We just moved into this apartment and have not met many people. The upstairs neighbors fight all the time. Early in the morning and late into the evening. It seems that if they are not fighting they are watching TV which we can hear though out our apartment. We tried to knock to tell them to turn it down, but I don't think they could here the knock over the TV. I realize that they are most likely having problems because of all the fighting and I hate to add to it, but I work at 5:00am and they don't turn off the TV all night, they must be falling asleep to it. I don't want to add to their problems but I need to get my sleep to do my job. What can I do to let them know there is a problem without them hating us?
2007-02-12 18:32:56 · 23 answers · asked by Crazy Train 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You best bet would be to talk to someone in the apartment management office and let them know the situation. Let them know your complaint and stress that you don't want your neighbors to know it is you that complained. They usually are very helpful with situations like that and will address the issue with your neighbors. They might not even know that anyone can hear them and they might stop right away because of embarressment.
2007-02-12 18:39:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't talk to them about it. Talk to your apartment manager and ask him to have a talk with them. If you personally say something it will only cause animosity between you. Neighbors like that don't really care if they're bothering you, and trying to talk to them is like poking the angry bear with a stick.
An apartment manager, however, has at least the appearance of authority, and can also give you some anonymity. If you can hear them, everyone else around you probably can too, so if you ask your manager not to tell them who complained they really won't know whether it was you or one of the other neighbors. An apartment manager can say knock it off leave, whereas you can really only ask them to knock it off pretty please because they're bothering you, which doesn't wield a lot of incentive.
2007-02-12 19:32:56 · answer #2 · answered by Hamlette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since they're leasing as well, tell the manager of your apartments. Say that it's not that big a deal but you would definitely appreciate some help with the situation. If you approach them you're likely to be involved in some mess that you really don't need. Hope all goes well. Just be careful. People can be crazy and they already sound unstable.
2007-02-12 19:51:09 · answer #3 · answered by I vote Capt. America 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We lived in the city but back in the day when I was growing up people were allowed to have farm animals on their property.My dad raised chickens to eat and for laying eggs. He kept the rooster separated from the hens unless he wanted new chicks. He had a nice veggie garden too. The man down the street had 2 acreas with pigs and a very old mule he used for plowing. Almost every neighbor had a garden. You could hear the train rumbling down the track to some far off place in the middle of the night. The Whipplerwill calling in the late evening During the day you could hear Bob White calling for a mate. Mama in the kitchen frying chicken and making bisquits as well as cornbread for daddy. We had three churches in our small village, but ours was the only one to ring the church bell on Sunday morning. I love remembering years past.
2016-05-24 04:23:39 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely if these people are fighting alot your not going to be able to knock on the door and talk rationally, doing so may cause more contempt or hostility than wanted. I would say to call the local authorities and have them come over and talk to the neighbors for you. Because of the potential for a talk to go severely wrong I want to stress to you to not talk directly to the people who are causing the noise. Let the authorities deal with it, you have a valid and legal right to call them, dont hesitate to call 911 and say that you have a neighbor thats yelling at someone so loud you think they may harm someone.......Good luck.
2007-02-12 18:50:17 · answer #5 · answered by Vincent 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You shouldn't care about them hating you. First contact the landlord and tell them to intervene. If it keeps up call the police and tell them that you have a complaint of disturbing the peace and ask them to send a policeman over. No one has to know that it was you who filed the complaint unless you tell them or ask the policeman to have contact with you after their appearance. Unless you are more aggressive with this problem it will continue and YOU will be the one suffering your neighbors intrusion. Their problems with their marriage or whatever it is has NOTHING to do with you and it is not your responsibility to help keep them together. Take care of business!
2007-02-12 20:11:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have dealt with practically the same situation. Find them at peace with each other and bring it up. As reasonable human beings they will respect you and attempt to accomodate your requests. If it happens again, nicely address the situation one last time,making no threats, and ask them to kindly remember your rights, (as well as thiers that you continue to respect), for you all to have a peacful evening or morning at home. If it occures a third time, call the authourities, press charges, and notify the management of the complex/community. They WILL loose and will be forced to vacate. It may take a bit of time, but it will happen if you do as I suggest. And by the way kind sir, someone will hate you and probably even your entire family at some point in your lives, you just have to forgive them for thier ignorance and stupidity, and move on. Forgiveness in the key to happiness. Mine anyway.
2007-02-12 18:47:20 · answer #7 · answered by acesfourpal 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tape an anonymous letter to the door. Don't tell them (obviously) which apartment this comes from. In the letter state that you will go to the landlord if the noise doesn't stop.... but be diplomatic. Type the letter rather than handwrite it. Of course this will only work if you're living in a complex that has more than two units.
2007-02-12 18:40:17 · answer #8 · answered by squealy68 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you were to call the cops, they would ask you what steps you have taken to solve the matter yourself. So that's out. Property Managers can't be trusted to keep their mouths shut(no offence), so they might find out it was you.
I myself would just go there with La Look and stare at them until they said "What?" and then I would say " Can you keep it down, I am trying to flickin sleep!!!" and then hope they didn't turn out to be psychos....So that is what I would have to spend my life trying not to do.
2007-02-12 18:44:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have the land lord talk to them its the only way talking to them will cause more issues you don't want or have the land lord will just let them know that "some neighbors are having issues with their fighting" so they want know its you unless he or she tells them but you can also leave a note on their door with out signing it and maybe they will get the hint to cool it and if the fights get real bad call the cops and if it still keeps on "MOVE OUT" good luck
2007-02-12 18:38:39 · answer #10 · answered by tlcoufan 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋