It was a lie just to spend 2 or 3 hours alone, not with anyone. But he got so mad and sais that he won't trust me again and love wouldn't be enough so we should break up. I know that it should end if it is what meant to be but I don't want to and I don't think relationships should end when two people loving each other. I wanted him to think once again, considering what we have sacrificed for each other. But I just can't sit and wait. What should I do?
2007-02-12 17:51:27 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
greetings...it's a funny thing about trust. it takes years to build and only seconds to destroy. unfortunately the reason someone lies isn't the issue. it's the lie itself that takes the stage. i think your sweetheart is over reacting just a bit. I'm basing that on the assumption you two are truly in love. i don't know the whole story. perhaps there's something else on the table he's really bruiting over, that you may or may not be aware of. all you can do is tell him your sorry, you didn't intend to mislead him..etc.. the hard truth is he's either going to get over it and move on or there's more to his decision about breaking up than he's letting on. put the ball in his court and just allow him alittle time to work through it. maybe try and view this from his perspective. ya know, how it would feel if it were reversed. I'm not trying to rub salt in your wound, I'm just trying to shed alittle more light on his reasoning. i know that if my girlfriend, who Ive been with for a year and am in love with, were to lie to me, yes i would be hurt and upset. but i also know i care enough about her and our future that for me to want to end it, the lie would have to really question our love. good luck
2007-02-12 18:33:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi.. this is another tough one... but what kind of lie did you do? if it really was that damaging then we cant do anything bout it. right now all you can do is really, sincerely say sorry to the man.. but dont say sorry to him when he's angry. he might not listen. catch him at a calm time. say sorry, or write a letter to him. if you guys have a common friend you trust, tell him or her completely. explain to your friend. he might be more receptive if it was a third party approach. but then again, you'll have to wait for him to come back. im sorry but honestly, even if it was a little lie, it is still a lie, and no justifications about it. so do your part, but there's no guarantees here. do your best though. but in the end it's up to him. hope i helped
2007-02-13 02:00:38 · answer #2 · answered by J.P. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him exactly what you have said to us here and ask for his forgiveness and promise him that it will never occur again, and from now on you will be totally honest.
If he doesen't accept, then its obvious he just was looking for an excuse to end it. In which case, you better move on.
All the best!
2007-02-13 01:57:34 · answer #3 · answered by Ebby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"you can lead a heart to love but you cant make it fall"
2007-02-13 02:01:49 · answer #4 · answered by tre50z71 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋