I am not a religious person, and have in fact been sleeping with my boyfriend for the past 6 years with absolutely no regrets. I would like to hear from people who have and haven't waited for marriage:
*Was it worth the wait?
*What made you decide to wait/ have sex in the first place? If it's a religious choice, where and what does it say about sex before marriage?
*Do you have any regrets about not waiting/not having sex before marriage?
*Once you're married, do you have sex for fun and to express love, or is it simply only allowed for procreation?
*How is/ was your sex life after you got married and chose to wait (one of my friends decided to wait and said she had thought her first time would be wonderful and romantic but that it turned out to be a complete disaster - one that ended in tears and frustration. She maintains to this day that her sex life is sub-par because her and her husband have different sexual needs - in regards to frequency).
2007-02-12 17:31:51 · 14 answers · asked by Nat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dear Nat, people tend to forget how much the mental element plays a part of sex. The act of sexual intercourse if purely physical, but it's what goes along with the physical act that makes it special. Sure, for a guy, orgasms are easy and, as the saying goes, even bad sex is good. For women the mental/emotional aspect is at least as important as the physical and probably more important. But even for guys, sex with one woman will be very different from sex with another woman. Same is true for gals. Timing is probably not as important, when you think about it. I mean timing as regards to marriage. You can have bad sex without marriage and bad sex with marriage. You can have good sex without marriage and good sex with marriage. If an individual wants to have sex only after marriage, there's nothing "wrong" with that. Just as, in my book, there's nothing "wrong" with having sex before marriage. I hear the expression "I'm saving myself..." and wonder "for what?" Some people believe that somehow there is a change that takes place when the magic words are said and that sex after these words is different from sex before. I doubt that. Sex is sex, whether with or without the words of a marriage ceremony. If you want to throw god into the mixture, I'm afraid I can't argue any more. Introducing god into an argument about when to have sex is a waste of time and energy. Sex is a physical act, not unlike eating or voiding. God cares what is in your heart, not in your hands.
2007-02-12 17:43:04 · answer #1 · answered by judgebill 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No regrets about not waiting- but then again I don't have any religious beleifs to prevent me from having pre-marital sex.
I am however keeping some things for my soon to be husband for our honey moon (namely strip-tease). We thought it would be nice to keep something special for it, but as for sex in general I am glad that I am going to be able to have sex with my husband without pain or inabition on our wedding night (or the next night cause I doubt anyone is really in the mood after such a long day)
2007-02-13 01:40:11 · answer #2 · answered by Isabel 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, I just feel stupid in bed sometimes and wonder if I'd have had "practice" if I'd be better for my husband. He's not my first, but I can count my sexual encounters on one hand and am not very experienced. We've been married 7 years and I still feel boring and stupid. But I think if I'd have had more "practice", then I'd feel like a slut, so it's hard to know which is better.
2007-02-13 01:36:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Boyfriend for 6 years? why the wait you should be married already. As the answer for the question. I was 27 she was 22 when we got married. both of us were virgins. rare but true. It was worth the wait. we have been married 16yrs and going strong.
2007-02-13 01:37:57 · answer #4 · answered by rustyfan022000 1 · 4⤊ 1⤋
who is going to buy a car and not test drive it? a car only lasts 5 to 10 years and you can trade it in and you wouldn't think of buying it without driving it right? then why in the world wouldn't you try out a (supposedly) life long mate before committing? that would just be stupid
2007-02-13 01:38:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
The research shows that sex after waiting for marriage is better sex.
2007-02-13 01:35:48 · answer #6 · answered by Peggy Pirate 6 · 4⤊ 2⤋
sex is not a bad thing wiating or having it before marriage does not make any better or less of a person , it does not makes sex better or worse either its all in the person
2007-02-13 01:42:03 · answer #7 · answered by dimps 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well ,let me tell you one of my friends just did that. The wedding was in November. She is pregnant. They are split up already.
2007-02-13 01:35:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
i made it 19 years as a virgin.
regrets, regrets, regrets.
2007-02-13 01:35:20 · answer #9 · answered by Sophia R 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I didn't wait....and don't regret it.
Remember never buy a car without test driving it first.
2007-02-13 01:35:32 · answer #10 · answered by shivers 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋