I dont think I have a problem because i can walk past and bookies and go weeks without gambling. However when I start I just simply cant stop, it gets to the point where I spend my entire monthly wages in one day. Other times though I can go 2-3 months without spending a penny. I really want to stop but I cant seem to. I dont want to go to somewhere like Gamblers Anon becasue my girlfriend would wonder where im going to every week. Any help?
2007-02-12 19:04:24 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Games & Recreation ➔ Gambling
I have made an effort in trying to stop. I have cut up all my bank cards but its still so easy going in to the bank with ID and also online gambling.
2007-02-12 19:11:46 · update #1
Richard N, I have lied about gambling and I really am ashamed of myself. Do you think its possible to do this by myself instead of relying on GA?
2007-02-12 19:28:59 · update #2
Hi Daniel:
Although you don't gamble consistantly when you do it is difficult to stop. This is similar to the weekend alcholic syndrome. "Although I don't drink all week, on the weekends I don't know when to stop"! I would suggest you get in touch with someone regarding this behavior, addiction is something that most people can't help on their own. I believe if your girlfriend is really the "one", she will be supportive of you. I have attached a link for you to check out and I suggest to you that you contact someone.
The fact that you recognize you have addictive behavior already is a step in the right direction.
I wish you luck!
http://www.gamblersanonymous.org/
2007-02-13 02:45:19 · answer #1 · answered by John S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gambling is a form of escapism, anything that gives you a buzz, drugs, gambling, alcohol are the main ones and each one starts off when you think you are in control and make excuses up as you say you can go 2 or 3 months without gambling, some alcoholics can do the same without having a drink. Being addicted to something is just how you described it, that when you start you can't stop. I don't know what corner your life will turn but gamblers usually end up with nothing before they seek help, so the fact you realise you may be heading for a problem is a good sign so try and focus on day by day without gambling, if you cannot do this then seek professional help.
2007-02-13 21:18:31 · answer #2 · answered by georgeygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do have a problem, but only you can solve it. Find your closest branch of Gamblers Anonymous (you should be able to find them in the phone book), and make sure you attend. Have you lied to your girlfriend yet about where your wages have gone, or where you've been when you've blown your wages? Hidden bank or credit card statements? If you have, then you have to get help now. If you haven't, you will unless you get some help.
Trust me, as the partner of an addictive gambler, the worst thing is not the gambling, it's the being lied to that really hurts.
GA will not criticise you or force you to reveal anything you don't want to. They are a support group whose sole interest is to stop you from gambling. In this context, gambling means bookies, slot machines, lottery - anything where you try to win money by spending money.
The quicker you go and admit that you have a problem the easier it will become - that first step is the hardest.
Good luck.
2007-02-12 19:26:06 · answer #3 · answered by Richard N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cant you just have some self control set yourself a budget and stick to it, I bet all the time but i never go over board only bet what i can afford to lose if that be £20, £50, £100 or more.
Gambling should be little bit of fun not a shameful addiction
2007-02-13 03:56:43 · answer #4 · answered by Woodman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha! So in denial. I'm sure your girlfriend won't mind about GA. Does it not worry her that you go though a months wages every 2-3 months on gambling.
2007-02-12 19:20:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you blow a months wages at one time, then you DO have a problem. Denial is a big part of the problem. You have to admit you have a problem first. Then go see your local Catholic priest for help. He can guide you spiritually to have a more personal relationship with Jesus Christ and her Mother Mary. Then you will have inner peace and you won't need to gamble anymore.
2007-02-13 06:05:27 · answer #6 · answered by Travis R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you could stop on your own you probably would have by now. I am not about
to sentence you to GA. Although that may be were you find the answer to the problem. I hope you can get a handle on it. If you
can't find someone or something to lean on. What ever you do don't
be to proud to ask a friend for help. Don't wake up twenty years
from now, all alone and say to your self " what the hell happened "
AK
2007-02-12 21:41:29 · answer #7 · answered by Aaron K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the reason that gambling is forbidden in Islam, at least for this Case, think in the way like a Muslim abstains from gambling.
2007-02-12 22:06:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
gambler anonymous.........you are an addict....the first sign of being addicted is denial......if you can go weeks without it, and can spend your income in a few hours then that shows you that you have an erge to gamble, so you basically lose control when you gamble......just let gambling go entirely, which means dont do it all all if you cant even control it.....you dont want to be that person who lost everything and look back and want to committ suicide over it......it can get worse.....
2007-02-12 19:09:11 · answer #9 · answered by macmike 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually to change your gambling addiction to another less expensive addiction. Like maybe shopping instead everytime you want to gamble or working out a lot or something healthier. sometimes gambling addictions are a way to relieve stress in your life so try to find another way
2007-02-12 19:10:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋