Should I ask her to have a abortion????

Question

My girl friend has been pregant for about 7 weeks,,,should I ask her for a abortion??? but i am concer about her health coz she already did once when she was 18 and she is 23 now.... I really want that baby but i am still going to school and i cant affort so many costs $$$$$$and her mon is so .......she would let me marrie with her unlst i got a lot of money ????

Answer 1

No, you shouldn't. At 7 weeks, your baby has a beating heart, recordable brain waves, and little fingers. She has begun moving in the womb, although she is still too little for your girlfriend to feel her yet. If her cheek is stroked, she will turn her head. She is a living, innocent, little person. No matter what your situation, your baby does not deserve to die. I think you know this. She is depending on her parents for protection. Please don't let her down.

You can see photos of what your baby looks like right now here:
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm

and photos and video of aborted babies at 7 weeks here:
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html

Very soon (if not already), your baby will be able to feel pain:
http://www.advocatesfortheinnocent.com/fetalpain.html

You should know that there is financial help available for your girlfriend. If you go to a crisis pregnancy center, they can give her referrals for financial, medical, and housing assistance; a free ultrasound (at many centers); free maternity and baby supplies; pregnancy, parenting, and adoption information; and counseling and emotional support. All of their services are free and confidential. You can find one near you by calling 1-800-395-HELP or visiting:
http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp

Another abortion will only increase the risk of health problems for your girlfriend. Here are some risks of abortion:
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp
http://www.teenbreaks.com/abortion/complicationsgirls.cfm

You are not the first person in the world to find yourself in this situation. You need to step up, take responsibility, and take care of your girlfriend and baby. It will all work out in the end. You will manage. That is what families do. You will never regret letting your baby live.

Answer 2

well my man, I havent been in your shoes and I pray that I wont. Best advice from a guys perspective is to PRAY and ask for guidance during this time. After that, be the MAN that your gf and child (should you both decide to keep it) needs. Life aint easy and there are too many obstacles to count but look at this pregnancy as a blessing not an obstacle. Also in a mean sort of way, your gf and you shared intimacy not the mama....so she needs to learn to be a supporter from the side and stay out of your business...you two are grown after all.

Check some websites about planned parenting and talk to friends and family with children and LISTEN to their experiences. It may help you out. And above all.....RELAX and CHILL...it aint the end of the world.

Answer 3

Hmmm, sounds like you should have thought of this 7 weeks ago. I think you need to step up and do what it takes to give this baby a home and loving parents. If you can't do that, then adoption is a perfect answer. I think it's very selfish to ask for an abortion just because you can't go out and buy a condom. Babies need love, not money. And if you're in such a bad position with money and her mom, you should have been thinking of those consequences instead of your penis.

Answer 4

The two of you have a lot of options, as you know. But if there's any disagreement about the correct choice, she gets to make it.

That being said, consider everything. Are you ready, emotionally, financially, to be parents? Would you be considering marriage if she weren't pregnant? Are there health reasons, moral reasons, to avoid abortion? Planning an adoption is often the best option for everyone: you, your girlfriend, some potential adoptive parents out there, and especially the child. That doesn't mean you wouldn't be sad about it. You would. But consider everything.

Answer 5

It is a decision both of you need to take. I guess you guys have behaved very irresponsible. but then the damage is already done. you need to get open abt this with the folks (parents). Consult a gyn too. If you really want to keep the baby then let her know that. For this you will have to work very hard. It is going to be difficult but best of luck.

Answer 6

FINISH SCHOOL FIRST
Ask her to have an abortion cuz baby cost $$$$
You have a plenty of time to make babies. You might not even marry this girl once you finish school and start working in your profession. Most of the time the people you date while in college you tend to break up with when your finished with school B CUZ you have different dreams,ideas and lifestyles. If she loves you then she will possible get rid of it. There's plenty of time to make another child once your finances are organized. Remember that it cost $600 a month for daycare and that only one bill.

CHOOSE WISELY !!!!!!

Answer 7

It's her decision isn't it.
If you can afford a baby, then why keep taking chances?
It's not the baby's fault. You brought him into the world you should own up to your responsibilities and do what's right.

There is such a thing as night school or P/T jobs and stretching out the curriculum etc..
Was the first baby yours also? I hope not.

Answer 8

abortion is something you can never take back
you could join the military....they pay you, help you through college, and give you extra money for having a kid, needless to say all medical bills are taken care of. Go talk to a recruiter today!!! It doesn't hurt to talk.

Answer 9

asking a girl to get an abortion is a horrible thing! you should be celebrating this new life about to enter the world, not killing a life that never got a chance. dont make your child pay the consequences for your mistakes.

Answer 10

You should have thought about all that before you slept together. You put youself in a situation everytime you have sex. Just because now you dont like the outcome, you want to end it? I think thats selfish unless thats what she wants to do. Shes an adult an if she wants to keep it, she should.