Ive beening see someone for about 7 mnths, they are the love of my life and I dont want to lose them, but we've been drifting further away from each other, shes rude, shes mean, she has trust issuses from past relationships. Ive been very good to her, I'm always there, I've never let her down. I dont ask her for much just to appreciate me and thats it, but lately shes been making me feel like Im asking for to much. Things she use to do she doesnt anymore. Days go by and I dont hear from her so I called to find out whats going on and whats wrong, and she gets mad at me and say she doesnt have to speak to me everyday as if im smothering her when all I'm trying to do is show her I love her and that Im concerned about whatsup with her. From day one my intentions with her were good and theres still nothing i wouldnt do for her but she hurts my feelings alot. All of my friends know that I'm a great person so they all want me to move on because they say im too good for her, but I love her!
2007-02-12 18:03:13 · 8 answers · asked by marc21 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It doesn't sound like a good match.
You are sweet and compassionate and need physical and emotional affection. She isn't able to give you those things.
You've only invested 7 months, and this is really a blink of the eye in the scope of life.
You can love someone but not be right for them. Go find someone who's more into your needs.
2007-02-12 18:10:19 · answer #1 · answered by artichoke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her, then you should seek out counseling. There could be something seriously wrong in her mind, or even some hurtful past memories that are affecting her everyday life. This could cause her to push away anyone who wants to help her, she may think she is beyond help.
Try your best to get her to go with you to a counseling session, you can get it for free through any religious institution, and they won't preach to you. If she says she won't, tell her that you will go alone, and continue to do this and see if she won't come around. In time, she may go with you, but if not, perhaps then it's time to let her go. Both parties must want it to work, if it's going to work. You can't have a relationship by yourself.
2007-02-12 18:09:10 · answer #2 · answered by fuumaxkamui69 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww its a hard situation... Think about the good things & the bad things, if the bad outweigh the good then... Sounds like maybe she's taking you for granted... You could say things arent working, go on a break, then maybe she'd realise what she's loosing, if you do stay apart it may not be forever, if it's meant to be maybe you may work, but perhaps not now... but dont settle for 2nd best, dont put up with not being treated how you should, hoping it'll get better... As much as you love her, dont put up with being hurt.... good luck..
2007-02-12 18:55:32 · answer #3 · answered by idk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"... shes rude, shes mean, she has trust issuses from past relationships." "Days go by and I dont hear from her so I called to find out whats going on and whats wrong, and she gets mad at me..."
Sit her down and have a serious talk. from the sounds of it, I suspect the outcome will be that you have met your end...but perhaps if you have a good talk about it all, things will be different...
in anycase, you need to talk.
2007-02-12 18:12:01 · answer #4 · answered by Pete 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get mad right back. If she's yelling at you for no reason, and you just take it and apologize, she's gonna keep doing it. Half the reason she's probably mad is because you act like a puppy dog that's been kicked when she yells at you, and no girl finds that attractive, it just makes the guy seem clingy and needy.
2007-02-12 18:12:16 · answer #5 · answered by simply.beautiful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She either has another friend or is just being a *****. Move and yourself because if you don't do it she will dump you. She has baggage and will just make anyone she is with miserable.
2007-02-12 18:09:29 · answer #6 · answered by Jim V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave
2007-02-12 18:06:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are we seeing the same girl ????????
i know exactly how you feel.
if i wasn't in this ( the same girl ?? ) situation i would tell you to pump her and dump her.
love is blind !!
so tell me and we will both know what to do.
good luck to both of us
2007-02-12 18:21:40 · answer #8 · answered by Jester 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋