i cant control how i act it is really wierd... When I am at school I am very quiet and actually people come up to me and ask me why i never talk. It feels like a stabbing pain in me to have to talk to other people except rarely with certain family members.. like, it is that hard just to talk i dont get it everyone else seems to talk to others willingly. when I meet new people I am really mean to them just so i wont have to talk to them later. When I am all alone by myself I can talk and say whatever and its fine but i wonder why i am not the way i am with myself when i am with other people. Im not self concious i dont care what other people think. Its actually hard to write something like this that gives this much inside information about myself. Im getting sick of living here. i hate school even though i have a 4.0 and got a 2140 on the sat. i thought about joining the army. I think maybe if i can just hold a gun and go fight it would be enough for my life. why am i like this?
2007-02-12 16:35:53 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
It sounds like you have an anxiety disorder known as "social anxiety". This doesn't make you "weird" or anything like that. It just means you need some help with this. Getting a good councillor is a start and telling them exactly what you just wrote. They should be able to help you much more than any answer you can get on here.
Good luck and God Bless..
2007-02-12 16:43:29 · answer #1 · answered by sweetiern34 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's just who you are. You're not hurting anyone right? When I was in highschool was exactly the same. People generally thought I was a cold person, I never talked. Even now in college I feel funny when I participate (which is surprisingly alot). To this day my face still turns red with I join a class discussion. But I just shrug it off. I was always a little cold to people I didn't know, especially boys. It wasn't that I didn't like them, or didn't want to be friends, but most of the time they made the wrong impression, or acted like an idiot, and that's just such a turn off. I hate the kind of people who think a good impression is playing a prank on you, or saying something ignorant about you that they think is funny or flirty. So alot of people assumed I was lonely, or didn't have any friends. But when I was with my few very close friends, I was totally different. I was sooooo clumsy around them. And I was always forgetting things. xD I guess they bring out the stupidiy in me. If you want to join the army. Then go for it if that's what would make you feel complete. You'd be commiting a patriotic act. There's nothing wrong with that.
Why are you like this? Why? GOOD GOD YOU CRAZY MAN WHY AREN'T YOU CONFORMING TO THE SOCIAL NORMS INSTEAD OF BEING YOURSELF!?!?!?? xD sarcasm there. You're fine just as you are. Don't change for other people, only change if that's what you want for yourself.
2007-02-13 01:59:22 · answer #2 · answered by Rin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not self conscious, then maybe you are angry. Do you have some kind of deep seated emotional pain, because of something that has happened to you? I think you could get a lot of help from a counsellor. You don't need to put up with this situation. I used to freeze when someone spoke to me at school, now I realise I was afraid that they would laugh at me if I said something dumb. My son is quiet, he was bullied at school, now we have changed schools and moved to the country. His friends from his old school can't believe how much he talks now. The new school is a lot nicer than the old one, people are more friendly and not so defencive. I don't think joining the army would help you much, and it could make it a lot worse. Talk to a family member about this whole thing. If they can't help you see a doctor and find out about counselling. You can have a happier life, and you don't deserve to be unhappy. You can do it. Good luck.
2007-02-13 00:53:00 · answer #3 · answered by Ripplediane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have your whole life ahead of you, They want to know why you don't talk but if you did they would say you talked to much. Its a catch 22. Try to find one single thing you enjoy to do.Don't worry about pleasing everyone else right now. Take some time for yourself. If you enjoy being alone make sure you give yourself a certain amount of time each day for that. In a month you may want to go to a movie. Make sure you make time for yourself to go to that movie. Eventually you will find a friend that enjoys doing the same things you do and at that time you will have no trouble having a conversion with them. I would also suggest finding the movie "What About Bob" with Bill Murray. I don't know how much it relates to you but it was really funny and Bill was seeking help in this movie.
2007-02-13 00:57:36 · answer #4 · answered by Claude P 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As someone special told Me "We All Love To Hate Ourselves". I'm not gunna say things get better or that things lighten up, personally, i've been going through it for years and i still don't have many answers. How Old Are You? i know your in school and you've taken the SAT so i'm gunna guess senior in HS. But who am I to assume. Quietness is nothing to be ashamed of. I'm quiet a lot. i show great respect to you considering you show your unhappiness, i live my life hiding it constantly, under laughs, and hugs and smiles. Kudos to you. I understand it's weird to let loose feelings over the internet...yup, it's weird, i find it easier though. I always do it in hopes that someone i know will read it and get mad at me so i can yell at something. Life's a really scary thing. I'm regretting being 13 and knowing and understanding so much. Joining the army will give you know pleasure, unless it's something you really really want to do. Doing it to get away from life is just going to bring you more depression. I want to live with my friend, she's got a family and not enough money to do it, but God i wish. do you go to church, damn it, it saved my life. I learned so much stuff just from going to church. (Christian.) I'm jealous of your good grades, i got one A, 2 B's, a C and 2 F's. even though i'm smart....really smart.
People always say "don't grow up too fast, you'll regret it" but what if we want to. What if we regret having a childhood. Personally, i'm ready to be out of college and living a life with responsibility. I wish i had so many more answers for you. Truth is, i'm stuck in the same position. except i'm probably a lot more loud. Hang in there.
Music is a great therapy, Augastana is a great choice. You just have to close your eyes and let your mind do the wandering.
"I'm going out to Boston
Gunna Get Out Af California
I'm so Tired of the Weather"
Boston-Augastana
2007-02-13 01:22:39 · answer #5 · answered by KimothyCullen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a disease you cannot cure--its called "clinical anxiety disorder" and its very treatable. Don't go to war just thinking I can go fight and hold a gun. You should go to war because of two reasons: 1) the draft-which we don't have now, and 2) because you strongly believe in the war being fought. It doesn't sound like should go to war, go to the doctor and get all better.
2007-02-13 00:50:00 · answer #6 · answered by Terry Z 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think that you are afraid of opening up it's ok for people to judge you for not talking to anyone but you dont want the rejection of them if they realy get to know you thats why it seems easyer online because realy you don't know anyone so if they judge you by who you realy are so what cause you'll never see them again but if someone you see everyday chooses to not like you because of who you realy are you will fell realy hurt so you just keep it all in.
2007-02-13 00:46:59 · answer #7 · answered by frosty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess doctor will help you better
2007-02-13 00:43:00 · answer #8 · answered by KiNgCoBrA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋