I have no choice but to see this person in public places. I know I can't keep running away and avoiding and hiding etc. I have been trying my best to just go on and live as I did before, but it is so painful. How do I keep myself together? (I feel like shattered glass when I see this person and I have been sweeping up the pieces for a few days now.) I am so mad at myself for allowing this to happen. I swore I would never fall for anyone again and yet it happened. Darn human nature. I have been trying to keep myself busy and trying to think about other things and yet it lingers like a fly buzzing around me.
2007-02-12 19:08:10 · 13 answers · asked by teetalla 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Start Dating their Friends
2007-02-12 19:11:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can sure relate to this. I've battled this one many times but my 2nd husband has been an on/off relationship for 15 yrs. The only thing I do know as far as letting go and getting on with your life is to live through the pain. You have to find things to keep you busy and that you like to do. I've found that when I help someone else it makes me feel much better about myself. Be glad for the good times you had. Always remember the bad times in very short spurts. Enough to remind you of the reasons your better off without this person. I did the Joyce Meyer books to save myself. I hated reading until I found her books. Even if your not a christian, the advice she gives will prove lifesaving. It's proven it takes about 2 years to get over a relationship rather it personal, family etc... There is a grieving process that all have to go through. Always look at each experience as a learning process to make you ready for the next phase of your life or person in your life. Once I was told that we are sent things into our lives to act like sandpaper to remove the ruff edges off of us. Its a refineing process that will only make us stronger and better each time we go through it. Good luck
2007-02-13 03:21:19 · answer #2 · answered by nannasducky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you should not be hiding because you didn't do anything wrong, you have NOTHING to be ashamed of. You should be proud to have loved, gave it your best. Hold your head up high, be kindly to everyone. When you pass your ex, you don't want him/her seeing your shattered and broken do you? Wouldn't you rather make your ex wonder "why did I ever leave you?"--make him/her regret breaking up with you by seeing how glorious you are all on your own, how confident, how kind and loving, how wonderful. Always look your best just in case you do run into him/her. Smile but you don't have to do any more than that. Make you ex feel that maybe he/she made a big mistake by letting you go. Don't punish yourself.
2007-02-13 03:39:01 · answer #3 · answered by Inundated in SF 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear teet,
its not like that, u can not blame all the fishes against a particular one. U can say that ur assessment was wrong by choosing of that person. but the same time its also true if u can assess perfectly to choose a friend, bf or life partner than ur life will be very easy and simple. plz remember that the life is so tough that cannot be spent easly without a sweet friend to whom u can share ur every type of feelings. So forget about the past and put ur efforts by making a good present and ur future wil automatically improved.
take care...........bye
2007-02-13 03:22:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of time will heal. Get busy doing other things and doing things for yourself. When you see the person, act like nothings has ever happened. Just say a simple hi if you have to and move on quickly out of their way. Live a life of happiness and maybe they will see that nothing phases you and that you have moved on in life.
2007-02-13 04:07:19 · answer #5 · answered by anjoek5859 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your head up, stay strong, Don't let him see you looking down.Try something different in your life, meet new people, go out on a date, let him see you happy with your date or friends. Take up a hobby. When you feel strong enough, say hello to him with a smile and walk away. Let him know your happy without him and you have move on to better things in life and not tripping over his sorry a??
2007-02-13 03:31:11 · answer #6 · answered by msredbonel1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know its much easier said then done, but time is a very good healer. its okay if u still cry and still feel hurt, in the end it will only make u a stronger person. try and keep ur side clean and be the good one. dont do things u will regret later. remember God wont put things in ur life u wont be able to handle.
2007-02-13 03:19:03 · answer #7 · answered by tinkabel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, just remember that you have self-control. You're strong. Other people can do it, so why can't you? remember to keep your head up when you're around this person and remember that you broke up for a reason. Be strong girl!
2007-02-13 03:12:48 · answer #8 · answered by azi g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn and take it as an experience...no point being hurtful for someone who doesn't appreciate u. Think of it this way, it's his lost that he lost u....be happy n have confident in urself, just don't be like him...plenty of nice single guys out there...u just need to be patient to meet one. What goes around comes around, he will get what he deserve.
2007-02-13 03:16:17 · answer #9 · answered by DooGie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the best way to get over a relationship is to get out try other people,than the ones thay hurt you
2007-02-13 03:14:09 · answer #10 · answered by game boy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋