so that you can get to know him better and so you can broaden your own horizons.
Talk to him. Try to get to know him a little by discussing things you have in common. A good way to start a conversation is to ask him a question. Listen to him and don't interrupt him when
he is talking. You could even compliment him or ask for help.
Make him feel special. There's got to be a reason that you want him to notice you, and that's because you noticed him first. Let him know--subtly--that you're interested in who he is, that you respect something about him, and that you sincerely want to get to know him better.
Be brave and stand up for who you are, and what you believe in.
Ultimately, this will catch the attention and respect of someone who is going to work well for you, even if it turns out not to be this guy.
Tips
Be sure to have gum, breath mints, Listerine strips, etc. around in case you need to freshen up quickly, especially if you're hoping to start a conversation.
It's always a good idea to keep yourself well-groomed. While there are guys who get uncomfortable and intimidated if you're all dolled up, it never hurts to stick to a few hygiene basics: shower daily, brush your teeth regularly, use deodorant, keep your hair decent (not perfect, but decent), and take care of your skin.
Better yet, stay healthy!
Speak your mind. You're not a drone, and any guy worth having will love it. Just don't scare them by going into a spiel. It's a turn-on to see a girl who loves her mind, not one who's bent on world domination. Likewise, don't get caught up in complaining (about yourself, others, your circumstances). Negativity pushes others away, and it lowers your self-esteem.
If you cannot relate to any of his interests, or even make a genuine effort to get into it, there will never be ground for a lasting relationship anyway. Dump your intentions now.
Being too straightforward might mean leaving him bored. One way to get someone's attention is to make him curious, and that means leaving him guessing to some degree.
Warnings
Be careful whose attention you're getting, and what kind of attention you're earning.
Being noticed by a sleazy guy who'll pressure you to do things you don't want to do or a needy guy who'll cling to you and make you feel limited is something you can avoid by being wary.
You can't get everyone to notice you. Remember that guys come and go, so do not stress yourself if things do not work out in your favor. You are a normal, complete person all on your own, and you don't need a guy's attention to be happy.
Being too obsessive can do the opposite of what you want to achieve, pushing him farther away. If he just won't become attracted to you, leave it alone. Do not push it, or things might get ugly, and you'll earn a bad reputation.
2007-02-12 19:18:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most effective way to get his attention is to start a conversation with him. ANY conversation. On a Friday, you might casually ask if he has big plans for the weekend, and try to find way in. Sometimes saying something simple like complimenting his shirt, or hair or something can go a long way. Smiling a lot helps. Guys tend to remember girls more when they were smiley and friendly.
2007-02-13 03:17:33 · answer #2 · answered by drbuns 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually guys enjoy when girls come talk to them. Ask him a question about something he is wearing or what he thinks of this or that about the class. If he likes you or comes to like you, you will know it. You might also find out he is not worth your time.
2007-02-13 03:16:38 · answer #3 · answered by TCSO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep talking to him, don't seem to interested.... I'll tell you a secret males like to chase ,,, they like the hunt, to be hard to get makes most try harder. but remember they will tell you anything to make the "kill" and once that is done they are on to the next "Hunt"
Just be nice and yourself and talk he'll notice you.
Good luck
Be careful
2007-02-13 03:20:09 · answer #4 · answered by S h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk about movies or music. Small things like that to see what his interests are. What about food? Everyone loves desserts!
Desserts are my downfall.
2007-02-13 03:16:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just act like the way you act, he'll find the cuteness in you and think of that as flirts.
or just pass him a cute little note :)
g'luck!
2007-02-13 03:24:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk to him and ask him if he wants to go hang out sometime...see what happens from there
2007-02-13 03:16:28 · answer #7 · answered by kauaichic420 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. i am also sailing in the same boat.
2007-02-13 03:22:08 · answer #8 · answered by prabhakar_ace 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
touching when talking
it doesn't seem like much, but trust me
2007-02-13 03:15:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
accdg to my friendz: It's bad to flirt. Why not try to impress him.........
befriend him
2007-02-13 03:19:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋