me and my ex have broke up over 20 times in 2 1/2 yrs. i have trust issues becuz of his lieing. well he wants to come back again. he says things will be different this time. he sayd he loves me wants to marry me, you know the whole nine yards. well i cant get him to understand that it wont work anymore. i hate to just cut him out of my life cuz he over all not a bad person, just not relationship material. he keeps coming on to me and making statement like im still his woman. he keeps trying to come back cuz i always gave in and let him come back in the past. what should i do ? like i said he not a bad person. he also use to gawk at women when we were together. i just dont trust him. how can i fix this problem. he just wont except that we can live together and make love anymore. what should i do?
2007-02-12 16:41:00 · 12 answers · asked by eaglestraces123 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ex are Ex for a reason keep on going and do not look back.
2007-02-12 16:45:16 · answer #1 · answered by Amie S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because you don't want to cut him completely out of your life you may be the one leading him on. Not intentionaly! But sometimes our actions speak louder than words and we may not always be consious of our actions. Unfortunatly most times old loves don't make the best of friends and putting distance between the two of you may be the best. You don't have to be hateful or nasty, but be firm in what you want him to undertand about the relationship. Hope everything works out for the best!
2007-02-13 00:54:36 · answer #2 · answered by bobblehead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your guns, Honey! Tell him that you've been looking for a date for him and will call when you find her. Tell him it just won't work out and that if he really cares for you, that he'd leave you alone. You don't mind him calling cause you care about him but not to come on to you any more because it hurts you. I kept everyguy that i ever broke up with as friends. They do come in handy at times. And i Always try to fix them up with other girls. They get the message quick.
2007-02-13 00:47:08 · answer #3 · answered by psws_12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you can be friends if he wants. but i dont think u should get back of him again. or find another boyfriend and iam sure he will back off whrn he knows u already move on. dont make any move that make him think thant u stiill love him.
if he still try to bother you, dont be friend with him until he will will accept that the two of you wont work.
i think that thats would i do in your case. good luck!
2007-02-13 00:47:39 · answer #4 · answered by NiCa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel strongly about ending it with him then you need to be strong. If he persists on pushing to be in your life it seems as if you will have no other choice but to cut him out completely. Breaks up are never easy esp. when one party is not ready to let go. Good luck to you and just remain strong!!
2007-02-13 00:46:37 · answer #5 · answered by Issym 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel. Explain about the trust issues and that you don't think that it would work. Give it some time, he'll see your point.
2007-02-13 00:46:11 · answer #6 · answered by Darcy R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you still love him in a way. give it time to see the way things go with him. if that don't work then good by to him
2007-02-13 00:48:35 · answer #7 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After too much damage , he has to accept that this cannot be fixed.
I can see you no longer love him the way you used too.
Until he can see that and accept it, you cannot even be friends.
2007-02-13 00:46:52 · answer #8 · answered by Venom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him what you just told us. that you think he's a great guy but you've broken up to many times and you don't think you two make a good couple.
2007-02-13 00:44:33 · answer #9 · answered by huhyftcgbjhu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should try talking it out or give it some time
2007-02-13 00:44:34 · answer #10 · answered by babygirl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋