I just broke up with my girlfriend of 4 years. its been about 4months, and i still can seem to get over her. i've tried taking up hobies and stuff but i still cant get her out of my mind. I've tried getting back together but it doesnt seem possible. Any body got some good advice?
2007-02-12 17:18:51 · 12 answers · asked by Nanook~Maybe I need a longer Name?~ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My current situation prevents me from meeting new people......
2007-02-12 17:24:40 · update #1
there are only two options... getting back together, or moving on. distracting your self with a hobby will not get your mind off of her. get dressed up nice and go to a club or bar... there will be plenty of other girls there to get your mind off of her. if that doesnt work, then you are destin to be w/ ur ex. do everything you can think of to get her back. the sky is the limit, be creative! (honestly, if you have been together for 4 years, i think u guys were ment to be. what ever went on to cause u 2 break up, u can look past it.)
2007-02-12 17:24:56 · answer #1 · answered by March Mommie 07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if getting back together is not a viable option you need to take control of that nagging voice inside your head and tell yourself that it's over. what you're going through right now is relationship withdrawal. well, the only way to get over that is to not have contact with the person in question. as time goes by, you'll think about her less and less. it's definitly going to be hard, but that's probably the only way. it probably doesn't seem like it now, but it will get easier. the problem with break ups is you always end up questioning your decision and second guessing whether you made the right choice. that's because when we look back on our relationships we tend to idealize them and only remember the good things. you need to think about what your relationship was REALLY like, and why you guys broke up. if it has something to do with you, then learn from it and don't make the same mistake again. leave the past in the past and move on to better things.
2007-02-13 01:31:04 · answer #2 · answered by irka 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you break up with her? Try thinking about the bad things if you don't want to get with her and If you want her back and you really do and she wants to be with you, you should think about marriage cause four years is a long dating relationship! I think it's time to take a **** or get off the toliet like they say! Committ or move on!
2007-02-13 01:24:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude I think if there is no chance in hell you two are going to get back together I think you need to find a Rebound chick any chick perferrably one youll never see again...
I broke up with my man 6 wks ago when I told him I was pregnant he freaked out and we havent spoken since Its so hard...
2007-02-13 01:28:39 · answer #4 · answered by topsytess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well do you want to really get back together with her or do you want to do it so you will feel better? I know personally its hard to get over something like that. It will take a long time to get over it, trust me on this. Just do things you love doing. If you DO want to get back with her, just sit her down and talk to her about it, and tell her your honest feelings. Good luck!
2007-02-13 01:24:33 · answer #5 · answered by Damien's Mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its going to take more than 4 month but each day that passes by you'llthink less less of her...eventually...it may be real difficult at first but time heal everything
i broke up w/my boyfriend of 3 years......And its been 7 months and i still think about him from time and hope we might be 2gethr
2007-02-13 01:26:52 · answer #6 · answered by dimps 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some personal time and relax. Things will get easier over time.
2007-02-13 01:29:04 · answer #7 · answered by DESIGNER_SMILE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i been in a relationship for two years and broke up! its was soo hard! i was angry, upset, and felt so empty inside. but you learn how to cope with everything just learn to accept that it wasnt meant to be and you will be fine! dont find a rebound. everything happens for reason remember!
2007-02-13 01:28:22 · answer #8 · answered by loveme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep yourself busy and focus on all the blessings in your life. eventually you'll get over her and be ready to date again, but it'll take some time.
2007-02-13 01:24:59 · answer #9 · answered by huhyftcgbjhu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep doing what u do. meet some new hunnies. you'll get over ya ex, dont worry.
2007-02-13 01:24:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋