I met a guy at New Years..typical weekend hook up thing and I had a lot of fun and I came back home and planned on never talking to him again. We have talked every day since then..mostly text messaging but occasional phone conversations. He's always talking about how much fun he had and how i'm different than girls he's met in the past. He's also mentioned a few times he's been in a few really bad relationships. I've been trying to figure out our status ever since, and needless to say, I have somehow gotten interested in him. We've been planning on meeting back up for another weekend rendezvous which will be cool, but tonight he mentioned he's not ready to get into a relationship with someone. I am beyond confused!! We had our one weekend thing, and he can't seem to go a day without atleast texting me to see how I am, or to just talk. Am I expecting too much..or why am I so desperate to find out our status?
2007-02-12 17:38:51 · 14 answers · asked by Miss Lyss 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks to everyone for the responses..they were all great..we will just see what happens! I don't expect a relationship right now either, but if you aren't friends..and you aren't "together"..what are you? Anyways thanks!!
2007-02-13 12:02:04 · update #1
straight up he told yoou that he wasnt ready for a relationship. he may not be ready for a relationship but it seems lilke hes still interested as hes texting you daily .... so, hes let you know hes not interested in a relationship right now and he wouldnt have said that unless he thought you were. meaning, the balls in his court. if a relationship will happen, hes going to be the one to initiate. now you have a choice, is this boy good enough to wait around for? will he get ovver his emmotional baggage? if you decide the wait could be lengthy, make an exit and find someone else without baggage.
2007-02-12 17:46:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anna P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you guys are talking, period. If there was chemistry to begin with, the chemistry will only grow with the more you two get to know eachother. Obviously he is not ready for a relationship according to what you say. But if I were you I would ask him flat out if he ever sees himself dating you and if the answer is no then you know what it is you have to do.
2007-02-12 17:44:00 · answer #2 · answered by nickhawkins21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds utterly confused! i would just keep it friends. and if its supposed to go further, it will. you dont want to just be a weekend fling every now and then. you like this guy and if he doesnt want a relationship dont push it. my boyfriend of 2 years told me when i first met up with him that he wasnt ready for a relationship, and we are getting married next month. but dont push it if you do it will end badly. and atleast this guy is being up front with you about it. that means he doesnt want to hurt you, but he might just be looking for a good lay. ya know? so lay low take it slow and if it turns out good and yall get together GREAT if not. atleast you didnt get your hopes up and you didnt get hurt!
2007-02-12 17:47:03 · answer #3 · answered by iheartskcs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he's feeling you out by being friends first, once he feels that your the right person for him then maybe he'll come around to asking you, But maybe he feels that the other g/f's that he had didn't work out & he doesn't want it to happen between you 2 , so he's taking his time I say friends first.
2007-02-12 17:48:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he just really likes you and likes spending time with you but isn't ready for a commitment. i wouldn't give up on him though until you know how he feels because either he likes you and don't know how you feel about him or he is dating other people and just leading you on. maybe you are desperate to find out his status because you have feelings for him and maybe even fell in love him anyway you need to talk to him about this.
2007-02-12 17:45:54 · answer #5 · answered by mrs garfield 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he doesn't want a relationship.
in fact I think he's in one already.
The fact that someone text messages you doesn't necessarily mean he's in love with you. He probably wants to keep the relationship going in case things don't work out.
Keep him as a friend but don't stop looking and don't get your hopes up
2007-02-12 17:45:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont rush things ..u might scare the guy away..gotta slow down lil bit,take it slow and let it happen naturally , u ll get there, obviously the guy is interested in u too, so just b patien.
2007-02-12 17:50:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do not look very conscious of the Q&A procedure us adults participate in. the first aspect you want to do is ASK a question. Then, per chance, people supplies you the answer.
2016-12-04 02:59:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
based on what you wrote its not your fault he doesnt want to see you. he is for some reason scared about something , matbe how you will think of him on a personal level. think about that, im just trying to help
2007-02-12 17:43:20 · answer #9 · answered by allynrobert 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just enjoy lah!!! Why worry so much and may be he also want some fun only....
2007-02-12 17:42:15 · answer #10 · answered by Cakebread 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋