My fiance insists on speaking to his ex on myspace. He says she is just a friend and that she is engaged too. Should I suspect him of cheating? Should I just dump him?
2007-02-12 17:36:03 · 15 answers · asked by bctreefrogs 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just trust him spend much time with him and just love him
2007-02-12 17:54:06 · answer #1 · answered by u_everyone_k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have mixed feelings on this subject. When I was dating/engaged to my ex-wife she had some serious problems with me keeping touch with an old girlfriend who was a very good friend. I was very upset by the situation because I was basically forced to give up a very good friend. I knew there was nothing romantic or sexual between us anymore, but my ex-wife couldn't be convinced. I was also forced to get rid of picture of the friend/ex-girlfriend - even group shots that included other friends. Even to this day I have something of a grudge toward my ex-wife over this.
On the other hand, I can understand how my ex-wife felt. Either she was jealous of my friendship with my ex-girlfriend, or she was insecure and threatened by any continued relationship. I can not honestly say that I would be comfortable with a woman I was dating/engaged to/married to having a continued friendship with with an ex-boyfriend or lover. Mainly because you just never know what might be happening behind your back.
Rationally, I think the proper way to handle this situation is to give your finance the latitude to maintain his friendship with the ex-girlfriend unless or until you have reason to believe there is something more going on. Basically it comes down to a matter of trusting that he is being honest and faithful to you. If you don't have that trust, maybe you should question whether getting married to him is the right decision.
2007-02-13 01:47:15 · answer #2 · answered by Justin H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is kind of disturbing to me, that he is your fiance and you can just think about dumping him that easily. "Dumping" him should be out of the question. If you guys have made it to that stage of your relationship, try real hard to work things out before you think about ''dumping''. Unless you guys rushed into engagment, than thats a different problem, Just let him talk to his ex gf, but ask him if you can see what he says to her. Just because you have the right to, you are his fiance. If he says no, and says that you are invading in his ''privacy'', just ask him what he would do if he was you. Tell him that you only care about him, that is why you want to make sure
good luck
2007-02-13 01:41:28 · answer #3 · answered by Saphire04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being friends with exs, me and mine are friends. We cant be married as a couple but we can be best friends. I wouldnt suspect of him of cheating, just give him some space and have a little trust in him, after all he is with you now. Give him some dignity and respect, he isnt hurting anyone.
2007-02-13 01:41:11 · answer #4 · answered by myquietangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
greetings...fiance huh? well congratulations. my fiance and i both have ex's. we both have children with our ex's. i know she's in contact with her's as i am with mine because of the kids. i would consider that my ex wife and i are friends in the respect of we share a child. i am glad that we get along. but as far as calling her up on a whim simply to shoot the breeze or talk about old times, is something i wouldn't do. those days with my ex are gone. i believe it would be disrespect full to my fiance. i certainly wouldn't appreciate her being chummy with her ex. it's not a jealousy thing, it's respect. I'm glad that her and her ex are civilized enough to get along as far as there son is concerned. but when the communications begin to exceed that unnecessarily, it leaves one to question the intent. i think dumping your fiance over this may be alittle harsh at first. perhaps sitting him down and expressing firmly how you feel about it could be a good place to start. good luck
2007-02-13 01:54:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't dump him if you don't know because you could make a mess of a good relationship. You don't actually know whether he is cheating and it could just be an innocent friendship. Don't jump to conclusions work with solid facts.
2007-02-13 01:38:55 · answer #6 · answered by sumthing_to_say_12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him and move on as he should be speaking to you instead. I am a man too but if you love someone you should focus on one not two.
2007-02-13 01:40:47 · answer #7 · answered by Cakebread 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you just ask us if you should dump your fiance? The word fiance implies unconditional trust and love...
2007-02-13 01:39:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He had a relationship with her. Not all break-ups have to end with hatred. Maybe they had a good friendship. Maybe their still friends, Better to talk to her on my space then in her bedroom, or even worse yours ! Jealousy can ruin a good thing.
2007-02-13 01:40:59 · answer #9 · answered by dan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about. Maybe you should try being friends with her too it would probably ease your worries and your fiance will probably appreciate you trying to be friends with his friends aswell. And remember nothing is uglier than jealousy!!
2007-02-13 01:41:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋