When are parents going to realize their RESPONSIBILITY in raising children?

Question

I am a parent of 2 daughters, one 15 and the other 12. I am appalled more and more everyday at the lack of responsible actions by parents. The non-involved, do-whatever-you-want attitude, and the selfishness I see is crazy. I am trying to keep my girls out of trouble without completely sheltering them, but so many kids they go to school with just run rampant. They have no-one home during the day, no curfews, no limitations, no rules or guidelines. Therefore they have no respect...for themselves or authority. This is scary beyond my comprehension. It doesn't matter where you live, it's everywhere! Wake up parents...these kids are our future! Any comments???

My kids are fine and normal, not out of control and they know the difference when they see it. They comment to me about behaviors of others. They aren't perfect by any means, just normal. And we have a great open line of communication. I really think that is key. Talking and being involved. If they know you're watching, they'll think twice before doing. Mine have made mistakes and bad decisions, some big and some small, but they know I love them no matter what and we're in this together.

Answer 1

You're right, it is everywhere. We have lived in 6 states in the last 6 years and I see it everywhere and among all income levels. I have a 2, 8 and 10 year old and I'm appalled at all the kids that stay home alone. I have seen a 5,6 and 8 year old get themselves to school and watch themselves after school until their parents come home. I knew two 9 year old girls who had to watch their 4 year old and 3 year old siblings until their parents came home from work. Too many kids spend too much time home alone. I could go on and on. It really scares me at how ignorant and uninvolved most parents are. I think the key is getting involved with your kids and making sure they get involved in activities they enjoy and spending more time together as a family. Too many kids have too much free time and end up getting in trouble.

Just so you know, there are parents like you out there. I'm a stay at home mom. I help my kids with their homework, involve them in activities and make it a priority to spend time with them. As parents our job is to provide our children with values, morals and opportunities so that they can become responsible, contributing members of society. I don't understand why people have children if they aren't going to take the time to raise them. As long as anyone can have children, you will have unfit parents raising unfit children.

Answer 2

It's because either

1. The parents were young when they had their kids and don't have a clue how to parent
2. The self-esteem of the parent(s) is very low so they just allow their kids to run them ragged and run the household in fear of getting injured.
3. They never wanted the kid in the first place, so they let them do whatever they want in hopes that they may be removed from their home.

This is just the way that I see it. I have a sister that does the second reason that I stated. It's really sad and I fear for her kids as one of them is really disrespectful...the other one, there's hope as they moved in with their in-laws (my sister's daughter and her Grandma get along great!) since she and her husband are broke!

Answer 3

Some parents would rather be FRIENDS with their kids, rather then being their parents. Its disgutsting. I was working in a video store and i saw 2 kids, they couldn't have been older then 12 years old, swearing about some of the movies on the shelf. Saying things like "Oh yeah, i heard that movie was F**ked up" or "S**t Man, i would F**King LOVE to see that movie!!"

Its disgutsing.

I know of kids that are 15 years old and selling crack on the streets!!

Parents need to set boundries for their children. And they need to be involved in their childrens lives. Not to involved that their children will think they're being nosey, but enough to know what their children are up to and who their friends are.

Some parents are just to lazy and they don't care. No wonder we have so many teenage mothers running around. 15 year olds that want to have babies. 10 year olds that are having sex.

Answer 4

I'm a Christian... so I consider that I have a accountability to elevate my (long run) kids within the methods of the Lord. But I cannot assume anybody who does not understand the Lord or consider in God to do the equal factor. ie: if a blind guy steps to your toe, do you yell at him seeing that he will have to have identified bigger? no, he did not understand bigger. I additionally believe that God offers each and every man or woman of expert age a hazard to be given Him or deny Him, it doesn't matter what he/she is taught developing up. I've met a few effective children who have been to 1 sunday college magnificence and understand Jesus bigger than children who have been going their entire lives. He is aware of the guts, and finally it is among simply you and Him besides.

Answer 5

i am so with you on this one parents let their kids just do what ever and its like they dont even care.

I work in a caffeteria(deffinatly not for the money but for insurance) the way that those kids speak and do is soooo horrible, i told one student they had it made bc back in the 30's and 40's they didnt even get a lunch, they leave the dinning room so messy and they probably do that at home to.

do you remeber the old days? i sure do i am only 26 but i had a mother and a grandmother that taught me the value of life and common sence. i was made to go out to the garden and dig potatos, pic okra etc. we were made to go eat outside and to not bother the adults when they were busy, you did not backtalk speak foulness, or swear, you said blessings at EVERY meal, you were spanked because your parents LOVED you, you were taught to speak with manners and to not speak unless spoken to, and did not interupt adults when they were speaking. you were told once and only once to do things. your parents knew who your friends were, their parents their parents #'s and probably their socials, when you did something wrong your parents eventually found out about it bc they had that psyicic ability to know everything from where you were to where you were supposed to be who you were with what time you did what. no matter how secretive you were they knew. they knew when you got report cards, parents met with teachers on the going ons at school and most would volunteer a drop of a hat to help with their childs school. now a days they do none of this like i said i am 26 yrs old and if do not speak with manners i still get into trouble and i have been married for 7yrs. i am tryin to teach my daughter the same she is 3 and she tries to speak with manners she knows she will get into trouble over certain things. i was raised in a Christian home and we go by the old saying spare the rod spoil the child. that is what is wrong with todays sociaty. thank you for letting me vent:)

Answer 6

i'm 21 w/ no kids & totally agree w/ u. the reason i don't have children is b/c i KNOW i'm not ready for them just yet. have u seen maury lately? ppl r throwin' around their baby mama drama & 13 year olds think they're 30! i think my mom did a great job w/ me. many parents either shelter their children too much or don't keep them in check at all. of course i had to answer to my mom, but she gave me the leeway to make my own decisions. note to all teens: u NEED ur parents (or sum adult figure) to set boundaries & provide u w/ ur basic necessities! to think otherwise is just foolish. if u want to be treated like a mature person, then u should act like one.

Answer 7

I agree with you!!! Parents want to be friends to teens, it just doesn't work out.

I wish some would start taking responsibility for toddlers too! I know its hard, but a little control people.

BTW, I am a parent to a 1 yr old so I do know how hard it is at that stage!

Answer 8

I was brought up to always tell the truth and in return i would get equal resect to an adult at the age of 13 i was aloud to have a beer if i was in the compeny of my farther and when my mother asked me if was smoking pot i had no feer to tell her that i was and she told me how disapointed in me she was but she could understand as pot was now as commen as cigeretts my point i never got hooked now im 27 & have 2 kids and only just stating to understand how hard it is to get kids to be 100% with out feer
i try to treat my kids with love and respect if your kids respect you and you tell them your disapointed in them it herts far more than any other punishment

Answer 9

I am 18 and am even seeing that, and it disgusts me. I honestly thought I was the only one to notice that. Or parents who just do not care.

My mother and I where walking into the doctors office a few weeks back, and walking though the parking lot we saw a woman and her young son, he couldnt of been older then 6 walking out of the building. He started to sort of walk off to the side and she screamed, grabed his coat hood and pulled him across the parking lot, replying "get over here or I'm going to beat your ***". It just absoutly broke my heart, I couldnt believe it.

I do not understand why people have children if they dont want them, or are so against them.

I know that has just about nothing to do with what you said, but I guess it has to go with parents just not caring about there kids.

But yes there are so many parents, who are either partying with there children, letting them get drunk with them, letting there kids walk all over them, etc.

I've seen teen girls scream at there mothers in stores and telling them what to do, and the mothers just go right along with it. Watching a reality show on MTV, a young girl was getting a 100K+ birthday party, and her and her mother where shopping for a dress and she was screaming at her mother, she then told her to go sit down on the chair in the corner, her mother turned around and walked over and sat down.

It's disgusting. All while her mother was spending thouands on her dress, and hundreds of thousands on her brand new car and party.

Answer 10

Today , most parents are afraid to be parents , the kids boss them around, they think being best friends is a better way to go. I agree parents should wake up!